A New Year without a sense of ritual creates a boring childhood for children

In life, I am a person with a special sense of \”rituals\”: a big meal on my birthday, a big meal on National Day, a big meal on Valentine\’s Day, a big meal on Children\’s Day, a big meal on the party\’s birthday, next door The domestic cat gave birth to a big meal… so it successfully ate itself into a fat piece of paper flying on the ground! However, this has not stopped me from loving life and respecting the \”sense of ritual\”. The sense of ritual every bit can make ordinary days shine and make boring time full of fun. Someone may ask, what is a \”sense of ritual\”? The fairy tale \”The Little Prince\” has this explanation of the \”sense of ritual\”: After the little prince came to see the fox, he came again the next day. Unexpectedly, the fox said: \”You\’d better come at the same time every day. For example, if you come at four o\’clock in the afternoon, then I will start to feel happy from three o\’clock. The closer the time is, the happier I will be… If you do whatever you want, When the time comes, I don’t know when to prepare my mood…there should be a certain ritual.\” In the eyes of the fox, waiting at a specific time has a sense of ritual. The sense of ritual is that the absent-minded life is occasionally grand, and the trivial and rough time is occasionally refined. The sense of ritual has a positive meaning to a person’s life, especially for children! When I was a child, I especially loved the Dragon Boat Festival. Every night before the Dragon Boat Festival, my mother would hang the twisted colorful thread out of the window to catch the dew. In May and June in the north, the spring is still cold and the dew is quite abundant. In the morning, when the colorful threads with coolness and fresh dew touched my skin, I squeaked and it felt like a ball of snow had been thrown into my neck. It was a kind of refreshing beauty. Many years later, I will still miss the touch of that kind of skin. It was so cool! When the first spring rain falls after the Dragon Boat Festival, we will cut off the colorful thread and throw it into the river and let it float away with the water. It is said that this can take away a year\’s diseases and troubles… Whenever this happens, My heart is full of tangles. I am looking forward to rain, but I also hope that the rain will come later so that I can wear the beautiful colorful thread for a few more days… The sense of ritual gradually merges into my soul. Every time, I will do it as a sacred pilgrimage, with awe and solemn expectations. The ritualistic fragments make us feel the beauty and exquisiteness of childhood. A life with a sense of ritual makes us feel special. The sense of ritual allows the shining childhood memories to be truly preserved and buried deep in our softest hearts. My good friend Muzi had a pair of enlightened parents who were rare in that era. They knew that raising children focused on educating them rather than feeding them. When Muzi was in elementary school, she received a love letter from a male classmate. Her parents did not make a fuss about it, but chose gifts with her, wrote a letter of rejection, and have kept her first love letter to this day. Muzi\’s first crawl, first walk, first time receiving a certificate… Her parents helped her record them and compiled them into a thick growth diary. Muzi\’s vegetable garden has a section dedicated to Muzi, where Muzi can plant the flowers he likes. Every time I see the \”wood trees\” in full bloom in the small vegetable garden,I would always be inexplicably envious when I saw the flower garden. But what really touched me was when Muzi gave me half a cantaloupe one summer. She told me that it was a melon she planted herself, and it only produced one. Dad Her mother asked her to share it with her good friends. She also named the cantaloupe – Xiaobai. I swear Xiaobai is the sweetest cantaloupe I have ever tasted, bar none. Because Xiaobai is the only one I have ever tasted. A cantaloupe with a name. Yes, the sense of ritual gave it a new taste bud and meaning. Many years later, I learned that a poet named Haizi wrote a popular poem – \”Facing the sea, warm spring flowers\” \”Open\”, there is such a sentence in it: \”Give every river and every mountain a warm name.\” This is the same as the little white in the memory. Naming is such a warm ceremony. Muzi has always maintained this As a habit, she treats every day and every little thing solemnly, giving it a sense of ritual with her love for life. In this way, she naturally turns her life into poetry. When her boyfriend is on a business trip, she will do something She served an exquisite dinner and told herself: \”You have to eat well alone.\” She was losing weight recently and bought a favorite dress. She said to the dress: \”I hope you will be with me on my birthday and waiting for me.\” Yes. For many people, breaking up may be just a matter of a WeChat message or a phone call. However, she made a special trip to her ex-boyfriend\’s city, had a formal breakup dinner with him, and then said to him: \”This is the last time I will do anything for you.\” After shedding tears and turning around, we are strangers from now on…\” Yes, this is the sense of ritual, which has nothing to do with pretentiousness. It is about our love for life and sensitivity to happiness. Many times, the sense of ritual helps us find an opportunity for us to Break with the past and embrace the beautiful self again. Muzi’s parents not only cultivated Muzi’s sense of ritual, but also gave Muzi a grateful heart. Today, Muzi is full of gratitude to her parents, who taught her to treat every ordinary thing solemnly. Days and every little thing, and gain the ability to be happy from them. It is the sense of ritual that awakens our inner respect and emotions and gives our lives a new meaning. A social and economic investigation by the Atlanta Journal in the United States found that, The happiness brought by \”gathering stories and memories\” at home is far greater than material satisfaction, and even exceeds academic and career achievements. Today, the pace of life is getting faster and faster, and urban people\’s The sense of happiness is getting lower and lower. What we can do is to give our children more happy memories by creating small rituals, so that they can become a person who knows how to be grateful, loves life, and respects life. For those who have been growing up since childhood A child who lacks a sense of ritual will definitely have a pale memory in his childhood, with less surprises and touches. The sense of ritual, in a certain sense, is equal to a sense of security, time, and happiness. For some major festivals, if we can Let your children live a more ritualistic life, and their childhood will be happier. The Spring Festival is coming, why don’t we take advantage of this holiday to do a few meaningful things with our children, so that they can understand the meaning of time and growth.Meaning: Tell the children about the meaning of \”year\” and the unique customs of the Spring Festival, and celebrate a Chinese-style festival like Christmas and Halloween; summarize the past year\’s events with the children, such as how much they have grown, how many friends they have made Who are your good friends, what are the happiest things, what books have you read…Look forward to the New Year with your children, where do you want to go to play, what wishes do you want to realize, what new specialty do you want to learn…record your children\’s New Year\’s wishes, and Encourage children to work hard to achieve; prepare a growth diary, ask the same questions every year, and record the children\’s answers. When your children grow up, read them out together and you will definitely laugh; plan a family trip with your children, make a travel photo album, and give the photo album to your children as a growing gift when they grow up;… Maybe you will say that your children still When I was young, I couldn’t remember the scene that day when I grew up. Yes, but he will definitely remember the love of his parents and the joy that the ceremony brought to him. So, start taking action now, let us ignite the love in children\’s hearts and start a happy life for them.