The two sisters were shouting foul words at each other, but their mother was so calm!

With two cries of \”Mom\” and \”Aunt\”, the four-and-a-half-year-old daughter Youyou and the seven-and-a-half-year-old niece Doudou ran out of the back room. \”Mom, my sister is bullying me!\” Youyou cried first. \”Auntie, did she hit me!\” Doudou followed closely. I removed my eyes from the book and looked at them with calm expressions. Not only did they not comfort me, but they \”added fuel to the fire\”, \”What should I do? You two often quarrel, and I don\’t want to be the referee for you today!\” I said just now! When she fell, Doudou raised her voice and cried: \”I hate her!\” She stamped her feet vigorously, and cried out: \”Then go back to Xi\’an!\” This sentence really shocked me. The word \”go\” made Doudou very hurt, and her cry became even louder, \”Go back to Yinchuan!\” After saying that, she picked up a small stuffed toy on the sofa and threw it at Youyou. It passed by, of course it didn\’t hit Youyou. One said, \”Go back to your grandma\’s house.\” The other said, \”Go back to your grandma\’s house.\” Until this moment, I was still indifferent. In fact, there was already an \”undercurrent\” in my heart. I see potential problems in children from their anger, and I want to see what else they can do? Perhaps my calmness made the two children feel bored. They did not continue to use excessive language or behavior. Their crying gradually subsided and the scolding stopped. They just squeezed in and sat down next to me. Doudou shook my arm and said coquettishly: \”Auntie, I don\’t want to have anything to do with you anymore.\” \”Yes, because you have the right.\” My expressions and words were gentle. Someone had tears in his eyes and said, \”Mom, I don\’t want you to be my sister\’s aunt anymore.\” \”No, because it\’s like someone asking me not to be your mother. It cannot be changed.\” My attitude was firm. . Both children were silent. At this time I asked: \”Who said something uncivilized first today?\” Youyou patted his chest, \”It\’s me!\” I looked at Youyou with a serious expression, \”Youyou, from now on, if I hear you again If you say uncivilized words, your mother will severely punish you!\” Youyou cried again, and she said timidly: \”I know!\” Turning around, I looked at Doudou seriously, \”Go. Pick up the little monkey!\” Doudou obediently picked up the little monkey and stood in front of me. \”Doudou, no matter how angry you are in the future, don\’t vent your anger by damaging things or hurting others, because this is the most useless way, do you understand?\” Doudou nodded, indicating that she remembered Living. Then I pulled the two of them in front of me, \”You must understand that this is your grandma and grandma\’s house, and none of you have the right to tell the other to leave!\” After that, I got up and went to the kitchen, waiting for me to give them the When the fruit they wanted to eat was cut and brought in, the two children\’s little heads were already playing together. Someone said: \”You will always be my good sister!\” Doudou liked this sentence very much, but was embarrassed and said with a smile: \”Oh, okay, okay!\” Only when there are contradictions, problems will appear. If Doudou and Youyou hadn\’t had such a fierce fight, it wouldn\’t have exposed the two children\’s tendency to make such mistakes when they lose control of their emotions. I am not afraid of conflicts between my children and others, but I will never think that my childrenTheir noise is a child\’s play, and any bad signs should be promptly educated and stopped. I want children to understand that even in the midst of struggle, they must learn to maintain the demeanor and temperature a person should have. This kind of demeanor is called propriety, and this kind of temperature is called kindness. Coincidentally, I took two children to play in a small square the next day and encountered a quarrel between the children. That day I met a little girl who was about the same age as my daughter. Naturally, the three children started playing together. Her grandfather walked to a place not far away to exercise. After a while, a grandma came over with her little grandson. It seemed that she knew the little girl from before. \”Go and play with your sister!\” The little boy ran over happily. I just heard the little girl shouting sternly: \”XX, get out of here!\” Maybe it was because I had said this word just yesterday. My heart sank again, and it felt particularly harsh. The little boy hid in his grandma\’s arms angrily. I guess the grandma must also feel uncomfortable. The girl\’s grandfather came over, and the boy\’s grandmother smiled and said: \”Your little girl is very powerful, just tell us to get out of here!\” I thought that the girl\’s grandfather would take the child\’s words to heart as much as I did, but I didn\’t expect that this grandfather She smiled and said, \”Be serious with a child, and you\’ll make people mad!\” The grandma was very embarrassed. After that, the grandpa and grandma chatted, and I was no longer interested in listening… In fact, the little girl Grandpa represents the mentality of many parents. They are either unwilling to let their children play with other people\’s children for fear of suffering a loss; or when conflicts arise, they always say that the children are too young and adults cannot argue with them. But I really want to say: \”Never say, \’The child is young, don\’t take it seriously.\’\” How can you not take it seriously? When we laugh at our children\’s mistakes, the children have already taken our indifference as recognition and even encouragement. Only if you take everything they say seriously, can they learn to be responsible for their own language; only if you take everything they do seriously, can they be responsible for their actions. \”Don\’t do evil because it\’s small, don\’t do good because it\’s small.\” I sincerely hope that we as parents will not let small evils grow into big evils, and let our children\’s \”fun\” today turn into \”bitter consequences\” tomorrow.