No matter how good the family education concept is, it cannot be compared to these four words.

Yesterday morning, Tinkerbell woke up early, moved her little butt and climbed on top of me, blinked and stared at me for a long time, then came up to my face and kissed me, and I made an exaggerated expression sweetly. , he was happy when he saw it, and continued to kiss her. Dingdang\’s dad was envious for a while, and he also leaned over and asked pleadingly: \”Baby, daddy is here, and there is daddy.\” Dingdang grinned and smiled, humming, wading over mountains and rivers, climbed over me, and got in In his father\’s arms, the child he was kissing was drooling all over his face. On such a cold winter morning, Xiansen Liu and I were both warm and melted into the soft sugar-coated shells of Tinkerbell, completely ignoring the fatigue caused by him making us stay up all night last night. This little guy is only one year old, but his warm and masculine physique is already showing signs of success. After I woke up, I posted this episode to my friend group. Not long after, I saw a reply from my friend: \”Every little bit of Tinkerbell\’s growth has made me more and more convinced that a warm family atmosphere is the best thing for children. A good upbringing and loving parents can allow children to inherit the ability to love.\” This lovely and beautiful message reminds me of a sentence: \”A happy childhood replicates happiness. If childhood is painful, we are more likely to replicate pain. Loving parents, Children learn to love, copy love, inherit love”. From the perspective of marriage and love, if you experience a loving childhood from your parents, you are more likely to have a happy marriage as an adult. I was chatting with a friend a few days ago, and she said that a large part of my determination and belief in happiness should come from the sense of security that started in childhood. I don’t agree. Although my parents were not as naïve as modern people, they could still be considered romantic in their time. It cannot be denied that they often quarrel, but after every quarrel, I can smell the scent of love again. I remember one time, they ignored each other after arguing. The laughter and laughter in the house were no longer there, replaced by coldness and silence. He shuttled carefully between his parents, always keeping his fragile little heart tight. At such a young age, I actually imitated the adults and secretly knelt in front of the cross at home, praying that my parents would reconcile and never be separated. Later, my dad wrote a letter to my mom. I still remember that my parents and my three brothers and sisters were lying on the bed together, and we were lying between them. Dad softly read every word in the letter to my mother and me. I couldn\’t understand those long sentences, but I only remembered that every sentence my father read had the word \”wife\” at the beginning. I asked my mother, \”What does wife mean?\” Huh?\” Mom looked at Dad, and the two looked at each other and smiled. At that moment, the world became bright. The marriages of my parents\’ generation were either quarrelsome and indifferent, sometimes stable, or tolerant and complementary, and rarely romantic or loving. And all behaviors based on these patterns are foreshadowing the future love and marriage of children. Throughout our lives, we will invisibly inherit our parents’ understanding of love and the way they love others. In my childhood, although there were frequent conflicts between my parents, more often than not, they showed me a gentle, loving, generous and relaxed relationship, which also gave me the initial concept of marriage. When a couple is together, they should be interactive, happy, and loving. Every year, a few days before Dad’s birthday, MomHe would tell us solemnly: \”Dad will have his birthday in a few days. Should we prepare a gift for him together?\” So, we have remembered the birthdays of our father and mother since we were young, and meet them every year. I carefully prepare gifts for them, including greeting cards, small paintings, and limericks. Every year on that day, I feel that we are as sacred as Santa Claus, sneaking out in the middle of the night and putting gifts next to their pillows or in their briefcases. inside. And this kind of family tradition has gradually been ingrained into my life thinking. I value the sense of ritual and like to create loving gifts and touching memories for people around me. This can form a warm magnetic field, which brings me countless benefits, so whether it is friendship or love, I have gained a lot. When I was a child, my father often wrote letters to my mother, although I didn’t know what was written in the letters. But seeing the happy look in my mother’s eyes when she hugged me and read the letter, I thought this was a particularly beautiful thing. Later, when I met Liu Xiansen, I also followed this tradition of writing. No matter how long we have been together, we have never given up using