There are some things that don’t need to be said, your children will surprise you on their own

My sister-in-law brought her eldest son back to Taiwan. The 190cm tall 16-year-old boy ran around helping his mother carry things and organize data on the computer. This made a group of relatives and friends envious and asked her how she taught him. \”Not much teaching! They grow up like this on their own.\” My sister-in-law replied with a smile. She was absolutely right, and because of her busy work, she had not even cooked dinner for more than ten years. But every child is well-behaved and does good homework. Although mothers rarely go to school to attend parent-teacher conferences, they often receive certificates of appreciation from their children. One day, my sister-in-law\’s family came to play. I saw that after a while, one of the children went to hug their mother, and the other ran to kiss her mother. I curiously asked the four children why they were so close to their mother. \”Mom loves us.\” The four children replied in unison. My wife often says that her good friend Lillian is very similar to my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law is a \”pastor\’s wife\” and Lillian is a senior volunteer at Tzu Chi. My sister-in-law is not only busy in church all day long, but also stands with her husband on the streets of New York preaching every Sunday afternoon no matter how windy or snowy they are. Lilian not only organizes activities for Tzu Chi, goes to senior centers to lead singing and playing games for the elderly, but also drives for the US government to deliver dinner to the elderly living alone every day. Lillian\’s child is also handsome and good at homework. Just a few years ago, my wife often heard Lillian say that her son\’s grades ranged from 90, 80, 70 to 60, and some failed. The wonderful thing is that Lillian smiled happily as she said: \”How great! It has A, B, C, and D.\” Fortunately, the older the child got, the better his grades improved, and now he is a gifted student with all A\’s. It is said that one day Lillian asked her child why she knew how to work hard. The child said: \”My mother never puts pressure on me, and she always praises me. When I was a child, I didn\’t feel it, but as I grew up, I began to feel ashamed. Why did my mother praise me for doing so poorly in the exam? I had to work hard.\” Watch TV news programs, reports Lu Suwei, a young guardian of the court, once got 10 points in five subjects when he was a child. His mother thought he had a low IQ, so she didn\’t scold him and gave him chicken drumsticks to eat. Lu Suwei was sitting at the door eating chicken legs and saw his classmates also giving their parents report cards. The neighbor\’s father turned over the pages one by one: \”One hundred, one hundred, one hundred, one hundred, eh? Why is this one only tested at 90, and the other ten?\” The neighbor\’s child pointed at Lu Suwei: \”The ten points will go to Ah Wei\’s house. Got it!\” But Lu Suwei later worked hard and entered the police academy and graduated in third place. He also used his experience of striving for the top as a child to lead the \”reborn youth\” to recover many lost children. I have a friend whose wife is known to be strict with her children. One day, her daughter, who was in college, went out to play and promised to be home before eleven o\’clock. She also had a social event that night. When she came in, she felt tired, so she lay on the bed with her clothes on, and unexpectedly fell asleep. She suddenly woke up at 1 o\’clock in the night, thinking that she was going to have a dinner at my house the next day. The \”borscht\” she was in charge of had not yet been cooked, so she hurriedly ran to throw the beef into the pot to cook. Still feeling sleepy, he sat on the kitchen chair in a daze. At this time, my daughter came in quietly. When she saw her mother, her face turned pale with fright. After a moment, she took the initiative to apologize to her mother. She failed to grasp the time and came home late, causing her mother to worry. \”I have never seen my daughter admit her mistakes so sincerely. In the past, she would only be rebellious, contradict me, and quarrel with me.\” FriendMy wife said to me at the party the next day: \”But yesterday, I didn\’t even expect that she came home late, but she thought I was sitting there waiting for her.\” I laughed and asked her daughter why she was so sincere that day. The little girl smiled and said, \”Because my mother didn\’t scold me right away like before! If she scolded me, I would be rebellious. If she didn\’t scold me, I would be embarrassed.\” A friend was middle-aged and unemployed, and had a very bad temper. I often conflict with my son who is in high school. Early one morning, he had trouble sleeping, woke up, made breakfast, and also made a glass of juice for his son. When the school bus was coming, my son rushed out of the bedroom. The friend handed over the juice. The son waved his hand: \”I won\’t drink!\” and turned around to put on his shoes. My friend suffered from insomnia all night that day. He was very weak and had no energy to scold the child. He sat down and said nothing. But they saw that the big boy had already rushed out the door, suddenly turned around and came back, picked up the juice from the table and drank it in one gulp. That night, a friend asked his son why he was so conscientious in the morning. His son said, \”Because you didn\’t curse as usual. I know you got up early and prepared it especially for me. I\’m sorry if you didn\’t drink it. I felt uneasy when I left the house, so I came back and drank it.\” He also added: \”Weird! I guess when I rushed out the door, I heard your roar from behind. Why didn\’t you roar in the morning? Are you feeling unwell and should you go get checked?\” I was very lazy in high school and failed two subjects every year. , you must make up the exam to pass. I also wrote an article in the school magazine and said, \”I want to write poetry, I want to paint, and I don\’t care about anything else! If I don\’t need it in the future, get out of here!\” My classmates scolded me when they read it. When I took the article home, my mother nodded sharply and said, \”It\’s so well written!\” It wasn\’t until two months before the college entrance examination that I learned how to work hard and stay up late to study. My mother actually said, \”Your health is important, don\’t study!\” Since I like painting, it would be a good idea to open a studio without going to college.\” Following her advice, after some improvising, she actually entered the National Normal University. Later, people often asked me how I got through my rebellious period. I always laughed and said, \”I didn\’t have a rebellious period. It\’s just that my mother didn\’t scold me. I didn\’t have to be rebellious!\” Having told so many true stories, I don\’t want to say more. What. Because there are many things that don’t need to be said, just like parents’ love for their children, there is no need to say much. Just love, dedicate, care, encourage and pay! Children with a conscience will most likely wake up on their own.