Sorry, I don\’t want to vote for your child

Qing Lanjun said: In the Internet era, voting and likes have become a means for businesses to promote profits, which has brought human troubles to many parents and also caused psychological harm to children involved in the profit chain. The parent sharing today is Wei\’an, a book editor. She also encountered such a dilemma. Let\’s listen to her appeal. I have been quite busy at work these two days. I worked overtime at night to finish the things at hand and was about to take a break. A friend sent me a WeChat call. I thought there was something urgent, but I hung up when I was about to pick up the call. Then I received a link from her, saying that the child was participating in a handicraft competition, and the WeChat voting was asking for help to vote for the child. Although they are good friends, I feel a deep sense of helplessness. In recent years, with the popularity of new media, there have been many so-called like voting activities, such as the most beautiful school beauty, the best employee, the best beauty, free meals for collecting likes, etc. It may have been an activity for adults at first, but later it also started to spread among children: \”The most beautiful angel\”, \”the strongest little painter\”, \”the best cute baby\”, etc., in an endless stream, really echoing a joke on the Internet: WeChat has really changed I met a person. We were just chatting before, but now when you come to me, you either ask me to vote, or ask me to repost to Moments, or ask me to follow the official account, or ask me to scan the QR code, or ask me to like it. Just ask me to give out red envelopes, and I will almost be fooled by your orders! ! ! Participating in this kind of activity is easy and cost-effective, and it can also help to build relationships with relatives and friends. But once, my cousin asked me to vote for his daughter, which made me change my mind. It was also a painting competition, known as a municipal children\’s painting competition, and my cousin\’s daughter also participated in it. After helping to vote, I started to check other children\’s works out of boredom, and suddenly found that although the first place received nearly 2,000 votes, the quality of the painting was average, while the other child\’s painting was very good, but only had 5 votes. The lonely singular number touched my heart. I am also the mother of a child. Looking at the imaginative work, I seemed to see a child full of grievances, complaining about the hypocrisy and injustice of adults. I couldn\’t help but talk about this when I had dinner with my cousin in the evening. My cousin said that he actually didn\’t value the so-called prizes at all. \”Then why are you working so hard to canvass votes?\” someone next to him asked. \”Other people\’s children are canvassing for votes. If I have too few children, I am worried that my children will ask why my own votes are so few when others have so many votes. I am worried that my children\’s self-confidence will be frustrated.\” My cousin said with some helplessness. \”This so-called competition is not about judging outstanding children at all, but about whose parents have better connections!\” An elder criticized this kind of competition activity. I agree with this elder’s statement that these activities have impacted children’s self-perception system. For the kid who got the most votes, he got the nod. But for those children who received low votes, especially those with only a few votes, they had no idea that these competitions had nothing to do with their talents. If he performs very well but receives very few votes, will it severely dampen the child\’s self-confidence and cause a child who is already gifted to give up his or her own talents? What\’s more serious is if the childKnowing that the reason why I lost the election is not that I am not good, but because my parents\’ connections are not as good as others, and I lack the ability to compete with my father, will it have an impact on the correct child\’s world view? My friend Dachuan works in new media. He said that these activities are not to promote children\’s talents at all, but are just a marketing activity. Dachuan said that there was an Internet \”operation expert\” in their circle, who caught the mentality of his parents and invested in a tangerine orchard project, and reaped huge benefits. He launched the \”Adopt a Companion for Children\” campaign on his public account. Under the banner of \”Let Children Experience Life\”, he asked parents to adopt an orange tree for their children (these orange trees can bear fruit in the second year). The trees are planted in designated areas, thus saving on artificial planting costs. The next year, these orange trees were bearing fruit. Because they were located in the suburbs and it was difficult to sell them, he held an event on the public account to judge the \”best growers\”. Let\’s vote for the children who have participated in tree planting. The top 10 with the most votes will have oranges from their own orange trees. Many parents spared no effort to participate in the promotion, and many even visited the orange groves. Not only were the oranges sold out, but the price was twice as high as on the market. There are always some parents who consume their interpersonal relationships by begging their grandparents to tell their parents, thinking that they will get opportunities in this way, but little do they know that they are just being used for free publicity. The winner is either a person in power with a wider network of people, or someone who spends money on a certain website to buy votes or likes, or even more powerful people ask technical experts to use software to increase votes! In the final analysis, the so-called canvassing for votes and likes about children on the Internet is just a kind of marketing by so-called educational institutions or businesses. Many parents of children are forced to get involved. Promoting their children\’s talents is not its main purpose at all. As a parent, you must see the essence of the matter clearly and do not struggle or invest in unfair competition. Canvassing votes for your children will not help them. Only by making children stronger can they live a better life. Truly strong parents and outstanding children will not need to rely on likes to gain a sense of superiority and success.