The child cried when I beat him, but I don’t regret it at all

They all say you shouldn’t spank your children, but sometimes if you don’t give something serious, you really don’t know what the consequences will be in the future. Some time ago, I took my son back to my hometown in the countryside. There are many older children in the neighborhood. My son was a little shy at first, but soon he was infected by the enthusiasm of other children and started playing with bears outside the house. Not long after, the laughter outside the house suddenly disappeared. I felt anxious and ran out immediately. Those naughty kids are all gone, and so is my son! I felt my heartbeat suddenly speed up, and I felt a strong sense of suffocation. My brain quickly thought of countless possibilities: Where are the children? You won\’t be abducted, right? Where did it go? Where should I look? I was about to burst into tears and mobilized my neighbors to look for the children together. As a result, my son and his group were discovered by the creek not far behind the house. They are catching small fish. The son is the youngest among them, but he stands closest to the stream. My anger came over me uncontrollably. After seeing the cold and rapid stream and my son covered in mud, all the previous nervousness turned into anger. The other children were taken home one by one, but the son still insisted on seeing the small fish in the water. After telling me to go home with a straight face several times but he remained calm, I exploded completely, grabbed my son and slapped him hard on the buttocks several times. \”Why don\’t you tell me when you run out to play?? And, how many times have I said it! You can play, but you must pay attention to safety. You can\’t go on the road or by the river. Playing in the water is very dangerous. Do you know how worried my mother was just now?\” The son didn\’t care about his personal safety and started to cry loudly. From the time he was born to now, I have never hit him or even spoken loudly. This time, I was really angry. That night, my son was still very angry and refused to talk to me. He kept yelling that I was a bad mother. When I was taking a shower, I saw the red finger prints on my son\’s fair skin that were particularly clear, and his eyes were crying like an aggrieved little white rabbit. I felt so distressed. But after I apologized sincerely, gave me a lollipop, and talked for a long time, he finally forgave me. Afterwards, I asked him: If someone asks you to go to the river, will you still go? He said: I won’t go. Because of danger. I don\’t know if he was scared of being slapped by me, or if he really realized that he couldn\’t go alone to the river. In short, these slaps should be an unforgettable lesson in his life. Not long ago, France passed a law banning corporal punishment of children. Behaviors such as spanking and ear-pulling are explicitly prohibited. But 70% to 80% of French parents believe that it is their right to discipline their children by spanking them. In fact, as a parent, I know how painful it is when I spank my children. I once saw a news story about a naughty child who threw heavy objects on a high-rise building in the community. Although he did not cause any harm to the pedestrians below, he was still beaten with scars all over his body by his father. Dad\’s behavior has been supported by many netizens. To be honest, if a spanking can make the child remember it for a long time and not do harm to others or himself, then it is worth it. You just need to grasp the \”temperature\”: 1. You must know that spanking children is not for the purpose of doing harm to others or themselves. outgas. In fact, I had very strong emotional factors involved in spanking my child this time. It is wrong to be extra nervous because you are afraid of losing. Fortunately, I was forgiven by my son afterwards, and he also said that he would never worry my mother again. Well, punishment is punishment, and you can\’t let the child leave a shadow. 2. Tell the child what he did wrong. The purpose of spanking is education. If the child is not told where he made a mistake and how to correct it, even if he is spanked, it will only be negative work and will not change anything. The child will still make mistakes if he should. It is best to help the child set rules after the spanking, so that it will be much easier in the future. 3. Timely punishment is effective. Although children are young and naive, they can also know whether they have made mistakes from the adults\’ reactions. Timely punishment is most effective when the child is still impressed by the mistake. If you punish him after a long time, he will only remember the bad things about his parents. 4. Remember to comfort after the injection. In fact, children are innocent and lovely, and they forgive those who love them very quickly. If it is inconvenient for you, you can ask your partner to mediate and get your child\’s forgiveness. In short, let the child understand that his parents still love him. 5. Pay attention to the area you hit. Never touch your ears or head, even if you are angry. To be honest, it\’s just for education. Children\’s heads are fragile. If something goes wrong, they will regret it for the rest of their lives. Finally, I would like to say a few words: Children who are often spanked will not correct their mistakes after they realize it. If you want your children to make fewer mistakes, you must not develop the habit of spanking them. Use it occasionally when necessary to impress your children. Again, what parents need to learn most is how to control their emotions. Violence cannot solve all problems.