The eldest brother is always sick, but the second child is healthier. Here’s why

A few days ago, I met the mother of Xiaonuo’s kindergarten classmate Qiqi and chatted with her for a few words. I learned that Qiqi kept catching colds this semester and did not go to school for about half of the time. She got pneumonia not long ago and relapsed a few days after she recovered. . Qiqi\’s parents are both at work. She is usually picked up and taken care of by her grandfather. After she fell ill, she had to go to the hospital for infusion every day, so her mother had to take leave to take care of her at home. After guarding the child with a high fever all night, the mother had herpes on her lips and looked a little haggard. The kindergarten class has a parent WeChat group, and every morning there are always parents asking for sick leave for their children. Qiqi’s name does appear relatively frequently. Her mother asked me if there is any way to improve the child’s resistance. Taking stock of Xiaonuo\’s attendance rate this semester, the results are quite satisfactory: perfect attendance in September (asking for leave on her birthday to get vaccinated); three days after the National Day in October, she was infected with hand, foot and mouth disease, and had a high fever for one day without seeing a doctor. The fever subsided, and then more than 10 small red dots appeared on the palms and soles of the feet. The condition was much milder than that of other infected students in the same class. In November, the high fever went away on its own in one day, and he returned to school after resting at home for three days. Since December, he has been in full attendance. Although this is related to the fact that Xiaonuo attended kindergarten for a year, she only caught a cold once in the first semester of kindergarten last year. Qiqi\’s condition reminds me of my sister Xiaoxi\’s appearance when she first entered kindergarten: she had several colds in September; she only went to school for three days in October; she had numerous colds in November; a cold caused pneumonia in December and she was hospitalized for 8 days and then went home to rest. , I didn’t go to school for the whole month; I had a few days off in January. In the second semester, when Xiaoxi went to school, some parents pointed at her doing exercises and said: There is a new girl in our class! The mother beside me was really crying. This situation lasted until the big class, and then it was considered to have fundamentally improved. With the same parents and the same family, why are the two sisters so physically different after entering kindergarten? After carefully reviewing the lives and physical conditions of the two children over the years, I found that the most important reason is the difference in parenting styles. It is said that the eldest brother is raised according to the book, and the second child is raised according to the pig. There is really a big difference between raising the child according to the book and the pig! The difference in diet is huge. The difference between our two children is not just taking care of books and taking care of pigs. My sister had her grandma to help her when she was a child. One child and two adults. It\’s my sister\’s turn, but she has two children and one adult. The daily care situation can be imagined. For example, my sister\’s food supplements are made very carefully. She eats the pork liver after scraping the blood with a kitchen knife and steaming it with water. It is extremely delicate; Soft and rotten or chopped directly; apples and bananas should be scraped and pureed; vegetables should also be chopped finely, for fear that she would not be able to swallow them; when she is two or three years old, three meals should be cooked for her alone. This not only whetted my sister\’s appetite, but also caused her chewing and swallowing functions to not be exercised. She could not chew slightly hard food and could not swallow large pieces. The younger sister, who was raised as a pig, is no longer as meticulous as she used to be, but is much more rugged. She eats three meals with the adults before she is two years old. She had never enjoyed scraping apples with a spoon, so she knew how to chew off the skin with her teeth. Not long ago, I wanted to eat pears, so I smashed the pears on the floor of the living room, picked them up and sucked the pear juice from the cracks. My mother came out after washing the dishes and saw that she wanted to wash them. She still disagreed and said that it would not taste sweet after washing.Yes, it’s sad to say it. The result is a child who can drink large amounts of milk, eat large portions of meat, tolerate hot and cold foods, and choose fruits and vegetables. At the same time, my sister, who was raised too meticulously when she was a child, still chews her meals carefully and very slowly. The sister who is raised as a pig can feed herself quickly. As we all know, the meals in kindergarten are prepared in advance and served in the classroom, and the temperature is definitely not high. If a child eats slowly, it means that the food is cold by the end. Cold food in the intestines and stomach is not conducive to digestion and absorption, and may cause diarrhea. Over time, it will be harmful to the body in various ways. The thickness of clothes makes a big difference. When my sister first went to kindergarten, I was still an office worker, and my grandma was responsible for the daily transportation and daily care. In winter, the elderly are always worried that their children will catch cold, so they often wear thicker clothes. This makes children less interested in exercising or prone to sweating after exercise. The sweat on the body is covered and evaporated by body temperature, making them particularly susceptible to colds. Now my sister wears relatively