18 divine replies that will benefit parents for life

Backstage, we often receive inquiries like this from parents: When the weather gets cold, I ask them to put on more clothes but don’t. They often make the house a mess. When it’s time to eat, they have to watch TV and do homework. No matter how I try to reason with my children, they just won’t listen… The house is always full of scolding and shouting, and the smell of gunpowder is getting stronger and stronger, but the problem cannot be solved. What should I do with the naughty child? In fact, the root of the problem is that we don’t know how to communicate with our children. Instead of taking the trouble to reason with our children, it is better to change the way we speak. In fact, just changing one sentence will have a magical effect. Today Dan’s mother has compiled 18 golden sentences, as long as you remember them These words can easily solve communication problems with children 01 Directly describe the problem × How many times have I told you to turn off the lights after using the toilet! Do you know how much electricity is wasted like this? √ The toilet light is not turned off 02 Give me an alternative × If you paint the wall again, see if I don’t break your hand! √ The wall is not for painting, the paper is for painting. (Hand the child a large piece of paper) 03 Urgent things that are easier first × Hurry up! We\’re leaving! √ Come and see, which pair of shoes do you want to wear today? 04 Tell your feelings directly and give emotion to the rules × It is basic courtesy to knock before entering. I said please come in, and you come in again √ You broke in suddenly like this , I am very unhappy! 05 Shows Weak × Stop arguing! So annoying! √ Mom didn’t sleep well last night and her head hurts a lot now. Can you let me take a rest? 06 Request for cooperation×Don’t you see what I’m talking about? Get out of here first! √ Do you have anything to say to your mother? But mom has a very important thing to talk about now. Could you please go out for a moment and come back to listen to you after we finish talking? Thank you, honey. 07 Writing a note × My son was playing wildly with his friends in the room. You asked him to remember to put away his toys later, but he didn’t seem to hear. √ Write a note: \”Baby, when you are done playing, remember to put away the toys. I love you mommy\”, fold it into a paper airplane and fly it in front of your child. 08 Provide choices × If you run around again, don’t come again next time! √ Give you a choice, either help me push the shopping cart, or sit in the shopping cart, you decide. 09 Make the praise more sincere and specific × What you wrote is really good√ My mother just read this essay you wrote and was very touched. My favorite sentence is: \”…\”, how did you come up with this sentence? 10 Rather than how dangerous it is, your child cares more about how much you love him × Do you know how dangerous it is to go swimming alone? Last year, a child drowned by himself! √ Baby, mommy loves you very much. If anything happens to you when you go, I will blame myself and be sad. Last year, a child had an accident while traveling by himself. Mom didn’t want you to go because she was afraid of losing you. 11 Let’s put it in a more interesting way × Open your mouth quickly! √ The train is about to enter the cave~~~Boom~Boom~12 Respect the child\’s efforts and encourage the child to ask questions on his own: The child is struggling to twist the bottle × Give me the bottle! √ This bottle is difficult to open, try wearing these rubber gloves, it might help. 13 Don’t rush to answer the question: Dad, where does the snow come from? ×That’s because when the temperature reaches below zero, the rain will turn into ice…√This is an interesting question, what do you think? Question: Dad, my little fish looks sick, right? Let me take a look, it seems that the water has not been changed for too long. √ I think you can ask the owner of the aquarium. 14 Find something for the child to consume energy × Don’t run around √ Go and get me some lemons 15 Throw the problem to the child Question: The child won’t let you go to the toilet × I can’t hold it anymore, so you can’t stay alone for a while can you? √ You don’t let your mother go to the toilet, so do you think it’s better for her to pee in her pants or in the toilet? 16 Use humor to resolve × Go to bed – No! √ Go catch dinosaurs on the bed – ok! ×My fingernails are long and dirty! √ Come on, it’s time for the little princess to get a manicure~ Put away the toys×How do you see the room? I won’t buy you toys anymore. √ Look, you’ve all gone home, but your toys haven’t come home yet. It’s getting dark. If you don’t let them go home, their little friends and parents will miss them. 18 Offer choices×You go ahead and cook. ——Not going at all √ Taking care of the children or cooking? –Cook!