words, emails, and text messages to express our feelings to each other. In this way, Liu Xiansen and I often receive extraordinary surprises and touches. Now, I have become a parent who is not afraid to show affection in front of my children. For me, the most effective educational concepts are no match for these four words: Parental Love. The details of the ordinary love between my parents are spread throughout all the years I have grown up and now as a wife and mother. These concepts and details have infiltrated my understanding of love and life, and helped me to have a happy marriage now, and to the three of us today. For children, the people who have the greatest influence on them are their parents. A child\’s childhood is closely dependent on his parents, and they live together day and night. The atmosphere of the family and the way parents get along with each other will deeply infiltrate the child\’s soul and affect the way he loves and chooses as an adult. Every child is like a seed. The family environment reflected by parents\’ love for each other is gentle, tolerant, and mutually helpful. Only such a gentle land can allow small seeds to absorb the essence and nutrients of life without distraction. Absorbing the external sunlight, breaking out of the ground, blooming into a better life, thereby obtaining a softer and better life of her own. So what I am most grateful to my parents for is not providing me with food, clothing, and educating me. I am most grateful to them for using the light romanticism of that era to teach me in life how to love my family and children properly, and to enjoy the grace of being loved happily. To me, parents who love each other can give their children the most desired, most meaningful sense of security in the details of family life. Screenwriter Bo Bonnie said that the greatest wealth left to her by her parents is their love for each other – \”Because the energy of love is strong, it is especially easy to believe that we will be happy. This is the foundation given to me by my family.\” And most Chinese families, when they have After having children, they no longer value the emotional communication and interaction between husband and wife. She is even as afraid of love as a tiger, fearing that even the smallest gesture of intimacy will be seen by her children, lest this love be misused. Once there is this kind of fear of love between husband and wife, it will form an inertia in the accumulation of life, resulting in the weakening and indifference of the relationship between husband and wife.See. Without loving communication and interaction between parents, the family atmosphere will also cool down, and children will subconsciously feel that \”love\” is shameful and unbearable. These will have a profound negative impact on the children\’s future marriage and love. Only parental love in the world leads to separation. From the moment the child is born, he is gradually separated from us. Before the child becomes an adult, the only thing we can do is to teach him the ability of \’love and happiness\’ subtly and subtly in his life. After he becomes an adult, let go and give him freedom. From then on, love and happiness will be his independent responsibility. Free choice. Therefore, in the family life of raising Dingdang, Liu Xiansen and I have always been a pair of passionate little lovers. We did not deliberately create it, but naturally practiced the habit of love in the upbringing, and practiced love subtly in our lives. education. Expressing love and liking to each other is always a happy thing. Liu Xiansen often performs his own tongue twister in front of Dingdang: \”Dad loves mother, mother loves baby, baby loves daddy.\” Dingdang would smile every time he heard it and reach out for a hug. In front of him, we would kiss and hug naturally. Every time Liu Xiansen hugged me and kissed me, Dingdang would dance with joy, then crawl over and imitate my father, give me a kiss on the face, and then look up. He nodded and pouted, asking his father to kiss him too. After having Dingdang, I have a particularly deep feeling that the best thing a father can do for his child is to love his mother well. As long as the mother is nourished by sufficient love, her heart will be soft and gentle. She will turn this love into the motivation to give, benefiting every family member and creating a true, gentle and happy family. atmosphere, and the most direct and biggest beneficiaries of these are children. If every family has a belief, I hope that Liu Xiansen and I can inherit the \’habits of love\’, uphold the \’belief of love\’, lay a \’foundation of love\’ for Dingdang, and let him inherit the \’ability to love\’. Because I feel that true wealth is not purely material support. Even if we cannot give our children a rich and worry-free life, we can embrace our lover and children tenderly in a warm house, so that children can feel love and learn to love. , tell the baby in our arms that we love each other and that we love you very much.