Until parents understand this, it is better not to attend interest classes!

I have never liked a sentence: \”Don\’t let your children lose at the starting line.\” Because of this sentence, children are coaxed or forced to participate in various demonized interest classes, which almost deprives children of their colorful life. , an unbridled happy childhood. I remember once watching an interview video with Milk Tea Rene Liu. In the video, she smiled warmly and recalled the process and original intention of learning piano as a child. She said that she started learning piano when she was 9 years old. In order to learn this piano, her grandmother almost spent most of her savings. She said that learning piano is very hard. When she was shrinking, she asked her grandma: \”Why do you have to learn piano?\” Grandma said: \”Because when you grow up, if you can\’t find a job, you can teach piano.\” At that moment, she suddenly I have great respect for this grandma. She is so warm and loving. The reason for studying is not because she is afraid that her children will lose, or for the sake of face. She does not want her children to stand out in a certain field. She just hopes that her children will have a craft to make a living when they grow up. , and this craft can protect his granddaughter for a lifetime. I remember my two childhood playmates, A and T. A\’s family is very well off, and they have enough money for A to attend various interest training classes. She started in elementary school, first taking piano classes, then violin, then dance, painting, calligraphy… countless. However, she always had many reasons to give up the interest classes she had paid to sign up for, and finally gave up. Her parents would always quickly enroll her in other interest classes after she gave up some of them. They had no choice but to hope that their daughter would succeed, and the family was rich. If they didn\’t let her learn more, how could they live up to their reputation? Therefore, A was always busy running one interest class after another in her spare time. She once cried to us: She tried to attend five interest classes on Saturdays and Sundays, and every minute and every second was arranged. Dead. It was just that in high school, she could neither play a complete piano piece nor draw a beautiful oil painting. As for dancing, because she could not bear the pain of leg pressure, her years of learning were in vain. After all, she did not participate in various interest classes. Creampie completed versatile child. T\’s family is of average background, and her parents attach great importance to education. Through careful observation and many communications with their daughter, her parents finally started to sign her up for a painting class when she was in the third grade of elementary school. T probably also likes painting very much, and has always studied it very carefully. She has been taking painting classes from elementary school to high school. I was admitted to the Guangzhou Academy of Fine Arts with excellent results in the college entrance examination. After graduation, I was favored by a well-known company, received a high salary, and lived the life I wanted. In his spare time, he never forgets to create. His works have won numerous awards and he has become very famous in the circle at a young age. Children should participate in interest classes, but they must not be blind, follow the trend, half-hearted, burdensome, or give up easily. On the contrary, it is self-defeating, all previous efforts are wasted, and the child\’s childhood is wasted. When choosing an interest class for your child, you must think about: Why should your child learn this? Do children like it? Can the child persist? What should you do when your child doesn’t want to learn? How much energy does she have to learn this? Among the only 16 hours that children can spare on weekends, they choose football, dance or piano for some reason. Children\’s time is different from clothes and shoes. When these things are worn out, you can throw them away and buy new ones, but once children\’s time is spent, there is no way to get it back. So eachThe choice of extracurricular classes and interest classes should not be a decision made at once. So how do you help your children make choices? From my personal educational point of view, in addition to examining the level and qualifications of the interest class itself, parents must also weigh around three points: Taking into account the scientific growth law of children, that is, what is the child developing at his current age? Will your choices help him grow better? Children are not born with instructions, so parents need to learn this knowledge in particular. Many excellent books and lectures can be your good teachers and helpful friends. It is related to the child’s characteristics/natural temperament. It is obviously not appropriate to force a very introverted child to participate in small host or performance classes and compete with children who are naturally expressive. Is the atmosphere in the entire family encouraging or disapproving? How receptive are other members of the family to this talent or hobby? For example, a father who loves sports can invisibly convey the message to his children that exercise is a habit, which can reduce the need for a lot of earnest persuasion such as \”Don\’t stay home.\” Life is not a battle. Nothing is lost at the starting line. Life is a marathon of self-growth and self-realization. When you determine the talents you want to learn, you should plan to treat and use them throughout your life. If you want your children to continue attending interest classes, you might as well start with the following points: Respect your children’s wishes. Many children are not willing to study in interest classes. A considerable number of them are arranged by their parents. Many children have countless ideas about what they should learn and whether they want to learn a certain specialty. Going to interest classes is completely Parents’ wishful thinking. In this way, if the child lacks interest in learning the content, not only will it fail to achieve the desired results, but it will also hinder the normal development of the child\’s EQ and IQ. According to the child\’s personality characteristics, make use of strengths and avoid weaknesses. For example, children who are quiet and introverted can sit still and are good at observing and discovering the connections and differences between things. They can consider hobbies such as Go and scientific experiments; children who are outgoing, lively and talkative can consider interest classes such as language and performance. Hands-on activities Children with strong abilities can consider disassembly and assembly of robots, model airplanes and other fine interests. To understand the teaching experience of the teacher, it is best to listen to the teacher teach a few classes to see if the teacher is suitable for the child. For example, if your child is enrolled in a Mathematical Olympiad class, it is best for parents to listen to it first. However, if conditions do not allow parents to attend the class, they can often discuss the solution to a certain problem with their children. Generally speaking, if a child can clearly explain the origin of the method to his parents in a variety of ways, he can have a general understanding of the teacher\’s situation. It is better to be deficient than excessive. The more interest classes you enroll in, the greater the pressure on your children and their attention will be easily distracted. It is recommended that you select only 1-2 classes for your children. Take a multi-pronged approach to give children sufficient motivation to learn. The company of family members is indispensable when children attend interest classes. When children want to give up, parents must encourage them and accompany them through every hurdle. Some scientific researchers in the United States have discovered through research that it is not IQ that determines a child\’s future, but persistence. On the way to interest classes, it is impossible to go smoothly. Only by persevering can you gain something.