On the surface, you seem to have such true love for your child, but in fact, it is persecution.

Today, I read a report about a 74-year-old man in Luzhou who refused to let his daughter go to school and taught his daughter at home for 11 years. This is not the first time such a report has been reported, and I’m afraid it won’t be the last either. I have seen similar reports before: some parents choose to keep their children at home and educate themselves when their children should go to kindergarten; some parents choose to keep their children out of school when their children should go to school, and several parents take turns teaching them. … There are some successful children educated by this kind of education. For example, there is a child who did not go to school for one day and was admitted to a prestigious foreign school. However, there is no follow-up report on how the child developed after attending a prestigious foreign school. This is an example of success in a worldly sense. Those parents who choose not to send their children to school think that they are protecting their children well and that theirs is true love. However, I thought that this was not love, but persecution of their children. Why do you say that? There are many reasons here: Can the parents teach? Are parents’ knowledge incomplete? Whether the parents\’ knowledge can keep pace with the times… These are important factors, but not the most important. The most important thing is that the parents\’ actions take away the children\’s opportunities to grow up. What are your opportunities to grow? When you encounter problems, solve them by yourself; get in touch with children of the same age and learn to make friends and get along with each other; see all kinds of people and things in the big environment and adapt to the development of the environment; constantly adjust your goals and goals based on your own experience and knowledge direction; in doing things, learn to take care of your own affairs… Most parents who choose not to send their children to school feel that the children they educate are better than those educated in schools in all aspects, so that the children can avoid harm or bad external environments. Influence. The results are often unsatisfactory. Because it violates the natural growth laws. Without contact with the external environment, people and things, and just relying on theoretical theories on paper, it is impossible for children to grow up healthily. Parents have held their children in their hands for more than ten years, shielding him or her from all possible harm from the outside world during this period, but what happens after that? What do you do when your child needs to walk on his own? What should we do when our parents get old? Without the protection of their parents, the road ahead for these children will be much more difficult than for ordinary children. Those thunders that were forced upon me when I was a child will continue to explode when I grow up. You can imagine how tragic it is. Talking like this is a bit of an armchair exercise. Let’s take the simplest example: a child has a cold and a fever. Most parents today know that colds and fevers in children are the most common diseases for children. Doctors generally recommend not taking medicine or injections if the temperature is below 38.5℃. Below this temperature, choose physical cooling or drinking water to cool down. But not every parent understands this. When I went back to my hometown last year, my neighbor\’s child, who was three or four years old, caught a cold almost once a month. Each time he caught a cold, he had to hang himself in a bottle for three days. When asked about the reason, the parents said they didn’t know why they caught colds so easily. When they caught a cold, the parents were very anxious and asked the doctor to give them the best medicine to prevent their children from suffering. I used my little knowledge to tell her that a cold usually takes about a week to recover, regardless of whether or not he takes medicine. Try not to give your child medicine and injections as soon as he comes up, otherwise the child\’s own resistance will be gone.It will be easy to catch a cold in the future and not easy to recover from. She looked at me suspiciously and said that all the children here are like this. When winter comes, the small clinics are full of children getting injections. Now there are only one or two children in each family. Who dares to drag them away? This is how parents who don’t understand handle things. Even if parents understand it, it is not easy to implement it. I once discussed this issue with a friend. I said that my child had a cold when he was less than one year old. I insisted that the child not take medicine. However, the child’s father and grandparents couldn’t bear to see the child in pain. Several people negotiated over this issue over and over again, which almost caused a quarrel. Unexpectedly, several friends said they had similar experiences. The family almost turned against each other over the issue of whether their child should take medicine or get an injection for a cold. No one is wrong, it\’s all for the good of the children, it\’s just a difference in concepts. In order to prevent their children from catching colds, many parents have taken a lot of protective measures. They will not let their children go out when the weather is cold. They will not be exposed to the wind and do not move to avoid sweating and catching cold… For the sake of their children, parents take very good care of them. As a result, the children do not go out easily. You will definitely catch a cold as soon as you go out… This is the truth mentioned above. It is the child\’s responsibility. Parents try their best to prevent him or her from it. In the short term, it may have effects, such as less colds and less suffering. In the long run, this is harmful to children. The child is not exposed to the outside world and is not exposed to the wind. Once exposed to the outside world and exposed to the wind, he or she will be the first victim. When a child catches a cold, he or she must rely on external forces. Without the ability to resist, the child will be controlled by external forces throughout his or her life. What about when external forces cannot resist the virus? Parents\’ protection of their children may sound like love, but in fact it is selfish. They regard their children as their own private property instead of an independent person. They try every means to control their children and keep their children tied to them. Some parents even proudly show off to others: When I was raising my child, I never made him fall down; When I was raising my child, I never made him cry; When I was raising my child, I never made him suffer any injustice. . Then, listening to other people\’s praises, he led his children home with satisfaction. In fact, what I want to say is that you are a real failure as a parent. Excessive protection and consideration of children is persecution.