Letting my children go to school early is the thing I regret most in my life.

A few days ago, I took Xiao Nuo to play on the slide in the community. I met a grandma who was also playing there with her grandson. We chatted for a few words. She asked what class Xiao Nuo was in. I said small class. She said the small class was so big. I explained The child is said to be young, born in September, and is already 5 years old (virtual age). Grandma immediately felt sorry for me and said it was a pity to go to school a year late. Why don\’t you think of a solution? Many people have asked me this question before, why do so many people like to send their children to school early? This question once again brought back a painful memory for me. My sister Xiaoxi was born in July, and we moved to a new home when she was about to turn 3 years old. After moving, Xiaoxi and her original friends were separated, and she seemed very lonely for a while. I was still working at that time, and Xiaoxi was taken care of by her grandma during the day. Grandma has a quiet and reserved personality, and is slow to familiarize herself with new surroundings. In addition, she doesn’t speak Mandarin well, so she doesn’t like to go out. So Xiaoxi spends most of her time at home watching TV. My husband and I discussed whether we should send our children to kindergarten early. The corresponding kindergarten is in the community next door, with a wall in the middle and a walk of more than 100 meters. It is a private kindergarten, but the fees for children in our community are based on the standards of public kindergartens. The kindergarten has a nursery class for children between the ages of 2 and 3. Private kindergartens do not have strict restrictions on admission time. As long as there are places, you can enroll at any time. I found out from the principal that the day care class is currently full and the school will open an additional small class in September. She suggested that we go directly to the small class in September. I registered the information as an alternate team member: the school will notify us once someone leaves the care class early. A few days later, the principal called me and said that there were no places for the kindergarten class, but there was one for the primary (2) class, and asked if we would consider it. The principal added that there is a big age gap between the children. Xiaoxi’s birthday is in July, so she is very young even if she is placed in a day care class, so she reminded us to be cautious. My husband and I discussed it for a few days: There are still four months until school starts in September, and it is not an option to leave the children at home to watch Pleasant Goat from morning to night. Moreover, following the older children may yield good results, so we decided to let the younger children watch Pleasant Goat from morning to night. Xi went to small class. On the first day, my grandma and I sent Xiaoxi, who was full of longing for kindergarten, to the door of the classroom. After we turned around and left, she cried so hard behind her. Not long after, I found that Xiao Xi no longer liked to say hello to others. Later, I discovered that when she met adults she knew, she would often hide behind me, acting withdrawn or even afraid. The next day, after I sent my child to the classroom, I went to the principal to discuss it, saying that he would not go to school until the end of this month, and that he would not be admitted to a small class until September when school starts. After bidding farewell to the principal, I did not go home immediately. I stood outside the fence of the kindergarten, mingling among a group of grandparents watching the children doing exercises, planning to follow them. I saw the children from Class 2 lining up, and Xiao Xi, who was short, was at the front. When you get to the designated position and stand, the music is playing, the teacher is leading the exercises in front, and the children are all doing the exercises seriously. Only Xiaoxi stood at the front of the team. She looked at the teacher in a daze, and her bewildered look made me feel like I was in the middle of it, suffering. The child probably hasn’t learned how to do exercises, no one has taught her! After playing two songs, Xiaoxi suddenly cried.The teacher who was standing opposite her and leading the exercises stopped what she was doing, came over and touched her head, said a few words of comfort, and continued to lead the exercises. My tears flowed out loudly and I couldn\’t wipe them away. The child must feel ashamed because she is the only one who cannot do exercises. She is nervous, helpless, and even has low self-esteem. I feel the same way as she feels at this moment. After the song was played, the gymnastics ended, and the national flag began to be raised. All the children stood facing the national flag. Seeing Xiao Xi\’s relief, I felt even more heartbroken and blamed myself. After they returned to the classroom, I went to the principal\’s office again. With tears streaming down my face, I told the principal that Xiaoxi would not come to school tomorrow and she would not need the tuition fees she had paid. I only asked the teacher of Class 2 to tell Xiaoxi that her vacation would start tomorrow… In the next almost two months, I spent countless efforts and energy to correct the mistakes I made. In more than a month after she stopped going to school, this was the first time that Xiao Xi was willing to play with children. I was so excited that I almost cried. With this beginning, the lively and cheerful Xiao Xi finally slowly came back. It took me two months to make up for the damage caused to her by studying in the last month, but I don’t know if the repairs have been completed as before! Going to school early, changing classes, mixing ages… I can\’t summarize the lessons one by one. I just hope that through my experience, I can draw everyone\’s attention!