Sun Li’s Weibo with 300,000 likes contains 4 pieces of parenting knowledge

Sun Li posted a Weibo post two days ago and received 300,000 likes… Netizens left messages saying that Deng Chao is such a good father. However, I caught a glimpse of 4 parenting tips in this Weibo post. \”Our understanding of love is to be together, accompany, listen, and respect each other. We all hope that our children will be loving children in the future, so first let the children feel love and let them grow up in a loving environment.\” There is a father Children who accompany them are happier. Psychologist Gerdi said: \”The presence of a father is a unique existence and has a special power in cultivating children.\” Sun Li once complained that Deng Chao played a live version of Plants vs. Zombies with his children at home. , the result was that the house was shaken. \”He hung my foot bath bucket on his head, found all the stuffed animals in the house, and asked the two children to throw them at him. They had a great time, but at home… the lights on the roof were shaking, and the water glasses on the table were shaking. Shaking, the dogs kept barking, and they screamed with joy… The game was over, the zombies lay down, and the two children swarmed up and started to have a carnival, and the three of them got into a ball…\” Looking at the family The ground was in a mess. Even though Sun Li was going crazy, the satisfaction of an old mother was self-evident. In this world, what is more beautiful than the laughter of children? And this kind of joy comes from dad\’s attentive company, which is even more valuable for children. A father who is interesting, playful, and willing to spend time with his children is the best toy for his children. Writer Liang Fengyi said: \”When you are afraid, your father is a stepping stone; when it is dark, your father is a lighting lamp; when you are withered, your father is a gulf of water of life; when you work hard, your father is your spiritual support; when you are successful, your father is , and father is encouragement and warning.\” The child\’s knowledge is half inherited from the mother and half from the father. If maternal love is a huge flame, father\’s love is an ever-changing stream of water. Only with the blending of water and fire can we cultivate children with healthier personalities. The most beautiful gesture of education is to listen. How important is it to listen to children? I saw such a story online. A little girl in the third grade of elementary school has been making noises for a while and is afraid of ghosts and dare not sleep alone. Every time, her mother comforted her and said that there are no ghosts in this world. One night before going to bed, the little girl came to her parents\’ room again and said she was very scared. This time, the father did not tell the girl, \”There are no ghosts in the world.\” Instead, he asked her, \”What does the ghost that scares you look like?\” The daughter said, \”It\’s black and invisible. When you look at it, you can\’t see it.\” Disappeared.\” Then the father continued to chat with her for a long time, and finally got an important piece of information: his daughter often encountered this ghost on the way home from school. This aroused the father\’s alarm. For several days, he went outside the school in advance to wait for his children to finish school to see what was going on. As a result, he saw a middle-aged man wearing a black hat stalking his daughter. Dad decisively called the police, but he was still frightened afterwards. If that night, the father was just like the mother and just comforted the child with a few words, what would have happened next?I dare not even think about it. And what kind of father is this father? The child\’s mother said: \”In his daily life, he is always patient and listens to children\’s nonsense. He will never deny the child casually, even if what the child says is absurd based on common sense.\” \”Listening to Children\” Huifule, the author of the book \”Psychological Adjustment in the Family\” said: \”In order to allow children to grow in personality and mental health during childhood and adolescence, parents must learn to listen to their children.\” Without \”response\”, it is not education. Listening is a flow of emotion and a convergence of emotions. Only by learning to listen to children and giving them a chance to talk can we get into a child\’s heart, understand his thoughts, and sense his emotions. Listening is the most beautiful gesture in education. It is acceptance, understanding, and love. Just like respecting adults, respecting children has a very popular topic on the Internet: Which parents have you seen who were surprised by your education methods? A Zhihu netizen shared his story. She said that there was a time when she liked to write a diary, and she also imitated her classmates by deliberately placing the diary on the desk and locking it with her hair. However, more than a week has passed and no one has touched the diary. Instead, her mother reminded her: \”The diary is your privacy, you have to keep it yourself. Your grandma will never read my diary, and I will not secretly visit yours.\” When she was in high school, she fell in love early, and her mother Not only did he have no objection, but he was also willing to listen to her share sweet things about love and help her analyze the reasons for the quarrel. She asked her mother, why didn\’t you say break my legs at that time? My mother said: \”Rather than guarding you as if you were your enemy, my mother hopes to help you have a smoother and more positive relationship… I believe in my daughter\’s sense of responsibility for herself the most. You will not delay yourself because of love.\” future.\” How happy is it to have such a mother? She said with emotion: \”Her education to me is entirely based on trust and respect for an equal and independent personality. I am very grateful and fully aware of my luck. She is my biggest attachment in the world, and I embrace her.\” Love, I know that I will never be alone at any time.\” In addition to being the children of their parents, children are also independent individuals with their own ideas, hobbies, and thoughts. Being a parent is not about putting on a high profile as a parent and talking to your children about right and wrong. It is about communicating with your children based on respect and providing correct guidance in a timely manner. The best family education starts with respecting children. Love based on respect is the highest quality love we can give our children. Parents love each other, and children understand love better. I saw a question on Zhihu: How do children feel when their parents have a bad relationship all their lives? A psychology teacher replied like this: \”Do you know why I studied psychology? Because my parents have a bad relationship! The seemingly complete, but actually distorted family makes me extremely painful, scratching my heart and lungs in pain, and I can\’t find it. Only those books on psychology, reading those theories, and looking at those cases can relieve my discomfort.\” Adler, the master of psychology, said: Lucky people are healed by childhood throughout their lives; unfortunate people are healed by childhood throughout their lives. In Healing Childhood. Husband and wife are homeCourtyard architect. A family with loving parents is like a warm embrace, which not only gives children a sense of security, but also allows them to learn to love. Children who are raised with love know how to express love better. Previously, Sun Li\’s Weibo post received 500,000 likes, which opened people\’s eyes: it turns out that children who have witnessed their parents\’ love are so warm. \”I love your mother, you are the most beautiful in the world.\” Waiting for the letter written to Sun Li, although the handwriting is childish, the love is sophisticated. In fact, this is not the first time that Wait has expressed his love to his mother. How do you raise children who are so loving and able to express love? If you want your children to have love in the future, you must first let them feel love and let them grow up in a loving environment. Browsing through Sun Li and Deng Chao\’s Weibo, you can see that the deep love is hidden in the interactions between the two. As a couple, they can not only make fun of each other in a non-serious way, but also show off their affection in a serious way. They have been married for 9 years, doting on each other, and admiring each other for 9 years. Now, all the beauty has not turned into loving memories, but has been passed on to the children like a trickle. American scholar Theodore Martin Hesburgh said: \”As a father, the best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother.\” As a mother, this is true. Yang Jiang mentioned in \”Our Qian Yuan\” that once she and Qian Zhongshu took their daughter to a restaurant for dinner. When her daughter Qian Yuan saw a pair of parents quarreling at the next table, she said to her parents with emotion: \”I always think that children whose parents love each other are very lucky, because she has seen what a good relationship looks like, and thus has a good understanding of health. I have a keen sense of love, and then I know how to run in the right direction. So I am especially grateful to my parents, because you love each other and play the piano, so I feel that I am a lucky child.\” I saw this passage on the Internet: Educate children , that is, squatting down to talk, holding hands to communicate, and holding hands to teach. Squatting down to speak is a form of respect and empathy, trying to see the world and problems from a child\’s perspective. Holding and communicating is a form of acceptance. I may not agree with your behavior, but I will always love you as a person. Holding hands education is a kind of example and demonstration. There is no better education than this. Under the guidance of love, the family accompanies, listens, respects, and grows together in full love.