When I grow up, you think I am useless, but have you ever given me a chance to grow?

Overnight, the temperature plummeted. When I woke up in the morning, the north wind was howling outside the window. The snow I had been looking forward to all night did not arrive as expected, but the temperature dropped to freezing point as expected. He put a thick cotton coat on his daughter, held her little hand and went out. Today is a normal day, we go to work and my daughter goes to kindergarten. When I arrived at the kindergarten, I felt a little unusual. What was abnormal, I didn\’t realize on the spot. It wasn\’t until I got out of the gate that I came back to my senses. Usually when we arrive at school at this time, most of the children are already eating in the classroom, and the classroom looks crowded. But today, there were only a dozen or so children sitting there in the classroom. If there were no special circumstances, they would probably be the only ones there today, less than half of the usual number. This kind of situation is actually not abnormal. It will occur in every abnormal weather, such as rain, strong wind, haze, snow, sudden drop in temperature, sudden rise in temperature. These will become reasons for parents not to let their children go out. reason. There are only two types of children who insist on going to kindergarten. One is that there is no one at home to watch the child, and the other is that the child\’s schooling habits cannot be changed because of the weather. Those children who take leave every three days are called happy children by us. They are taken care of meticulously. They are afraid of catching a cold when going out, being injured when exercising, being tired when walking, and choking when eating. There is always someone who has made plans for them, blocking the wind and rain for them, and creating warmth. comfortable environment. And when I think about it more carefully, I feel that something is wrong. Is this kind of protection considered over-protection? Every pit is covered for the child. There is no chance for him to fall down and get up again. A classmate who is a teacher in primary school often laments the difficult situation of teachers. They feel that it’s not that today’s children are too difficult to teach, but that some parents are too protective of their own shortcomings, which would be a nightmare once they encounter them. She gave a common example. One of her friends is the head teacher of a certain class. In addition to teaching, he also manages dozens of children in the class. One day, the teacher went to attend an open class at a foreign school and was not at school. During the ten-minute recess, two children in the class were laughing and chasing each other in the classroom during the break. It was so fun to catch up with each other. Suddenly, a child accidentally fell to the ground and scratched a little bit of skin on his chin, but there was no bleeding. Other teachers who came after hearing the news immediately sent the child to the infirmary for treatment. The infirmary did a simple disinfection and bandaging and sent the child back to class. When the child\’s grandfather came to pick up his grandson, he saw the injury on the child\’s chin and took the child to find the school. The grandfather said that his grandson had never suffered such a crime. It was the first time in so many years that he had broken his skin. He insisted on an explanation from the school and demanded that the head teacher be punished. The school apologized, but felt that the head teacher had no responsibility in this matter and should not be punished. It is inevitable for children to bump into each other. Grandpa left angrily, and the next day, he went to the Education Bureau to demand an explanation. In the end, the school did not punish the head teacher, but this incident caused ripples in the hearts of many teachers. From now on, they dare not speak out about this child, dare not control him, let alone let other children play with him. The grandfather was satisfied, but the child didn\’t understand why his classmates began to avoid him. There is a famous case in ancient times. There was a couple who came of age and had a child.He was so precious to his son, so obedient, and felt that his son was an angel. When a child was young, when he brought some small items back from a neighbor\’s house, his parents not only did not blame him, but also praised him for his ability. Children feel that the behavior they are encouraged is good, so they bring something back to their parents from time to time. Until one day, he was walking back with someone else\’s cow and was discovered. He beat the person to death out of desperation. Killing to pay for life, the moment he was on the execution ground, he asked for another mouthful of mother\’s milk. When his mother opened her heart in tears, he bit off her nipple to show his dissatisfaction with her for having indulged him for so many years. How many parents like this, when their children grow up, say in front of their children: I have done so much for you and suffered so much, but I didn’t expect you to be so disappointing when you grow up. Parents, grandparents, and grandparents all love their children from the bottom of their hearts. They feel that if their children suffer less, they will have done their best and be worthy of their children. When your children grow up, they should become what you want them to be: smart, sensible, capable, filial… When things go against your expectations, you feel that your children are useless and have failed you for so many years of hard work. We never believe that towering trees can grow in a greenhouse. Why do we believe that children who are protected by themselves can resist setbacks, be motivated, be filial to their parents, and understand etiquette? Hopefully, we can be the ones who watch our children grow instead of helping them grow. Are your children overprotected? Is your child a child who has not grown up? Are your children completely different at school and at home?