What should I do if my ten-month-old baby is very unfamiliar with birth?

Introduction When walking my baby, I met an acquaintance and wanted to say hello, but my baby was shy and hid behind us. If the other person is too enthusiastic, the child may even resist and cry, making the situation very embarrassing. Sometimes the other person doesn\’t express much, so we parents feel embarrassed at first and have to start teaching our children \”not to be timid\”, \”to be polite\”, and \”to say hello when meeting acquaintances\”. In fact, sometimes it’s really not the child’s problem. During the normal emotional development of a baby, it is normal to recognize the baby. There is even a professional term \”stranger anxiety\”. But this behavior is often misunderstood. Table of Contents Recognition of birth is the only way for babies to recognize their children. Parents can do this without recognizing the birth of their children. Do they need to pay attention? Generally speaking, babies in the first few months of life can be said to be the most \”friendly\” and they treat everyone without distinction. Whether an acquaintance or a stranger, just looking at, nodding, or talking will make the baby happy. As children continue to grow up, their brain development gradually improves, and their memory and cognitive abilities also develop. This is the stage where they have choices about people. Babies at this time can distinguish between \”unfamiliar\” and \”familiar\” faces and feel safe and attached to the latter, such as their own mother. At 6 to 7 months, the child will start to recognize birth. Their screams and cries of resistance are due to the instinctive fear of natural danger hidden in their bodies. For them, a strange environment and strange relatives mean unknown dangers and injuries. To a certain extent, the behavior of \”recognizing life\” is a genetic instinct and the result of evolution for better survival. Of course, this \”strangeness\” is defined by the baby. This explains why some babies are frightened just by seeing their mother change her hairstyle and their father grow a beard. Generally speaking, \”stranger anxiety\” gradually becomes apparent when a child is 8 months old, so some psychologists also call it \”eight-months anxiety\”. For most children, the recognition period ends at about 1 and a half to 2 years old. There are also children who hardly recognize childbirth. However, almost every baby will experience this innate stage. It\’s just that the severity varies. Regarding this age characteristic, parents do not need to blame their children for being \”naturally timid\” or \”lack of exercise\”. As for the idea that \”children born after birth are smarter\”, there is no precise scientific basis. [Authoritative Classic Collection] How to Improve Emotional Intelligence and Social Skills Picture Book learnig to get along 15 volumes PDF+MP3+Translation 2: Parents can do this to deal with children’s recognition of their children. When children enter the “stranger anxiety period”, if parents use the wrong method, it will not only be detrimental to their children Smoothly passing through this period will also affect the child\’s future personality development and social interactions. Parents can take the following measures to deal with children\’s recognition of strangers: 1. Do not force children to get along with strangers, and use other methods to replace greetings. When children show signs of recognition, the worst thing to do is for parents to deliberately Let the baby and the unfamiliarSay hello to familiar people. Doing so will only deepen your baby\’s anxiety. Babies have not yet developed a complete sense of interpersonal interaction in early childhood. They cannot understand that people live in groups and must interact with others, and saying hello is one of the ways. The only world they are familiar with is their parents, elders and a few friends. Other than that, they don\’t care. Greeting people seems unnecessary to them. At this time, they need patient guidance from their parents. If the child is really unwilling to speak, you can ask the child to shake hands or smile instead, or simply take over the conversation for him and allow the child to avoid it for a while. By the time the farewell is over, the child may no longer feel strange, so he can try to say \”goodbye\” to the other person. 2. Avoid blindly \”obedient education\” and don\’t put negative labels on children. Let\’s talk about greeting itself. Meeting adults is an adult\’s business, why do you have to force children to join in every time? Excessive etiquette not only increases children\’s worries and pressure, but also consumes their internal energy for no reason. If the child is habitually called \”introverted\” or \”shy\” because of his \”stranger anxiety\”, the parent\’s original intention may be to resolve the temporary embarrassment, but the child will default to the fact that he is indeed \”timid\” and \”unlovable\”. Under the long-term psychological suggestion, children may have problems with self-understanding and may develop into nervousness when meeting people, let alone speaking in public. Another type of children may develop rebellious emotions and become impatient after hearing negative labels. After this unpleasant experience is added up, the children will refuse to socialize even if they are no longer anxious about strangers. Therefore, when we describe a child, whether in front of the child or not (when you are chatting with others and the child hears you saying something bad about him, the child will feel even more uncomfortable), at least we must use neutral words, such as \”My baby is relatively Be cautious and observe clearly that there is no danger before playing with others. This is very good for protecting yourself.” 3. Give corresponding hints and companionship in a timely manner, so that the child can feel the support of the attachment figure. Family members are the people who accompany and care for the child the most, especially the parents. There will be a strong bond called \”attachment relationship\” between the baby and the baby. Making your baby feel trustworthy and always providing emotional support will help your baby develop a secure attachment model. If there is someone the child is not familiar with, parents can say hello to the child in advance or introduce the person to the child, such as \”Uncles and aunts are coming to see the baby today\” or \”Mom\’s good friends are coming, but the baby is not required.\” Scared.\” Don\’t stop talking just because your child is still young and you think he doesn\’t understand or doesn\’t understand. This kind of hint is very useful in alleviating the baby\’s fear. Even if they cannot fully understand the language, by observing the expression and tone of the attachment object, they will judge the relationship between the stranger and the attachment object, thereby reducing the feeling of uneasiness. When children get along with strangers, parents can also hold their children\’s hands or hold their children. In short, they can give their children enough sense of security to make them feel that their parents will always be by their side. The company of family members is always the best reassurance for children. 4. Appropriately engage in same-age socialization and contact with adults. Babies around 1 year old will already begin to observe children of the same age around them. At around 2 years old, babies, they will not be so resistant to strangers. At this time, we can encourage children to enjoy friendship and let them feel their social needs as \”people\”. Inviting friends of the same age to your home can be a good choice. Even if the baby\’s social level is still at the level of playing with each other, and even \”fighting\” over grabbing toys, this is already a great progress in the baby\’s socialization. Parents only need to stop it in time and demonstrate the correct social method in front of their children. Or guide babies to participate in cooperative games such as puzzles and building blocks. Parents can also take their children to places where other children of the same age play, which can be a playground or just a community garden, so that the baby can find a suitable way of socializing and expand his social circle. Even if the child is \”slow to warm up\”, I believe he will be able to integrate into playing a few times a week. Many times, we will find that children are not afraid of other children because they naturally think that children are in the same group. They are just afraid of adults. Therefore, just interacting with children cannot completely solve this problem. At this time, parents can, on the premise of protecting their children, let their children observe what other adults are doing and let them understand that others will not hurt them. Slow contact and more contact can alleviate this problem. Remember not to let other people , approaching or touching the child without the child\’s permission. San is not acquainted with life at all. Do we need to pay attention? Some parents will say that it is normal to recognize children, but is their child stupid if he does not recognize children at all? Can\’t tell the difference between yourself and outsiders? Haha, not really. The development of babies\’ social skills is regular, but individual differences are also obvious. Just like adults, there are also \”social phobias\” and \”social bullies\”. These children are extroverted and unrestrained, so they will not recognize others. As a parent, you should take care of your baby\’s feelings and provide active guidance to better cultivate your baby\’s social skills. In addition, some babies have frequently come into contact with adults outside their family since they were young, and others are friendly and enthusiastic towards them. They may not have or have a very short recognition stage, and they will be ignored by everyone. There is no sign of recognition of life. As long as the baby grows well and develops normally, such as interacting well with family members, smiling when happy, crying when unhappy, and asking family members for help when needed, then it doesn\’t matter whether he recognizes the baby or not. Over.