This mother invented the magical \”Star Technique\” to make her introverted child\’s face full of sunshine

When my daughter was young, she was very timid and afraid of strangers. This has always worried me. Of course, I don\’t think introversion is bad. Every personality has its advantages. Just considering that they will enter society in the future, and communication is indispensable in work and life, I hope that my daughter will be a little bolder, so that I will be satisfied. How can we inspire our daughter to be bolder? One day, I suddenly remembered that when my daughter was in kindergarten, she was very happy every time she got a little star or a smiling face. Maybe, this method can be used for reference! So, I chose a suitable moment and said to the two children: \”Let\’s play a very interesting game at home, okay? From now on, every time I go to the chess academy for class, I will take the initiative to say hello to the teacher, and take the initiative to say goodbye to the teacher after school. Add one star at a time; if the teacher asks a question, no matter what the question is, or just chat, add one star at a time; if you raise your hand to answer, add two stars at a time; take the initiative to say hello to uncles and aunts, add one star at a time ; As long as someone talks to you, answer a question and add a star. If you collect 30 stars, you can buy a toy you like or something you want, as long as it does not exceed ten yuan. What do you think? What?\” The son immediately agreed after hearing this, because he is usually very polite, and these things are a piece of cake for him, not to mention there are rewards. When my daughter saw her brother’s active participation, she immediately agreed. So, this game started in our house. As expected, the children were particularly interested in participating and the results were very good. Every time I go out, my daughter starts to take the initiative to say hello to the teacher, and she also takes the initiative to say hello to her uncles and aunts when she sees them. Sometimes you can get more than a dozen stars in one Go class, so it’s so easy to get all the stars! When every episode reached thirty stars, I would redeem the prize I had agreed upon and express my surprise in an exaggerated way! For example: \”Wow! You collected all the stars so quickly? That\’s amazing! Were you too fast? I feel a little regretful. I shouldn\’t have played this game with you. I think we should stop playing it in the future, okay?\” ?” I think you can imagine the children’s reaction. As long as the price does not exceed ten yuan, they are free to choose. My daughter prefers puzzles. I remember that she bought puzzles several times in the beginning. As she tasted the \”sweetness\”, her daughter became more and more motivated and confident. At this time, another problem appeared. Although this method can generate great motivation for children, in the long run, will it make children develop the bad habit of spending money and buying things indiscriminately? So I thought of another solution: get a passbook for each of them. When the stars are full again, I will give cash directly, 10 yuan at a time. When I have saved 100 yuan, I will deposit it into my bank account. The usual pocket money is also given. In this way, the two children will have financial awareness and reduce the chance of buying things randomly. At the same time, the brother and sister can also compete with each other to see who has the biggest savings! Of course, they can freely use these \”properties\”, but they need to say hello to their parents. Later I discovered that after they deposited it, most of the time they were reluctant to take it back. So, every birthday or holiday, I would encourage them to use the money they earned to buy gifts and let themThey learn to be grateful and give. This method is particularly effective and easy to operate. Although a person\’s personality cannot be changed, it can be improved and promoted through encouragement. As my daughter enters primary school, I believe more and more in the magical power brought by \”Star Dafa\”. After my daughter entered first grade, the scope of adding stars also expanded. Since my daughter is more serious in class, the teacher often puts little smiling faces or stars on her books. Every day, as many pills she gets in school, I add a few more pills to her. In addition, if you take the initiative to raise your hand to answer questions in school, you will get two bonus points each time; if you don’t raise your hand, the teacher will ask you to give one bonus each time; if you share interesting things about school with me, you will get one bonus bonus each time… maybe it’s because of this As a small strategy, my two children share things at school with me every day. Over time, they have formed a habit and they no longer deliberately chat for the sake of adding stars. We had a great time chatting every noon and evening. I am their loyal listener and listen carefully to their sharing. Even if I make a mistake, I will not criticize them, but praise them for their honesty. Therefore, our parent-child communication is getting better and better. It feels really happy. In addition, if the child completes his homework on time and does not stay in bed when he wakes up in the morning, I will also give stars. In short, the scope of adding stars is getting wider and wider, and as long as it is positive, it can be used at any time. I still remember that the first time my daughter participated in the drama performance of \”Disciple Rules\”, she was rewarded with twenty stars. I encourage my daughter to give her 20 stars if she participates. As a result, such a timid little girl actually walked onto the stage and won the second prize in her grade! It\’s all so amazing! Later, my daughter also learned eloquence and singing, and when she performed on the big stage again, she was able to behave calmly and generously. This is something I never dreamed of before. Of course, she still looks very quiet now. After all, her personality cannot be changed, but she has made too many breakthroughs. She has become bolder and can go on stage at any time. Isn\’t this worth celebrating? Therefore, sometimes, I am so glad that I was \”smart\” at the time. Regarding this method, it is important to note that parents must grasp the scale carefully. Not everything can be given stars, otherwise it will go astray. In our family, stars are not given for taking exams, doing housework, and helping others, because I want the children to know that learning is their own business, doing housework is their obligation, and helping others should come from their own heart. Do it in your heart. For these, I think there should not be any material rewards, otherwise it will easily mislead children. Later, in order to prevent them from being numb to the addition of stars, I introduced the \”reduction of stars rule\”. For example, if you don\’t complete your homework on time or get up in the morning overtime, some stars will be deducted accordingly. If a star is deducted today, the child will work harder to make up for the lost star tomorrow. Growth requires some setback education. I hope to tell children that everyone must learn to take responsibility for what they do. This is our family\’s \”star method\”. There are a lot of negative arguments about monetary rewards, so I don’t know if it’s right or wrong, but through my daughter’s changes, I really feel the charm of this method. So far, weStill using this method, I believe that even if the children stop playing this game in the future, doing these things will become their habit. I think as long as it is suitable for children, it is the best!