The highest meaning of education is to cultivate happy ordinary people

Every time many relatives gather together during the Chinese New Year, the most common words they hear are: \”This child is so similar to his father. Not only does he look similar, but his personality and temper are exactly the same.\”, \”This child really follows his mother when he grows up.\” I will definitely live a good life.\” And so on. Some children look like their mothers, and some children look like their fathers. Is it really just genetic? The kind of person a parent is, the kind of person the child will grow into. This sentence has long been verified by countless examples. The impact of family education on children is far greater than that of school education. In the process of getting along with their children, parents have a great impact on their children in all aspects of life. Parental behavior and education ultimately determine what kind of person a child can become. Parents\’ behavior will be reflected on their children. If parents \”use dirty words\” when communicating with others, then the children will inevitably say dirty words. If the parents always lose their temper, the children will also become bad-tempered. This is also true as the saying goes, \”A dragon begets a dragon, a phoenix begets a phoenix, and mice are born to make holes.\” Parents\’ attitude towards their children will determine their children\’s psychology. Everyone has a different attitude towards society. Some people are positive and sunny, while others are negative and pessimistic. Some people even have a dark mentality, hate the rich, and are jealous of others. I remember there was news about a man who burned more than 20 luxury cars because he couldn’t see others being rich. Is this happening simply because of the uneven distribution of wealth? More importantly, his parents did not convey to him a positive attitude towards life. Parents always intentionally or unintentionally pass on a negative attitude towards life to their children. Instead of talking about the meaningful experiences of the day when they go home every day, they constantly complain about exhaustion and vent their dissatisfaction with work or leadership at home. . In daily life, complaints are greater than praises. Instead of praising delicious meals, you always pick on the occasional bad taste. Instead of letting your children feel the warmth of the sun during the day, you always complain about the cold rain at night. The negative energy that parents say casually and their negative attitude towards life are subtly affecting the immature minds of children. Most of the time, parents are the eyes of their children, sharing experiences and beautiful scenery with their children. The formation of their children\’s initial worldview is inseparable from their parents\’ teachings. A child\’s growth is a process from dependence to independence. The ultimate goal of educating children is to enable them to have a mature and positive attitude, correct outlook on life, and independent consciousness, so that they can live alone. Independence mainly includes personal independence and financial independence. Most parents neglect to cultivate their children\’s independent personality. Many parents impose their own expectations on their children, hoping that their children will become successful and stand out. They cannot read a book in a year, but they hope that their children will read every day and work from 9 to 5 in a job with no room for improvement. But I hope that my children will have a successful career. There is nothing wrong with expectations, but you are just an ordinary rooster, but you want your child to fly on a branch and become a phoenix. The education you give your child will be of minimal help to him. In the end, your child can only become the same as you. people. If you want to change your children and give them a good future, you must first change yourself. Read some books every day to enrich yourself and give yourselfSet a goal and keep working towards it. Your hard work can be seen by your children. If parents work so hard, why shouldn\’t your children work hard? I read a story: An eighty-year-old man enrolled in an English class. The teacher said to him: \”Old man, you are already eighty. You have been studying English for two years and you are eighty-two. What\’s the use?\” The old man asked: \”If I don\’t learn English, won\’t I be eighty-two in two years?\” It\’s never too late to work hard, as long as you have a heart to keep making progress. To be strict with your children, you must first be strict with yourself. The highest purpose of education is to cultivate happy ordinary people. Jack Ma said: \”The thing I regret most in my life is the founding of Alibaba.\” This sentence is understood by many people as the self-effacing or showing off of a successful person. In fact, it is not the case. How many successful people feel sad and helpless inside? How much effort is required for such a large enterprise to walk on the edge of a knife every day and put in unimaginable hard work. Not every child can become a dragon or a phoenix. Most people will eventually become ordinary people in this world. Being able to live a happy and healthy life is considered a successful life. Children are running desperately forward on the track of life, so parents should no longer put heavy burdens on their shoulders. There are tens of thousands of roads leading to the future. There is no need to follow the path you pointed out. A child is born with a blank piece of paper. Family education is like a parent holding a pen to write and draw on the paper. There is no eraser or correction fluid, and every stroke must be done carefully. When the child finally has the ability to draw on it, please return the pen to the child. After all, he will write his life.