Please plant \”kindness\” in your children\’s hearts, otherwise they will make you regret it when they grow up.

As a senior silly lady, I have a mantra: when we are still unable to judge whether others are well-intentioned or malicious, we should first assume that they are well-intentioned, because we ourselves are also well-intentioned. In the past, in the company, every time I said this, some brothers in the department would sneer at me: Sister, your approach won\’t work, people nowadays… What impressed me the most is: In a country where WeChat and Weibo were not yet available, There was no such noisy era now, and the forum was still relatively prosperous. Occasionally, someone would come to our forum to cause trouble. The level of trouble was comparable to Meng Liang crying and praising us. It was just pure trouble. For example, when we were organizing donations for the Wenchuan earthquake, he came up and scolded us – \”Why haven\’t you donated yet?\” As a leading and well-known company in the industry, you are shameless if you don’t donate… For example, when attending an industry association meeting, as soon as our display board was hung up, he came up and scolded you – your board is too ugly, so embarrassing, and a disgrace to us Chinese people. …For example, our PhD boss published a paper, and that guy couldn\’t sit still – the paper was so bad, here, here, there, there, it was all wrong… The department brother in charge of the forum, Ah Huang, was young and full of energy. Every time, he would be so angry that he would kill them all with ruthless tactics, but the troublemakers were like weeds with strong vitality, growing again every time the spring breeze blew, and finally they would appear blatantly at the door of Baojia. Ah Huang kicked the ball to me: Come on, Use your kindness to influence him! I\’m speechless. I know that quarreling is my weakness. You have already stepped up the fight and created an atmosphere. I\’m just waiting to watch the excitement. You want me to do it? I had no choice but to assume that I was the one in charge of the department. So I called the guy: Brother, what are you trying to do? Did we provoke you? You definitely can\’t open like this. How can we continue the conversation after such an opening? Everyone should put down what they are doing and keep their ears open to listen. If I was choked back by the other party as soon as I opened my mouth, it would be too shameful. I won\’t talk anymore in the future. How can I control this room of people, even though I usually can\’t control them very well. So what I said is this: I am the head of the department of *company*. I am taking the liberty to call you today to thank you, at least on behalf of myself! The other party was stunned: Ah! I went on to say: I personally appreciate your unique way of paying attention to our company, and thank you very much for spending so much time and energy to assist our department in continuously improving our work. Your suggestions, or There are many criticisms that can be used to make our work better. The other party said \”Oh\”, and Ah Huang called over on QQ: Sister, you\’re coaxing people to death rather than filling their lives! I continued to say shamelessly: Today I mainly want to discuss with you whether we can continue this special cooperation between us in a more harmonious way, and what do you need from us? Later, we were on the phone for more than half an hour, and all the other party was talking about, and I was listening: It turned out that this person had participated in a nationwide professional skills competition and school recruitment interview organized by our company before, but did not win the prize in the competition, and the interview was ruthlessly rejected. A poor man rejected by the earth. He insists that our HR department rejected him because he wasHe once scolded a judge (a technical expert in our company), and the reason why he scolded the judge was because the judge\’s score was unfair and unfair to his team. So in the past six months, he has been very depressed, feeling that the whole world is against him, and everyone he meets has a grudge against him and is here to harm him, especially our company – such a big company, bullying People, this is too much, you guys! Finally, before he put down the phone, he said: This is the first time in the past six months that I have said so many words at once. I don’t know if you understand, let alone what role you play in that lousy company. I will tell you There is so much nonsense because what you just said to me was human language! The moment I put down the phone, I was stunned: This was originally a very small matter. If it had been explained clearly at that time, we wouldn\’t have had so much trouble later, and this young man with a graduate degree and a good professional wouldn\’t have So depressed. I pulled up the previous competition information and saw that his team’s entries were a bit novel, but there were indeed flaws. The judges did not deliberately target the situation, so they should be very objective. As for the interview failure, the sister who handled it in the HR department told Me: My professional skills are passable, my eloquence and image are good, I am quite humorous, but I have a bad temper. Even when I talk about my tutor, I have the tone of waiting for me to go back and take care of you. I feel that my tutor always takes care of me. Others were too cruel to him, and when such people were recruited, they were worried that they would be difficult to manage in the future. I told him this in a tactful phone call, and he was silent for a moment and said: Okay, I understand. In fact, I am just confused about why, and no one has given me an answer. I don’t know what to say, so I can only say a word of comfort: There is still room for your professional ability to be used. If you need our help to recommend, of course, I don’t have a particularly suitable unit at hand, but you can pay attention. He hung up the phone directly. Ah Huang felt a little disappointed later because without this buddy to cause trouble for him, he felt quite boring – the forum was no longer fun. I was so angry that I wanted to kill him. Why didn\’t I think it was fun when I was so worried: Ah Huang, how about you recruit that guy and let him do a part-time job for you, and I\’ll apply for the expenses. Unexpectedly, they still had the guts to reject us: You are just recruiting people, and then you click, just like you are punishing the heroes of Liangshan. After a while, I heard that I finally found a job. The workplace is not far from our company, but the job is not my major. I can imagine how difficult and embarrassing it would be to change industries for employment with a graduate degree in this major. However, since I can’t help much, I can’t say much. I can only hope that he will have success in his future work and stop doing