Divorce of parents is always a burden that children cannot bear

When Xiaoyu was very young, his parents separated due to emotional discord. Xiaoyu\’s father was unwilling to take on the heavy responsibility of raising the child, and Xiaoyu\’s mother left sadly. He was raised by his grandmother. Grandma took pity on Xiaoyu and doted on him very much, not wanting to say a harsh word to him. Blindly loving but neglecting to discipline eventually led to future tragedies. Xiaoyu dropped out of high school before finishing high school and was idle. During a quarrel, the young and energetic man picked up a wine bottle on the table and threw it at the other person\’s head. The man fell and never got up again. Xiaoyu was also imprisoned because of this. You may never know how much the breakdown of a family affects children. 1. Children may feel guilty, especially toddlers and preschoolers. They often feel that the responsibility lies with them. They may think that their father left home because they were disobedient, and that their mother is crying because they have done something wrong. Xiao He divorced her husband last year and raised her 7-year-old son alone. She didn\’t want to hide it from her son, and she really didn\’t know how to answer his question \”Where is daddy?\”, so she told her son as calmly as possible that she would be separated from his dad for a while. The son cried as soon as he heard this: \”Did I make my dad angry because of my misbehavior? Did I make him angry last time by insisting on a toy? Please call dad back. I will definitely be obedient in the future, woo hoo.\” Son. Xiao He cried himself to sleep. Looking at his son with tears on his face, Xiao He felt distressed and helpless. 2. May be withdrawn, depressed, and depressed. Xiaotian is 10 years old this year. His parents divorced six months ago, and he lives with his mother. After her parents divorced, Xiaotian became taciturn. It was hard for his mother to find time to take him out to play, and it was hard to see his smiling face. His favorite toys have long been covered in dust, and his favorite comic books have been thrown away. He no longer plays with the neighborhood children and is always alone. Xiaotian\’s mother was very worried about her son. She wanted to see the lively and smiling Xiaotian again, but she was helpless. 3. Insecure, sensitive and autistic. Xiaoya, the daughter of a friend who is autistic, is a sophomore in high school this year. Two days ago, she went to her daughter after school, and her daughter’s classmate Xiaoyu stopped by and came back together. The two girls were having a good conversation on the way, but a friend interrupted: \”Xiaoya\’s father has made a lot of delicious food at home, Xiaoyu, you can come and try it too.\” As soon as he finished speaking, Xiaoyu\’s face darkened, he didn\’t respond to a word, and said goodbye to us in a hurry at the next intersection. My friend was a little confused. At this time, Xiaoya said: \”Her father seems to have found another girl. He just divorced her mother. When you mentioned my father, it reminded her of her own home. She must have felt uncomfortable.\” Friend Looking at Xiaoyu\’s leaving figure, I felt a pang of distress. 4. High emotional ups and downs, affecting academic performance. Xiao Song was originally a good boy with both good character and academic performance, and was always among the best in the class. When he was in the third year of junior high school, his parents\’ relationship broke down. They were arguing or fighting all day long, and they eventually divorced. At that time, Xiao Song suddenly felt that his world had collapsed, and his complete family had now become fragmented. He was particularly sad and wanted to reconcile his parents, but the former couple had become enemies and it was difficult to get back together. Xiao Song was very shocked. He was in a daze all day and his mind was not on studying at all. He started skipping classes, became addicted to the Internet, and his grades plummeted. During the high school entrance examination, originallyHe was very promising but failed to enter a key high school. 5. Influence on children’s views on marriage and love. My friend Xiaoran is a pretty girl with a good personality. During her four years in college, many boys chased her, but she never fell in love. She is still single at the age of 26. One time when we were chatting and this topic came up by chance, I couldn\’t hold back my curiosity and asked her: \”You are in such good condition, why don\’t you find a boyfriend? Are you too ambitious?\” She sighed and told her story experience. It turned out that her mother was a victim of domestic violence, and her father always punched and kicked her when she was angry outside or after drinking. My mother tried to persuade me several times, and after enduring it for a few years, I finally couldn\’t stand it anymore and divorced my father. Mom and Dad were very loving before they got married, but after getting married, due to the pressure of life, their relationship changed. Her mother\’s tragic experience made her unable to trust men, let alone marriage. She said, I would rather live well alone than meet a scumbag and ruin my life. The child is still young, and his parents are almost his whole world. One can imagine the damage that his parents\’ separation has done to him. There is really no need to continue a marriage that really cannot last. But after parents divorce, they must pay attention to the physical and mental care of their children, and let them understand that although your marriage is over, your love for him continues. Helping children regain their sense of security in life and future is what parents of divorced families should do most for their children!