If parents can treat themselves as children! Get twice the result with half the effort on the road to parenting

\”Childlike innocence\” seems to be a distant thing for most parents. Whenever parents frown and angrily reprimand their children for soiling their shoes and pants by playing in the water on a rainy day, it seems to be a natural and natural thing. But parents may not have thought about it, and their children may not understand: Why do their parents disapprove of such a fun thing? \”They ran to the same house with excitement. They wanted to tell their parents about some interesting situations while playing in the water and let their parents share their happiness. However, they were poured cold water on them. Such parents can only be parents forever. role, and cannot become a \”big child\” who can play with their children. In fact, the failure of some parents in educating their children is often due to the lack of childlike innocence. Parents often look at their children from the perspective of adults. In fact, children have their own world and they are interested in everything. It feels novel, but some parents make their children \”behave\” and always want to turn their children into \”little adults\”. They always think that such children are models of good children. However, this kind of education that is divorced from age characteristics can easily cause two The gap between generations has caused a mutual incomprehension between parents and children. How can it not fail? Although there are many reasons for \”incomprehension\” between parents and children, such as changes in the times, the amount of experience, etc., this cannot be the reason for failure. To eliminate this gap as much as possible, parents should try to treat themselves as children and take the initiative to establish a close partnership with their children, so that they can better provide necessary guidance and education to their children. Then , how can parents make themselves closer to their children? First of all, parents must understand their children\’s psychology. If you don\’t understand your children\’s psychology, you will not have childlike innocence. Although you do everything for your children, it is difficult to achieve it. Good results. The child wanted to have a snowball fight with the children on a snowy day, but the mother was afraid that the child would catch cold and locked him in the room. The child begged: \”Mom, let me play for a while, and I will come back after playing for a while.\” But my mother said: \”It\’s cold outside, be careful of catching a cold.\” They are older than you and will bully you. You have so many toys, play with yourself at home!\” So the child cried sadly… Some children insisted on using their own electric toys to exchange for the clay figurines in the children\’s hands, and some children would devote all their efforts to raising a tadpole. When you see a puppy on the roadside, you want to take it home and raise it… These things may seem unbelievable to adults, but they are normal for children. The world of children is also colorful, and every child has it. One\’s own unique thoughts and feelings can also lead to happiness, uneasiness, sadness, etc. \”Bad\” parents believe that only by understanding the psychology of their children can they understand their children\’s hearts and take the initiative in education; otherwise, rebellious psychology will occur , or even be resented by the child, which is thankless. Secondly, \”bad\” parents should know their children\’s requirements. Parents must not take it for granted to speculate on their children\’s thoughts. Many parents think they know their children very well and think that Children\’s needs are nothing more than some toys, cartoon CDs, etc. In fact, this kind of thinking does not understand children\’s performance. For example, a survey in the United States listed the needs of several children, making themMany parents are surprised. These requirements are: Don’t quarrel when children are present; Give equal love to each child and don’t be partial; Parents must be humble and understanding to each other; Parents and children must maintain a harmonious relationship A close relationship; Welcome your child\’s friends when they come to visit your home; Try to answer your child\’s questions as comprehensively as possible; Do not talk about your child\’s faults in front of your child\’s friends; Pay attention to observing and praising your child\’s strengths, and do not Overemphasis on shortcomings; love for children should be stable, not hot and cold, and don\’t lose your temper at every turn… From these innocent requests of the child, it is not difficult to see that, in fact, in the world of children, we adults also have The unexpected side, therefore, parents must sincerely understand their children’s real requirements before they can talk about whether they can meet their children’s requirements. Otherwise, even if parents wishfully believe that they have given the entire world to their children, the children may not necessarily be happy. Only when parents try to treat themselves as children can they understand their children\’s needs more accurately. Thirdly, a clever trick for \”bad\” parents is to often recall their childhood, which can help regain their lost innocence. Everyone has their own wonderful childhood, but once people become parents, they often forget their own childhood and blindly demand their children with an adult mentality. If parents can often recall their childhood, try to understand their children\’s thoughts and feelings in a \”feeling\” way, and put themselves in their children\’s shoes when encountering problems, it will be easier to understand their children\’s moods, and the methods of educating their children will naturally change. For example, if a child is dancing vigorously with rubber bands and parents insist on letting the child go home immediately, the child will naturally become disobedient or have a bad temper. Parents think this is because the child is too playful, but they do not know that it may be because she just After dancing, it’s time to stretch the rubber bands for others. When she goes home at this time, other children will be dissatisfied with her. If parents can understand the child\’s mood carefully at this time and let her play for a few more minutes before going home, the child will be mentally prepared in advance, and will stop playing consciously after \”coming to an end\”, and will not be mentally disturbed. The balance will be resolved. Therefore, \”bad\” parents remind everyone that parents should not forget their own childhood: they used to shoot foreign paintings, play pinball, play slingshot, jump rubber bands, hopscotch, play tiger chess, blow bubbles, and play house. It has fascinated us; horseback riding, snowball fights, and hide-and-seek have also excited us. If we can recall these, it will be of great benefit to understanding children and guiding them correctly. As the saying goes, there is no real love without understanding. This is especially true between parents and children. If parents do not understand their children, the love they give their children will actually make them resentful. On the contrary, if parents can stand in their children\’s shoes, view their requests from their children\’s perspective, support their children\’s legitimate requests, and share joys, joys, and worries with their children, only then can they express love to their children correctly and also Only in this way can your children receive your love correctly. Of course, understanding is not the purpose, but the starting point of education. Understanding cannot replace education, but understanding is often the premise of education. With understanding, education canCan make a real difference. Understanding is also to avoid the formation of irresolvable antagonism between parents and children, so that parents can change simple and rough education to patient guidance, and change simple prohibition to positive guidance when educating their children. Finally, parents must also see changes in society. Some parents say that I have a childlike innocence. I often compare my childhood situation with today\’s children, but the more I compare, the more trouble I get, and the generation gap with my children becomes deeper and deeper. As everyone knows, this is exactly what is caused by this contrast. Parents should have childlike innocence, but they must not misunderstand it as just the childish innocence of their own childhood. Instead, they must look at society from a developmental perspective and see that the times have advanced and society has developed. The interests and hobbies of modern children are very different from those of our childhood. We must keep in line with the childlike innocence of modern children. As children\’s living conditions improve, their intelligence develops earlier, and information becomes more widely available, their minds are liberated and their concepts change. If parents cannot see this, it will create a gap with their children. Therefore, when we talk about maintaining childlike innocence, we do not entirely refer to the childlike innocence of parents themselves in childhood, but the childlike innocence of modern children. This requires parents to constantly study the impact of social changes on their children, and they must not treat the new generation of children with old concepts, which will only achieve twice the result with half the effort. Teach your children to play the games they liked when they were young, and let them experience the joy of \”single games\”.