thin clothes. She has been wearing three pieces of clothing throughout the winter: underwear, a knitted sweater and a jacket, and only wears two pairs of pants. When the weather gets cold, replace your thin coat with a thicker coat. In the classroom and at home, replace the thick coat with a thin coat. This will not affect the children\’s exercise at all, and will not cause sweating due to excessive heat. As the saying goes, \”One third is hungry and one is cold\”, which makes perfect sense! The hygiene situation is very different. My sister has been washing her hands and changing clothes frequently since she was a child. She has to choose the time when she goes out every day, whether it is early or late. If you see a child who is sick with a cold, take a detour and generally come into contact with less germs. Before entering kindergarten, she rarely got sick, with a total of two or three colds in three years. This may result in her immunity not being exercised. After entering kindergarten, I came into contact with a lot of children. One child sneezed on a ball, and another took a bite of a toy. Bacteria were transmitted through the toys, and cross-infection was inevitable. Therefore, my sister kept getting sick after entering kindergarten. On the other hand, my sister, because of poor care and her impatience, sometimes washes her hands before meals very perfunctorily, and may even forget about it. When I was a child, it often happened that I would eat my hands after rolling around on the ground. It can be said that I have never paid special attention to hygiene. Every time her sister gets sick, she has no choice but to face it directly, and has to accompany her to the hospital to come into contact with countless sources of infection. I don\’t understand medicine, maybe moderate exposure to bacteria, just like vaccination, can improve the body\’s resistance? Or is it that it is rare for children in rural areas to get sick when they go to kindergarten, and only the pampered children in the city get sick as soon as they enter kindergarten? The child\’s self-care ability is very different. The child\’s grandmother is a very diligent and capable person. She took good care of our family\’s daily life. However, this also caused worries about my sister\’s ability to take care of herself. She is in the middle class of kindergarten. When my sister goes out in the morning, her grandma carefully helps her put on her shoes, zip up or button her coat. On the other hand, my younger sister, Xiao Nuo, can put on her own shoes and socks when she is over 2 years old. If she accidentally wets her pants, she can go to the closet to find clean ones and put them on by herself. At first, I stubbornly insisted on wearing two different socks when going out, but now I can choose the right clothes according to the season. The zipper on the jacket was zipped up quickly, and even the buttons were not a problem. I gave her a bath every night, put on a close-fitting top, and wrapped her in a bath towel, and she would do it on her own.Walk back to your room, sit on the bed and put on your inner and outer pants, sweater and socks. Is there any relationship between self-care ability and children\’s physical condition? Of course! It still has a lot to do with it. When the child wakes up from a nap in kindergarten, if the child can put on his own clothes and put them on as soon as he comes out of bed, he can avoid catching cold to the greatest extent. If the children have to sit and wait for the teacher to help, there are twenty or thirty children in a class, two teachers and one aunt, and it is impossible for everyone to take care of them in time. Even if the air conditioner is turned on, they will easily catch cold. Aftercare is very different. When my sister got sick when she was a child, we all had to go to the hospital at any time. In the three years before entering the kindergarten, although she had very few colds, she had to go to the hospital a lot. For example, an eyelash ran into her eye, she didn\’t have a bowel movement for several days, and she had a lot of prickly heat in the summer… …After entering kindergarten, I had to go to the hospital if I had a cold or a cough. If I had a fever, the whole family would be nervous and go to the hospital immediately. When you go to the hospital, no matter how serious your condition is, the doctor usually prescribes medicine. The final result is that my sister must go to the hospital when she is sick and either take medicine or infusion, otherwise she will not recover. When it comes to my younger sister\’s age, on the one hand, I have no skills at all, but on the other hand, I am \”experienced\” and am not alarmed by changes. If you have a runny nose, give him some boiled water with green onion. If you have a cough without phlegm, give him some pears or some boiled pear water. If she has a cold and a fever, if she has no other symptoms, let her drink more boiled water and sleep more. Check her temperature regularly. If it is too high, let her drink some ibuprofen suspension and cooperate with physical cooling. Generally, she will not go to the hospital within two or three days. Don\’t take any other medicine. The current situation is: my 12-year-old sister has a fever and must go to the hospital as soon as possible. My 5-year-old sister has a fever and usually gets better after sleeping for a day. The eldest child is raised according to the book, and the second child is raised like a pig. The different raising methods not only make the eldest child stupid and the second child smart, but also cause the eldest child to get sick all the time, while the second child is healthier! If your child keeps getting sick even after entering kindergarten, please reflect on whether he has been \”raising him according to the book\”? How about trying to \”raise like a pig\”?