If you have such a naughty child at home…

Friends, have you ever seen a naughty kid? Of course I’m not talking about a bear cub like the concubine, but a child who is more self-willed and self-willed in his words and deeds, often causing frustration to his parents and giving everyone headaches. We have heard a lot about such naughty kids in the news, and we can also find a lot of them around us. Why are there so many naughty children? Compared with the previous generation, today\’s parents invest more money and focus on one or two children at home, and the convenience of the Internet allows more parents to learn good education methods. The concubine remembered that she met two mothers a few days ago. They were exchanging their respective parenting philosophies, and they mentioned the popular saying of \”poor to raise a son, rich to raise a daughter\”. One of them is the mother of a 4-year-old boy. She thinks her son should be raised poor. \”I have to control my child\’s expenses from now on and don\’t give him too much enjoyment, for fear of spoiling him and not being responsible in the future.\” And the other one is a mother of a 4-year-old boy. The mother has a 5-year-old daughter. She firmly believes that her daughter needs to be rich. \”Now I buy the best things for my daughter. I want her to know what is good from an early age so that she can know how to cherish herself.\” After listening to them, After saying this, Xiao Fei thought that for many parents, it may not be that the methods are insufficient or the awareness is insufficient, but that there is a deviation in the understanding of educational concepts. For example, these two mothers’ understanding of “rich and poor” education is simply equated with more and less economic supply. They believe that “rich” means providing superior living conditions and educational resources, while “poor” means providing better living conditions and educational resources. It means limiting your children’s spending and adding more setbacks and tests. But in Xiao Fei’s view, raising a wealthy child should actively create conditions to cultivate good habits in children; raising a poor child should consciously prevent children from developing bad habits. Moreover, whether it is a boy or a girl, when growing up, parents should adopt this kind of poverty-nurturing and rich-nurturing methods – cultivate knowledge and cultivation, replace exaggeration and vanity, cultivate confidence and strength, and cultivate politeness and modesty instead of inferiority and squeamishness. , to replace arrogance and arrogance. In fact, from a higher perspective, raising poor and raising rich are actually the same. Once good habits are developed, children will naturally not be affected by bad habits. And this process of ebb and flow is actually nurturing a child\’s upbringing. However, parents often stay in the narrow realm of rich and poor and ignore the importance of upbringing. As a result, there are endless news about \”naughty children\”. Either a child does not follow the rules in public, disrespects the staff, and treats his parents in an arrogant manner; or some children use all kinds of pranks and rebellious behavior because they do not receive encouragement and praise from their parents. Ways to resist parental oppression and restraint. Behind these \”naughty children\” are actually parents who are lost in poverty and wealth and go to extremes. Perhaps they use superficial methods before they truly understand the spirit of poverty and wealth. Nurture children. Parents should realize: No matter how capable, knowledgeable, or talented a child is, if he or she is uneducated, he or she will be like a tree growing on the edge of a cliff, with its roots unable to penetrate deeply into the soil. The taller the tree grows, the more likely it will fall. the greater the possibility. Just like in today\’s society, there are many successes in people\’s eyesJust because a person\’s \”morality does not match his position\”, he has received so much applause and admiration, but after falling into despair, he will have so much regret and pain. \”Disciple Rules\” says: If you don\’t practice hard, but you study literature and show off, who will you become? When the concubine was studying traditional culture, she was deeply touched by this sentence. Now, the more cases of such \”naughty children\” I come across, the more I marvel at the wisdom of the ancient Chinese. Our traditional culture, at its root, is actually root education. When parents are struggling with whether to raise poor or rich, they should actually ask themselves, is the upbringing of their children a priority? Have the roots of virtue been solidly integrated into children’s education? As long as the roots of virtue are firmly rooted, no matter whether you are raised poor or rich, you will not cultivate uneducated naughty children.