I\’m going to kindergarten, mom, don\’t worry

A mother told me that she was particularly troubled when choosing a kindergarten for her child. She couldn’t get into a public kindergarten that was close to her home, and private kindergartens were a bit far away because of their high fees. The most important thing was that she couldn’t accept that her children were so far away from her all of a sudden. . She wants to accompany her child in early education classes for another year and then send him to kindergarten when he is four years old. I feel the same way as this mother. Because Xiaowei is about to reach the age of entering kindergarten, the self-proclaimed Virgo mother has been secretly anxious countless times. Regarding Xiaowei: He has such a strong personality that he will call his mother anxiously if the track is not properly set up. In kindergarten, if he fails to learn and does not get timely help, will he cry? His way of expression is so direct, with emotions and anger on his face: \”I don\’t like you\”, \”Don\’t disturb me\”. In kindergarten, if he said this to his teachers or classmates, would he be ostracized? When he is bullied, he doesn\’t know how to resist. He is also particularly prone to crying when he feels aggrieved. How helpless would he be if he was beaten in kindergarten? Regarding kindergartens: The kindergarten in our community is close, but is it any good? Others have said it\’s pretty good. Do we have different requirements? What are the qualifications of the teachers? Have you systematically studied child psychology and early childhood education theory? Will it practice the educational concepts of love and freedom? Does the teacher have children himself, and does he have love for his children? There are so many and noisy children, will they be beaten and scolded if they are annoyed? Do the recreational facilities meet safety standards? Is the newly laid plastic playground toxic? Are security facilities in place? Does the school have teachers who know first aid and can take emergency measures immediately if a child has an accident? Where do you purchase the food in the canteen? You won’t buy substandard products for your children as exposed in the news, right? About me: Do you want to take a week off to spend time with your child to get through the separation anxiety when he enters kindergarten? After getting off work so late every day, you can\’t not pick up your children even once, right? Otherwise, why don\’t you just quit your job and stay at home with him? (I once thought about working in a kindergarten) If my child was abused at school, should I control my emotions and deal with it rationally, or should I simply rush in and solve it with force? (Well, when I was angered by the endless incidents of child abuse in society, I thought of the benefits of using force to solve it more than once.)… We must solemnly entrust our favorite children to some strangers. Maybe at this time, everyone Moms may become picky + anxious Virgos. Of course, I didn\’t show any anxiety in front of Xiaowei. When he was very young, we often carried him to the gate of the community kindergarten to play and sang him the children\’s song: \”I love my kindergarten. There are many friends in the kindergarten. They sing and dance. We are so happy together.\” When he was a little older, Xiaowei showed great interest in the playground equipment in the kindergarten. Sometimes he would be put in to play for a while. Sometimes he would cry when he couldn\’t get in. I told him: \”Don\’t worry, when you go to kindergarten, you can play here every day.\” When he could read, I deliberately prepared a lot of picture books about kindergarten themes or about group life: \”Forgot to Tell Me\” Love you\”,\”Kiss Baby·Kindergarten Themed Picture Book\”, \”David Gets into Trouble\”, \”I Love Kindergarten\”, \”A Day in Kindergarten\”, \”I\’m the Best in Kindergarten\”, \”Thomas Series\”, \”Beibei Bear Series\”, \”Little Peppa Pig\” and so on. Of course, there are also safety education and sex education themed picture books: \”I Won\’t Follow You\”, \”Don\’t Try to Bully Me\”, \”The Story of Little Dick\”, \”Oriental Children\’s Sex Education Picture Book\” and so on. Most of the time, these measures are effective, and Xiaowei has always been full of longing for life in kindergarten. A few days ago, when I solemnly mentioned to him the \”interview\” for admission to the kindergarten in the community as \”good news\”, he was also very excited. He dipped it in sesame sauce and gnawed the dry bun slices baked by his grandma, while kicking the underside of the table with his feet. I put a stainless steel heat-insulated rack on it, and then kept saying: \”I can go to kindergarten because I can eat steamed buns, eat sesame paste, drink soup, brush my teeth, go to the toilet by myself, and lift bags.