Liang Qichao: It is better to give children a lot of principles than to give them the power of habit.

The principle sounds simple, but it is difficult to do. Children have to live by habits. Each seemingly simple \”little habit\” is enough to change a child\’s life. It is better to give children a habit than to give them a bunch of principles. Understanding does not mean being able to do it recently. There is a popular saying on the Internet: \”You know a lot of truths, but you still can\’t live a good life.\” Since childhood, we have heard countless truths. We all know it, but we just can’t do it. How can you change your life if you can\’t do it? Is this true for adults, let alone children? Biological principles tell us: \”Understanding\” a truth is a kind of short-term memory: it only changes the synaptic function of the brain and lasts for a few hours. Long-term memory is a deeper structural change in the brain that allows children to truly \”do it\”. Every child is a living individual. They will also have fresh life experiences every day. Even the most general principles cannot apply to every child. Even if it applies at this moment, it may not apply at the next moment. Don’t just reason with your children. You need to reason with your children, but you can’t just reason with them. When faced with their children\’s bad habits, most of today\’s parents try to reason with them sincerely. But you must know that parents use their minds to think about life, while children use their feelings to understand the world. The thinker and educator Rousseau once said: \”The three most useless education methods in the world are: reasoning, losing temper, and deliberately moving.\” Reasoning is the most efficient education method. It will not only destroy the child\’s ability to think independently, but also cause the child to split between knowledge and action. A child\’s life cannot be sketched out one by one. The late teacher Confucius once said: \”A little success is like nature, and habits become natural.\” Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous educator, also said: \”What is education? To put it simply, it is just one sentence, which is to develop good habits.\” Parents should cultivate their children. \”Habit formation\” means that only by internalizing the principles into their habits can \”short-term memory\” be turned into \”long-term memory\” and the principles can be effective. The power of habit is enough to change your life. Liang Qichao can be said to be the most successful father in modern Chinese history: he has three academicians in one subject and nine sons are all talented. The eldest daughter Sishun is an expert in poetry research and former director of the Central Museum of Literature and History. The eldest son Sicheng is a famous architect and academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences. The second son, Siyong, is a famous archaeologist and academician of Academia Sinica. The third son, Sizhong, graduated from West Point Military Academy and participated in the Songhu Anti-Japanese War. The second daughter Sizhuang is a famous librarian. The fourth son, Sida, is a famous economist. The third daughter, Siyi, was the director of the External Liaison Department of the Red Cross Society of China. The fourth daughter, Sining, studied at Nankai University in her early years and later joined the revolution. Wuzi Sili is an expert in rocket control systems and an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences. No child can succeed casually! Liang Qichao wrote more than 400 letters home to his children throughout his life. From narrating family affairs to discussing current affairs; from eating delicious food to buying good books; from political difficulties to personal worries, with a total of more than one million words, he gave \”special attention\” to each child. Liang Qichao devoted all his time, money, and energy to the development of his children, regardless of the cost. He never talks empty words to his children, but cultivates them good habits in every aspect of life. Habit is a huge and tenacious force, enough to changeLife. Rome was not built in a day, and habits are not formed in a day. It takes 21 days for an adult to form a habit, let alone a young child. Don\’t ignore the daily details of life, have more patience and love, and water the young saplings.