Don’t let your children turn “I’m sorry” into a habit!

sorry! Does your child say this often? We often teach our children to apologize if they have done something wrong. If they accidentally disturb or hinder others, they should say \”I\’m sorry!\” in time. This is understandable and the right direction of teaching, but sometimes, some parents accidentally make this point If you go too far, your children will only develop the habit of saying \”I\’m sorry\” without understanding the importance of controlling their words and deeds to avoid harm. The concubine has seen such a mother and son. The little boy is naughty and lively, and he is a little restless when he moves. He either accidentally steps on other people\’s feet, or often hits other children\’s heads or eyes with his hands while playing, and sometimes even loses his temper. Make some trouble in the game. After the incident happened, the boy\’s mother glared at him, and he smiled and said sorry while watching his mother busy apologizing and appeasing him from behind, saying \”I\’m sorry\” many times. At the beginning, everyone was still understanding and tolerant, but after the boy said he was sorry, he was still the same, doing what he should do. If he got into trouble, he would say \”Oh, I\’m sorry!\” and then act like nothing happened. He ran away with a smile on his face. \”Why don\’t you teach your child a lesson?\” Faced with other people\’s suggestions, the mother, who was busy cleaning up the mess of the child who got into trouble, looked helpless. \”I taught him! He also said he was sorry! What can I do? !” In fact, this mother taught her child to say “I’m sorry” but did not help her child understand the true meaning of “I’m sorry”. It is inevitable for children to make mistakes. The key is to let them understand that whether they are intentional or unintentional, when things happen, they will cause varying degrees of harm to others. And these injuries cannot be easily resolved and made up for with a simple \”I\’m sorry\”. When we say \”I\’m sorry\”, we are actually reflecting on our own mistakes, hoping to get the other person\’s understanding, and at the same time reminding ourselves that we will never make the same mistake again in the future. I believe many people have heard of \”The Story of Nails\”. There was a boy who had a very bad temper, so his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the backyard fence. On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails. Slowly, the number of nails hammered each day decreased, and he found it easier to control his temper than to drive those nails. Finally one day the boy no longer lost his patience and lost his temper. He told his father about this and his father told him that from now on, every time he could control his temper, he would pull out a nail. Days passed, and finally the boy told his father that he had finally pulled out all the nails. The father held his hand and came to the backyard and said: You did a good job, my good boy. But look at the holes in those fences, they will never be the same again. The words you say when you are angry will leave scars like these nails. If you stab someone with a knife, no matter how many times you say you\’re sorry, the wound will always be there. The pain of words is as overwhelming as the pain of reality. The father in the story not only uses a clever method to guide his children to unblock and transfer their emotions, but also helpsHelp children realize the importance of avoiding mistakes and injuries. The article we shared before also said that prevention is better than cure in education. Teaching children to manage their emotions and control their words and deeds is far more helpful in helping children learn to take responsibility and grow than admitting mistakes and self-blame after making mistakes and causing harm. Don\’t let your children make \”I\’m sorry\” a habit. Learn and practice \”no mistakes\” with your children, treat mistakes correctly, and avoid unnecessary harm. On the way to growth, we will always experience some pain, big or small. The classic English song at the beginning goes: How do you mend a broken heart? After all, some injuries, once caused, are difficult to heal. May our lives contain less \”I\’m sorry\” and more warm \”Thank you\”