\” Pants, I can play with trains, I can play with Peppa Pig -\” Then he looked at the stainless steel heat-insulated frame he was kicking and said seriously: \”I can kick the pot…\” The whole family burst into laughter for a minute… Of course sometimes There will also be some BUGs. For example, there is a picture book in \”Kiss Baby·Kindergarten Theme Picture Book\” called \”If There Are No Other Children\”. The original intention is to tell children: It is not good to be self-absorbed and have no friends. Only life with children is fun. As a result, Xiaowei put the cart before the horse and learned the classic sentences in it: \”These things belong to me alone!\” \”They will not be played with other children!\” (Okay…need to continue education) After such a long period of psychological construction , maybe Xiaowei is ready, but I am the one who is not. The day before yesterday, I took a special day off to accompany Xiaowei to attend the kindergarten entrance \”interview\”. I made a facial mask, put on makeup, put on a little hat, and told Xiaowei: \”Because today is a very important day, my mother is very happy, so I have to dress up carefully!\” In the kindergarten, the interview with the teacher was very important. Happy, Xiaowei is a little shy, just playing with a puzzle toy. The teacher marveled at the speed and accuracy of his puzzles, and I proudly replied: \”It\’s just trivial for Xiaowei to play complex puzzles with dozens of pieces at home!\” Come to think of it, I shouldn\’t have to worry about Xiaowei: he is very good at puzzles. He is very calm when playing complex puzzles. He is also good at acting, loves to talk and laugh, and has strong language skills. He should be very popular with teachers; he can brush his teeth, eat with a spoon, and take the initiative to go to the toilet. He is a teacher in life. A little more assistance shouldn\’t be a problem. After the \”interview\”, we played on the playground for a while, and I observed the teachers and children who were having physical education class. Indeed, teachers do not meet my perfectionistic requirements. They are just a group of young girls, and they are not as methodical and patient as I am in talking to children. But at the same time, seeing the large group of children running wild and making trouble, I can understand them. If it were me, it would be difficult for me to maintain the image of a lady when facing so many children every day. Over there, Xiao Wei, who was having a lot of fun running up and down the slide, got into an argument with a kid for some reason. Because I sent a few WeChat messagesHe didn\’t see what happened. He only saw Xiao Wei pouting in grievance and going to hit the kid. I\’m dizzy. When did the little guy who only cried when he was bullied start chasing after him and fight back? I pulled Xiaowei away and asked him what was going on. He told me that the child hit him. I said: \”The child may not have done it intentionally the first time. Let\’s forgive him. If he hits you again, can you fight back?\” Xiaowei answered angrily: \”If he hits me again, I will kill him.\” He fell down in the grass!\” As he spoke, he waved his hands vigorously as if to hit him. I held back my laughter and said, \”Okay, let\’s hit the sky and hit the birds! Look, there are a group of birds!\” Xiaowei fell into the trap and looked up at the sky, bursting into tears and laughing. ​It seems that I don’t need to worry about my children being bullied at school. The next issue I need to pay attention to is: tell the child the appropriateness to fight back (well, yes, I am not the kind of parent who advocates being submissive and not fighting back). After these trivial things, I suddenly thought about it. In order to facilitate pick-up and drop-off, I chose this kindergarten in the community. I knew very well that it was not the best, and I felt a little guilty and unwilling to do so. More importantly, I have the same thoughts as the mother at the beginning. I wish I could keep my child by my side for a longer time, but I can’t bear to let him go through unknown tests and challenges. But now that I think about it, it doesn’t matter. Society is never ideal. My beloved child cannot always be pampered and loved by us and grow up without experiencing a little grievance and pain. He also needs to face people with various personalities and complex environments, and then learn different communication methods and various ways of dealing with the world. After being criticized, beaten, and excluded, after crying, you always have to find a way to solve it. This is also a necessary process for growth. The most important thing is that I understand him and love him. When he is wronged, when he is helpless, when he goes through the wind and rain outside, he still has me. This is enough. In any case, my child will soon take his first step into society. Such a lovely young man! World, please take care of him!