those boring tasks. troublesome things. Because we left each other\’s contact information, the troublemaker was quite willing to chat with me. Once he mentioned: When I was a child, my mother often warned me not to trust others easily. Many people want to harm us. Out of curiosity, I asked him: Have you ever been victimized by others? He suddenly became very excited: Many times, my mother lost her job because of others, and my uncle, who made my mother have no place to live, and my father,He caused my mother and I to suffer for so many years. When I was in school, my classmates always bullied me. Now that I am working, my colleagues always antagonize me. I was not very good at answering, so he went on to say: My mother taught me to cut my father’s new New Year clothes to pieces while no one was paying attention, and also smashed my uncle’s rice vat… She said: We cannot let those people bully us in vain. When we grow up, we must let them know that we are not easy to bully and make them regret it. I am speechless. This is the story of a hard-working, resentful mother and her equally hard-working, vengeful son. They are worthy of sympathy after all. Because people who are full of energy cannot detect other people\’s kindness and habitually regard it as malice. They cannot read other people\’s smiles and habitually regard it as harm. Such people are actually painful inside and have many difficulties ahead. . This guy, who used to cause trouble for us and then finally stopped, is not bad at all. Even over time, our department has become accustomed to thinking about him. From time to time, people will ask: Who is that, and how is he doing now? But he is full of terrible negative energy, which comes to my face every time through the phone line and the Internet. Every time I come into contact with him, the brothers and sisters in our department will laugh at me: a well-meaning elder sister who is good at flexible communication, today Feeling okay? This is a real world. There is a lot of evil in this world, and we live too ordinary and helpless lives. Therefore, some people choose to only see evil and work hard all their lives just to fight against evil; but some people choose to find their own position, enjoy the good things of that position while also bearing the bad of that position, and be willing to do so. , do your best and be willing to do good. Whether a person\’s heart is pure or not depends on his acquired knowledge and the views of good and evil instilled in him by his family of origin. The kindness planted in a child\’s heart by his native family will give him a belief in advocating kindness and the courage to persist in kindness. Knowledge makes a person wise, confident and brave, allowing him not to give up on himself when he is in desperate situations. Don\’t complain about others when you encounter bad treatment. Destroying a person and making his mind distorted and impoverished is the most thorough way to attack. On the contrary, if a person can perceive evil, he can also perceive good. With such clear-headed observation and perception, he has the ability to discern himself. , will not be distorted and defeated. Even a wealthy family cannot guarantee that they will be able to provide their children with a lifetime of money, let alone ordinary people like us. However, as parents, we always have an infatuated desire to hope that our children will have enough food and clothing in the future, not to work so hard, and be able to Live a little easier. Therefore, material things cannot last, but spiritual strength can. When children are still young, they need to be given positive and spiritual guidance. There is goodwill and warmth in this world. The brighter a person is, the kinder he is. , the future will be more smooth. Because what we have to learn in the end is how to get along with this world of good and evil, and the way a child can learn to get along with the world is actually the way his parents get along with the world. A mother who always sees herself as a victim, a mother who always transmits negative emotions and energy to her children, she thinks she isTeaching her children to protect themselves is actually committing an evil act. The consequences that she and her children will suffer in the future will all be the evil she committed in the first place. Later, I left that company and gradually lost contact with many people and things. The last time I heard from the \”troublemaker\” was that he left his job and continued to look for a job. He also said: My mother is still urging me to find a girlfriend. In this shabby place like Beijing, everything is expensive and I can’t even afford food. How can I find a girlfriend? Today’s girls are all about money. When looking for a boyfriend, they just let them be. Taking advantage of others, spending money… This has risen to the level of questioning all women. I quickly said: What, I am leaving Beijing, I am very busy, I have to pack my things first. We sisters who have sons are used to joking with each other: Because we have not met an ideal boyfriend, we must train our sons to become ideal men. How a woman wants to be treated by the men around her should be how she expects her son to treat his woman in the future. By extension, how a person wants to be treated by the world and people in this world should teach his children how to treat the world and others. Children are like small saplings growing in the wind. The wind often blows, and the wind comes from every direction. The wind force in each direction cancels each other out. With the sunshine shining all the time, the small tree will grow tall and tall. And straight. How can a small tree grow if it is always blown by the wind from one direction? I don’t think I’m a perfect person, and I’ve given up my pursuit of perfection a long time ago; I’m not a very competent mother either, and I haven’t done too many things well for my son, and I still need to learn and improve. But at least I have achieved it. The past people, events, and hurts have all been calmed down. In the words of an old friend of mine: You are such a strange woman. I can’t hear even a hint of his discomfort from your mouth. Character. Yes, why should you say something bad about others? Just live your own life. I would hope that my son, in his innocent years like blotting paper, would regard every approaching thought as goodwill, and hope that he would be a trustworthy person in the future. All the books he has read, the stories he has seen, the people he has met, the roads he has walked, even the times he has been in a daze, the ups and downs of his thoughts, there is goodwill in them, and he also understands that respecting others is dignifying himself. , every bit of kindness should be cherished. Kindness will not make a person smarter, but malice will really make a person stupid, and those who cherish their feathers will not have bad luck.