How to educate your children well?

In addition to attaching importance to the transition from close relatives in a small family to a large family, Chinese families also attach greater importance to the transition from biological satisfaction to cultural integration. The Chinese have long known that they use culture to hide biological phenomena and actions. We know that any animal has biological physiological needs, so birds also have nests and animals also have nests. However, human beings have families not only for reproduction, protection and survival, but also to form division of labor and cooperation among family members and produce family culture. There are intangible and tangible cultures. The determination between husband and wife to be good parents and the influence between relatives and friends on upbringing mentioned earlier are all intangible parts. What we need to care about now is the tangible part, and a very important one is whether the home equipment is reasonable? Regarding family arrangement, we put forward the concept that improvement beforehand is better than remedy afterward. We would rather think more thoroughly in advance and think from the perspective of raising children to avoid adverse effects afterwards, and we must try our best to remedy it. We also put forward five principles for your reference: 1. Don’t ask for a big home, but ask for enough space. Some people say that there is always one room missing in the home. No matter how big it is, it always feels like it is not enough. Therefore, we put forward the principle of \”Don\’t ask for a big house, but ask for enough space\”. The main reason is to hope that we will not follow our desires. If the house we live in is big, we should ask for a bigger house, because human desires are endless, no matter how big it is, Always feel unsatisfied. It\’s better to think the other way around, don\’t ask for big things, just ask for enough. Change your mind from the size and layout of the house to a warm, harmonious and pleasant family environment. Keeping your children physically and mentally healthy and growing up happily is more important than the size of the house. Whether it is enough or not is actually difficult to evaluate. When actually used, most of them feel that they are not enough. It can be seen that it is quite difficult to ask for sufficient use, and it is probably just barely enough, which is about it. The reasons why we don’t want to live in a big house are: on the one hand, it is no longer easy to simply buy a house. If we ask for a bigger house, many people simply cannot do it; on the other hand, it is also to prevent our children from getting used to living in a big house, and living in a small house in the future will be very difficult. sad. It is better to let the children live in a smaller house first, with some constraints, which will be more helpful to the children. The house is too big, and it will take a lot of time to tidy it up. If it is not tidied up, it will create mess, which is not conducive to the growth of the children. So just enough is enough, no big requirements are required. The purpose of education by British educator Whitehead PDF2: All furniture should not be luxurious and must be suitable for the living standards of the people who use it. It is easy to adapt from frugality to luxury; but it is very difficult to return from luxury to frugality. Therefore, it is best not to have luxurious and extravagant furniture at home, so as not to develop the comfortable living habits of your children. If they encounter difficulties when they grow up, it will be very difficult to live a more frugal life. The selection of furniture is best based on three main principles, which are safety, comfort and practicality. Safety first, this is a principle that parents must firmly grasp. Parents cannot use regulations to protect the safety of their children. Especially when the children are young, parents should regard the safety of their children as their responsibility, rather than placing the responsibility for safety on their children. The requirement for comfort is originally a requirement in life. After work, sit and lie down comfortably, and then restIt is also a good thing to work hard. Making the furniture more comfortable to use should be of great help to the warmth, harmony and happiness of the family. Comfort but not luxury is the second principle when choosing furniture. It should be easier to determine whether it is safe or unsafe. It is difficult to determine whether it is comfortable or not. So the third principle is practicality. Because the situation of each family is different, the standards for appropriateness and inappropriateness cannot be consistent. Parents must consider their own conditions and determine their own suitability criteria to select the furniture they need. 3. If possible, children should also have their own room. A child’s experience in the first year after birth will determine his growth and self-awareness. When a baby is born, generally European and American families will arrange the baby\’s room first and let the baby sleep alone in his own room from the beginning. It is the opinion of Europeans and Americans that babies should not sleep with their parents so as not to affect the life of the couple. Chinese people are not like this. After our babies are born, most of them sleep with their parents. If the father is worried that the baby will cry and make noise at night and not be able to sleep well, and will be depressed at work the next day, then the father will sleep alone and let the baby sleep with the mother to facilitate care. Most modern Chinese take a compromise approach, letting babies sleep in their own cribs but still in the same room as their parents. To cultivate an independent spirit in your children, you don’t have to rush to make them independent as soon as they are born. It is more in line with human nature to gradually let go step by step and gradually develop the habit of independence step by step. Our goal is \”Only when there is dependence among independence can we cooperate with others; only when there is independence among dependence can we not lose ourselves.\” After all, people are gregarious animals. Being too independent will make you feel out of tune with others, which is not good. After he grows up as a child, try to give him a separate room as much as possible. On the one hand, he can cultivate more independent habits, and on the other hand, he can also train some neat and clean habits early on. Even if there is no way for your children to have a separate room, you should make a space for your children at home. 4. Children should have tables and chairs for doing homework, as well as bookcases for common use. \”If you want to do your job well, you must first sharpen your tools.\” Children are required to do their homework on time. Of course, they must prepare tables and chairs for them to do homework. Make a habit of sitting down and doing your homework quietly. Cultivating the habit of timing and positioning from an early age can reduce a lot of trouble before and after the event. Therefore, books and utensils should have a fixed place to place them, and they must be returned to their original places after being moved to avoid searching here and there, which wastes time, affects emotions, and sometimes causes disputes. At the beginning, everyone used a bookcase together and assigned everyone\’s position. On the one hand there is the concept of sharing, on the other hand there is the constraint of keeping score. Of course, joint maintenance of cleanliness is one of the key points of education. If you want your children to achieve success in the future, you must provide a good reading environment as early as possible. It is best to open up a space at home specifically for children to play and read. Buy some books such as \”Plant World\”, \”Animal Wonders\”, \”Undersea Exploration\”, \”Space Universe\”, \”Mysteries of the Human Body\”, etc. and put them in the reading room for your children to read; you can also buy some educational toys. , to cultivate good temperament and inspire children\’s intelligence, which will definitely have a positive impact on future life.great help. If you cannot arrange a reading room, you should at least give your children a place to do homework and study. At least arrange a suitable set of desks and chairs for them, and share a bookcase with each other, so that children can develop the habit of reading and doing homework regularly and in a targeted manner. Habit. 5. Home decoration should be simple and tidy, and no facilities such as bars should be installed. What is the purpose of home decoration? This is an important question. To show off your wealth? To show one\’s status? Or for a normal life? If the answer is for normal life, neither for exhibition nor for showing off, then the home decoration should be bright, smooth, comfortable, safe, and practical, and everything should be simple, plain, and easy to keep tidy. The principle is that it does not have to be luxurious, let alone extravagant. The living rooms of some families are furnished with large luxurious velvet sofas, world-famous wines displayed on the wine cabinets, and colorful mirrors embedded on the walls. I would like to ask, how can you feel relaxed and comfortable living in such an environment? It is the responsibility of parents to provide a family environment suitable for the growth and development of their children. Parents should have the concept of childbirth and education, and improve themselves step by step. Birth is just procreation. Giving birth to children is nothing special. Raising means providing for children\’s material needs, which is already quite difficult. Teaching means educating children to distinguish right from wrong and to be useful people, which is not easy. Guidance is to lead by example, to guide children on the right track and to become an upright person, which is of course very difficult. It is already rare for ordinary parents to be able to give birth and raise children. If you want to further educate your children, you must be very cautious as their children\’s spiritual mentors. Sometimes you also need to restrain your own desires and restrain your own words and deeds, just like a wine cabinet, Things like bars cannot be placed at home.