My child, no matter how hard it is, my mother will choose to be strong for you.

About the year before last, when I was living in Changsha, I was fortunate enough to visit the home of a single mother in the same community. When my child in junior high school came home from school, her mother and I were sitting on the sofa in the living room chatting. The elf came in, changed his shoes at the entrance, and called Auntie affectionately. Then, she took out a bouquet of lilies from her back and handed it to her mother and said, \”Dang, Dang, your beautiful Queen, this bouquet of perfume lilies is for you. I wish you a speedy recovery.\” The mother, who was originally a little sick, was immediately amused by her daughter\’s humor. All smiles. Before it was over, the daughter who gave the flowers dropped her schoolbag and ran to the kitchen to look for an apron. Seeing my puzzled face, the elf poked his head out of the kitchen and said with a bright smile: \”Auntie, you can eat at our house, I\’ll make braised pork.\” In just a few minutes, I said to the mother and daughter, to This single-parent family was impressed. In the past, I always thought that children from single-parent families were paranoid and had low self-esteem, but this child changed my view. While chatting with the child\’s mother, I learned that she is a shopping guide in a large supermarket with a monthly income ranging from 3,000 to 5,000. The child\’s father, who has reorganized his family after divorce, gives the child 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses. This is what the mother and daughter are doing. All financial sources. Another point is that a fire many years ago left a very conspicuous scar on this mother\’s forehead. Mother and daughter don\’t have much income, but their lives are very organized. Every month after her mother gets her salary, she will take the initiative to discuss with her daughter how to spend the money this month, what should be saved, what should be used as living expenses, and what should be their own pocket money. After the allocation, my mother will take out the money to be spent for the next week from the bank every Sunday and put it in a drawer at home. Their home is a two-bedroom and two-living room of more than 80 square meters left behind when their father abandoned the family. One side of the living room is a TV wall and the other side is a bookcase. The balcony is used to grow various vegetables. There are two wicker chairs and a small glass table in the corner covered by vines. Other than that, there are no fancy decorations in the house. Mom said that every month, she would arrange for 200 yuan in book purchasing expenses. Mother and daughter would each spend 100 yuan to buy their favorite books, and then read one book a week. After reading her own, they would exchange readings with each other. . On weekends, the child spends half the day at his father\’s house, playing with his half-brother, and the other half of the day taking care of the vegetables on the balcony with his mother. The rest of the time is allocated by the child himself. Usually, the children will clean the house and cook a sumptuous meal to share with their mother when she comes back from get off work. If the weather is nice, mother and daughter will ride bicycles together in the countryside. I very carefully asked this single mother a question: \”Your child\’s father abandoned you, don\’t you and your child hate him?\” The mother replied: \”I hated you at first, but when you think about life, everyone has their own pursuits. I won’t worry about it anymore. When we were divorced, the child was a little resistant to her father starting a family again, but gradually, seeing that I always encouraged her to be tolerant and accepting, she became less resistant. Now she goes with her brother every week Sometimes I would bring my younger brother to our house to play. I think this is good. No matter for adults or children, it is much better for everyone to live in harmony than to hate each other.\”The most important thing is probably the summer vacation. My mother will save her annual leave for this time every year. She and her daughter will go on long trips together, take photos together, write travel notes together, and post on WeChat Moments together. I asked the elf, if you just post the photo on Moments like this, don’t you think the scar on your mother’s face is a bit ugly? The child shook his head and said, \”No, I think that scar is like a butterfly, with a flying posture. When I grow up, I want to be a woman like my mother.\” \”Be a woman like my mother\” – -This sentence expresses all the appreciation a child has for his mother. I don’t know how to praise this mother. She is not a strong woman. She does not give her children too much material and luxurious life, and she does not have a dazzling light. However, the children she educates have a sunny attitude, are polite to others, and understand Tolerance and acceptance. I met a friend from Sichuan in an e-commerce training class. This friend served up to seven years in prison due to triangular debt in his business a few years ago. When she left, the child was only seven years old. When she came back, the child was fourteen years old and stood taller than her mother. Soon, she discovered that there was a huge distance between the child\’s heart and hers. During the contact with the child\’s teacher, she learned that the child has often been ridiculed by his classmates because his mother was in prison. Some even attacked him and said that his mother was a liar who specialized in defrauding others of their money. As a result, the child had low self-esteem and was very depressed. Introverted. On the night after the conversation with the teacher, she took the initiative to have an in-depth communication with the child. She first apologized for the harm her past illegal behavior had caused to her children. Then, she took out a thick stack of articles she published in prison during those years and showed them to her children, and even talked frankly with her children about some details of life in prison. She told her children that a modern and civilized prison is not the slag cave of yesteryear, not a combination of violence and gloom. It is more like a university, which not only corrects the minds of prisoners, but also provides more opportunities for learning and growth. After this conversation, the child took the initiative to call mother for the first time. Next, in order to better accompany her children, she did not go far away like other ex-convicts to avoid rumors and social discrimination. Instead, she continued to write while learning how to run Taobao in rural areas at home. Soon, the child and his mother, who also liked writing, had a common topic. Later, his mother\’s rural Taobao store was doing well, and her writing began to show off. The children look at their mothers with more and more admiration and appreciation. Another thing that makes the child particularly happy is that his mother always encourages him to invite his classmates to play at home. When the classmates came, my mother not only prepared sumptuous meals and entertained them warmly, but also talked about interesting things about school with them. Sometimes I even take a group of little boys hiking, swimming or playing ball like a kid king. Three years have passed, and this mother from Daliangshan, Sichuan, has been running a rural Taobao store with great success. The child also became lively and cheerful. Not only did he get excellent grades, but he also became the envy of his classmates because he had an outstanding mother. How many single mothers turn the sorrow of a broken marriage into their own appearance, and even regard the betrayal of their children\’s father as a slogan; and how many mothers who seem to have a perfect marriage and a satisfactory job,Bring the occasional unhappiness in life into your home, and use gloomy emotions to cover your child\’s sky. God is cruel. He often causes our originally happy and stable lives to turn into ruins in an instant, or he sometimes creates problems in our lives. But the power of maternal love can never be measured. In these ruins, there are always some people – those called mothers, who use hard work and wisdom to create a new life. They may not have rich clothes and fine food in their lives, and they may not shine brightly among the crowd, but the sunshine and warmth they exude are enough to illuminate the path for children to grow up healthily.