Be sure to pay attention to the three critical periods of your child’s growth! decided his life

For education, the validity period of parents is very short. There are three critical periods in a child\’s growth, which are the \”golden points\” of the child\’s growth. The words and deeds of the parents will directly affect the child\’s future character, personality and psychological quality. Parents must seize the opportunity and never miss the critical period of their children\’s growth! Around the age of 3, children develop self-awareness. Yesterday, I was chatting with a friend who is a kindergarten teacher. She told me something: \”At the beginning of this semester, there was a new kid in our class. When his mother sent him here, He said that his son was disobedient at home and hoped to be sent to the kindergarten to learn the rules… Children under the age of four would cry until their noses were red every time before coming to school, which was heartbreaking.\” For a moment, I didn\’t react. What rules should a pre-teen child learn when separated from its mother? A child who cries until his nose is red probably doesn\’t know why his mother left him alone in a crowd of strangers. He will only decide while crying: \”Mom doesn\’t want me anymore.\” Although he is older at three years old, he is still around three years old. There is nothing wrong with children being a little noisy. Little children have just come into this world, they are full of curiosity about everything, and they always have their own way of expressing their feelings. He was still curious about \”who am I\”, so he was labeled as \”disobedient\” by his parents. He was then forcibly imprisoned in an unfamiliar circle by his parents, and lost the freedom to explore the world. Give your child the freedom to do whatever he wants around the age of 3, and let him say hello solemnly to the fresh world in his eyes. Around the age of 9, the child\’s personality and habits are formed. My colleague Xiaowen is a loyal supporter of \”free range\” education. Her attitude towards her daughter Lele has always been to let it go and not interfere. She thinks that if her daughter is given enough freedom, her daughter should As others said, she is obedient, sensible, self-disciplined and confident, but she didn\’t expect that Lele, now 9 years old, still can\’t do good things, still cries willfully, doesn\’t get along with her classmates at all, and often keeps to herself. Xiaowen was troubled by this, \”Have you ruined your child with good intentions?\” In fact, the education of children cannot go all the way, and you must not let it go when it is time to guide and interfere. Some people say that \”the fourth grade determines a child\’s life.\” At first glance, this may seem a bit exaggerated, but most children\’s personality and habits are formed around the age of 9. This time is crucial to a child\’s life. After all, children are still young and have too much freedom, which weakens the role of parents. Gradually, children lose their role models for growth. Once their personality is deformed, the consequences will be disastrous. Weeds need to be free to grow wildly. A tree without pruning its branches cannot grow into a towering tree. To grasp the critical period of children\’s personality, parents must be careful, help children discover their own weaknesses, guide and intervene, so that children can behave in a standardized manner and allow children to truly thrive. Freedom and rules will never conflict. Around the age of 13, two days before the child\’s self-development began, a piece of news was pushed on his mobile phone: a 14-year-old boy brutally murdered his mother. I clicked in with curiosity. 14-year-old Xiao Shao hated his mother for being too lenient. When his mother once again provoked him and wanted to beat him because he failed in the exam, Xiao Shao raised the knife… and felt sorry for this mother\’s experience. When I was sad and sad, that boy was even more embarrassing and pathetic. Something went wrong with family educationThe problem is that it hurts the parents and hurts the children. In fact, in real life, many parents have never learned to abdicate correctly. They always think that they are responsible for their children\’s life, and they should take care of everything and never leave. Yeah? Children grow up day by day, and their wings will always harden one day. Children around 13 years old have a clear self, full of fantasies about the uncertain future, and their helpless attempts are always held in the hands of their parents, unwilling to separate. Becoming a parent is a dignified exit. The moment a child awakens to himself, parents must put the initiative in life into their children\’s hands, respect their children\’s choices, and become just bystanders from now on. Your children can only be children, not puppets in the hands of their parents. Family education is related to the future of children. Parents, while teaching by words and deeds, should seize the critical period of children\’s growth and give them appropriate education. What the child needs most is the best!