Parents should never laugh it off when their children say bad words.

One day, the five-year-old Xiaoguai was watching cartoons on the computer, and the network was a bit stuck. Suddenly he heard a snap, \”Damn, what\’s going on with this broken network?\” He turned around and saw Xiaoguai snapping angrily. He was holding the mouse, his little face turned red. I couldn\’t help but be surprised, when did this gentle and quiet little boy learn to use foul language? By the way, I was completely confused at that time, how could this be happening, and I didn’t know what to do. In order to punish Xiaoguai for swearing and slamming the mouse, I punished her to leave the computer. The little guy muttered, \”Mom, I\’m going to beat you to death. Huh, when I grow up, I\’ll buy two big computers, one for Bald Qiang and one for Dora, so I won\’t let you play…\” Dad saw the little boy When he got angry, he quickly went up to coax him, \”What\’s wrong, baby? Is mom going to punish you?\” Oh, the coaxing made me even more energetic. \”Hmph, stinky daddy, you and the stinky mother are both in the same group. They are all stinky shit. I won\’t pay attention to you!\” God! This was really troublesome. My dad pulled me aside and said, \”What\’s wrong with my little boy? Why do girls talk like this?\” It seems that it\’s time to cure this problem. I first checked the symptoms and carefully observed the child over a few days. Taking advantage of Friday night, Mom, Dad and Xiaoguai had a calm conversation. \”My dear, what\’s wrong lately? Why do you always say dirty words?\” Dad asked in a soft voice. \”Dirty words? Dad, what are dirty words?\” Xiaoguai replied with a blank look on his face. \”Poof\”, my mother couldn\’t help but spit out the water she had just drank. \”Haha, dad, look at mom, she\’s so stupid. She\’ll choke even if she drinks water.\” The little boy gloated. Well, okay, it seems like a five-year-old doesn\’t know how to define a curse word. \”Come on, little boy, mommy will tell you what are the curse words, like mom, shit, stinky shit, these are all curse words. It is a sign of bad behavior for a child to say curse words. Do you understand?\” \”Understand?\” \”But, why can\’t children say swear words? Then when they grow up, they can say it?\” As soon as Xiaoguai said this, he immediately started the 100,000 Whys mode. \”Well, this, adults say, is also uncivilized.\” Dad quickly answered. \”But, I often hear my uncles and aunts say the same thing. Auntie Xiaowen in my mother\’s office likes to say \’fuck\’. I saw how powerful she looked when she said this, so I learned how to say it.\” It turns out that Xiaoguai is not very clear about which words are swear words. She just sees her colleagues around her saying this, and every time she says it, everyone laughs. Maybe she mistakenly thinks that what she says is reasonable. It seems okay. The symptom of swearing is not very serious. Next, we need to formulate a policy and \”prescribe medicine to cure the disease.\” After communicating with my child and Xiaoguai, I, Xiaoguai’s father and Xiaoguai made a three-part agreement: No one can say bad words at home. Anyone who swears will be punished (you are not allowed to play with computers or mobile phones). Weekends can be rewarded with playground play if no swear words are spoken. In order to reflect the importance, Xiaoguai\’s father also drew a special table with the date and a small grid for each day. He also bought some five-pointed star stickers and gave the stickers to Xiaoguai. Every night at 9 o\’clock, before Xiaoguai goes to bed, he will ask the question and seeDid Dad, Mom and Xiaoguai say any bad words during the day? If you didn’t say bad words, please post a star. Not to mention, this trick is quite effective. Computers and mobile phones are inseparable from everyone. Xiaoguai has been good for a week for her cartoons and her playground. Things started to go wrong again. One day after school, Xiaoguai said gloomily: \”Mom, the children in our kindergarten also use swear words. I said they were not good when they said swear words. They said I was wrong and stopped playing with me.\” That\’s right. , we don’t say bad words at home, but what about outside? How to soothe the little girl\’s heart when she is isolated because she doesn\’t say bad words. After dinner, I took Xiaoguai for a walk on the nearby greenway to solve her problem. \”Xiao Guai, do you think that little red flower looks good?\” \”It\’s quite pretty.\” Xiao Guai looked at the flower and forgot about the unpleasantness just now. \”Xiao Guai, is that shit little flower pretty?\” \”Mom, why are you talking like this again? Don\’t talk like this, okay?\” Xiao Guai became anxious again after hearing what I said. \”Yes, for the same sentence, my mother used two ways of speaking. Which one do you think sounds better? Wouldn\’t it make it more comfortable to listen without using swear words?\” \”Yes, the kindergarten teacher also said that you can\’t use words like fart. Yes, I told you to use civilized language.\” Xiao Guai replied. \”Well, yes, so now mom is telling you that everyone\’s way of speaking may be different, but we also have to think from other people\’s perspective. Just like when mom said \’bullshit\’, you felt unhappy. Right? If no one said it, would everyone be happy? Don’t worry too much. Those children may be the same as you before. They don’t know the meaning of swear words and find it fun to say them. After a while, they will understand the meaning of swear words. I won’t say it anymore, we are all good friends and we won’t stop playing with you.” I slowly told Xiaoguai, and she became a little happier. After being a civilized child for some time, Xiaoguai was taking a civilized etiquette class in kindergarten. When it came to the civilized language, Xiaoguai was very happy. He came back and said, \”Mom, today we talked about what dad said last time.\” Swearing and using polite language, today the teacher praised me and said I am a civilized child, and rewarded me with a little red flower!\” At this point, Xiaoguai\’s \”disease\” of swearing has been cured. My three feelings all say that children are like a blank piece of paper. Whether it becomes a masterpiece or a piece of waste paper, it all depends on how the parents scribble. Regarding the issue of swearing, parents don’t have to worry. First, first understand the reasons why children say swear words. Many times, children just listen to what the adults next to them say and find it interesting, and then they say it. But many times, when adults first hear their children say swear words, they will laugh, and the child will feel that he has done the right thing. , the more you say it, the more fun it becomes, and it will be more difficult to break it into a habit in the future. Second, it is not difficult to correct swearing. Adults should provide correct guidance. First, tell them which swear words are not allowed and provide encouragement. When the child does not say swear words, he should clearly affirm his behavior and let him know that he is doing the right thing by not using swear words. the behavior of. If there are several children in the family, you can also ask the eldest child to be a little helper to the parents and help the younger children correct themselves. This way the children will be confident and pay more attention to their words and deeds. Third, let the childChildren should stay away from violent and uncivilized people, and clearly inform the adults around them not to teach their children to swear. At the same time, choose appropriate high-quality cartoons for your children and avoid watching uncivilized, violent and vulgar cartoons. There is nothing terrible about children swearing. As long as parents teach them patiently and give their children some time, I believe that cute and well-behaved child will come back soon.