In order to spend time with my children, I don’t mind being a “psycho”

This past weekend, the weather in Shanghai was rarely good, with clear skies and a temperature of more than ten degrees, neither hot nor cold. It rained for a long time recently, and I felt damp everywhere. The long-lost blue sky and bright sunshine made me feel very good, so I took Xiao Nuo to wander around the community. We played the \”shadow game\” under the sun: Xiao Nuo stood in my shadow, shrinking up, and she was completely invisible from the shadow. I raised my arms up and she positioned herself so that her arms were sticking out of my creak, making it look like I had four arms, two big and two small. Then my big arm went down, and Xiaonuo\’s small arm went up. Then we stretched and waved in all directions, spread our fingers and shook them, or made fists… I jumped away, and the shadow \”changed from one to two\”, and Xiaonuo Follow me and jump over, and the shadow \”changes from two to one\”… We came up with all kinds of tricks and had a great time! Finally, Xiao Nuo huddled in my shadow and asked me to do all kinds of exaggerated movements, as long as her shadow was not exposed. She looked at my shadow and laughed, her laughter resounding through the sky. I suddenly thought: If someone is walking behind me and he can\’t see a child in front of me, what will he think of me? A woman stood in the middle of the road, baring her teeth and claws at the shadow, going crazy… Isn\’t this crazy? Occasionally, people passing by would look at us a few more times. Maybe they were infected by our joy, or maybe they were puzzled that we were playing so indifferently. I didn’t stop playing, and I didn’t say to Xiao Nuo, “Others will laugh at us.” In fact, I rarely said words like “Others will laugh at us” to Xiao Nuo. I hope that children will follow their own inner thoughts, focus on the pros and cons of things themselves, and focus on doing what they should do, instead of worrying about the opinions and evaluations of others. In order to let my children enjoy themselves, I don’t care about the looks of passers-by. In order to accompany my children, I don’t mind being a “crazy person” in the eyes of others. I remember many years ago, before I became a mother, once I was walking outside the ticket gate of a subway station. Suddenly, a man in his thirties ran over from behind me and rushed to the person in front of me. At a big pillar, he squatted down and hid behind the pillar without moving, with an exaggerated smile on his face. I was shocked and had no idea what was going on. It was not the rush hour at that time, and there were not many people at the station. Several people passing by were like me, slowing down or stopping to see what was going on. A neatly dressed young man squatted under a pillar with a bright smile on his face. This scene looked weird. After a while, a mother came skipping over holding a little girl. The little girl kept muttering: Where did dad hide? Only then did I realize that the man squatting behind the pillar was playing hide-and-seek with his little daughter! As I continued on my way, I couldn\’t help complaining in my mind: How come these parents are not afraid of embarrassment? Looks like a psycho! How could I understand at that time? Until I have a childOnly after you have a child can you understand that kind of mood and understand that kind of situation. The father squatted there, not thinking about whether he was embarrassed or not. He couldn\’t see the sideways passers-by. All his thoughts were on the soft and waxy daughter. He listened intently to the child\’s footsteps, imagining what kind of surprise she would have the moment she found him, so he couldn\’t hide the smile on his face. In order to spend time with his children, this father doesn\’t care what others think of him! That day, after we were satisfied with the \”shadow game\”, we walked towards the slide. In front of a large clump of bamboo, Xiao Nuo asked to play another game: We walked in different directions, bypassed the bamboo clump, and ended up at the same place. Then we pretended to meet by chance and said \”hello\” to each other. I didn\’t agree at first, because the bamboos were so big and lush that they couldn\’t see each other in the middle. I was afraid that the child would fall, and I was even more afraid that someone would take him away. But Xiaonuo was very persistent and begged me repeatedly. I looked up at the sky, down at the ground, and then looked around: the wind was bright and sunny, and the bamboo bush was located in the center of the community. On one side was a winding path paved with red bricks, and on the other side was a lawn. Cars couldn\’t get in, and even pedestrians were in danger. few. Safety should be no problem. And this game can exercise your child\’s courage and let her experience separation. As she moves forward, she may encounter some emergencies that require her to react and handle them alone. These are all good experiences. So I agreed. We count one, two, three, one goes clockwise and the other goes counterclockwise. Because I was worried about the child\’s safety, I walked very slowly at first. I quietly looked sideways and watched the child run across the grass and into the invisible place blocked by the bamboo. Then I quickly ran forward, trying hard to find the little child in the gaps in the bamboo as I ran. The small figure ran to a place not far from the end and stopped waiting. I stared at the direction where the child appeared. When I saw her running out, I pretended to walk forward quickly and said \”hello\” to the child. This game was played over and over again, and it took nearly ten rounds before the child was satisfied. One time during this period, Xiao Nuo told me: I saw Dandan’s grandma just now. I asked her if she said hello to anyone, and she said no. I said why don\’t you say hello. She said seriously: \”I\’m playing with you! If I stop to say hello and say \’hello\’ to you, I\’ll be late. Didn\’t you say you have to concentrate on doing things?\” I was speechless. After thinking about it carefully, I think what the child said makes sense. When we play with our children, we often stop to say hello when we meet acquaintances. Sometimes the greeting may turn into small talk, and the chat may even get longer and longer, and the child has to stop the game he is playing. This is actually a sign of disrespect for the child. The message revealed to the child is: he is not important, and the games he is playing are not as important as the mother\’s chatting with others. After receiving this message, children who are \”obedient and well-behaved\” or who are used to being ignored will most likely wait around boredly; children with less good tempers may start to get into trouble. We always talk about respecting our children, but we often don’t put it in our hearts. How can a child whose games are interrupted at will and whose inner feelings are not respected learn to respect others? The child\’s growth process is actually very short. Now he is pestering you all day long, asking forYou play role-playing games with him, play building block puzzles, read picture books and tell stories to him, just like a little tail. In a few years he will be able to read and write on his own, and he will no longer bother to play childish role-playing games with you. In a few years, when he enters the rebellious period of youth, he will dislike you for nagging you and will be so annoyed that he no longer even wants to see you. Do you want to miss the time of playing with your children until then? Do you regret not spending time with your children? So, when your child needs your company, please stay with him attentively and peacefully! Stop looking at your phone, make less calls, put down your work, forget your identity, you are just the parent your child relies on wholeheartedly! So what if you get looked at by passers-by? What if someone you know is mistaken for not being enthusiastic enough? When spending time with your children, why not be a \”psycho\” in the eyes of others?