Don’t teach your children to be “beggars”

After the Chinese New Year, on the first day of work, I chatted with my colleague Xiaoxue about various experiences during the Spring Festival. Xiaoxue shook her head when she talked about the child of a relative of hers. The child is over ten years old, a few years older than her daughter. He doesn\’t know how to do anything. He only knows how to ask adults for money. During the New Year\’s Eve dinner, he just ate and did not toast or say any blessings to his elders. After eating, I felt like I was sitting on pins and needles, restless. His grandfather took out the red envelope, put it on the table, and joked: \”You toasted me, and you gave me the lucky money.\” Only then did Xiaoxue understand that the reason why he was restless was because he was waiting for the lucky money. When his mother saw her, her eyes turned into lines of laughter, and she quickly urged him: \”Baby, hurry up and toast grandpa. If you toast, you will get a big red envelope!\” He still refused to toast. Suddenly, he ran over, stretched out his hand and said, \”Hurry up and give it to me.\” Grandpa insisted that he toast, but he was not happy and directly reached out to grab the red envelope. Grandpa pressed the red envelope and asked him to toast. He shouted angrily: \”I hate it!\” Grandpa had to give it to him. During the whole process, instead of disciplining him and blaming him for being rude, his mother smiled. From her eyes, you can clearly see the word \”money\” in capital letters. The way he stretched out his hand to ask for money reminded Xiaoxue of a beggar, as if he was saying: \”Well, please give me some!\” What will such a child look like when he grows up? Xiaoxue shuddered. After a while, Xiaoxue\’s daughter stood up and toasted her grandfather, saying something like wishing a happy new year and good health, which made everyone very happy. Grandpa happily handed the little girl the lucky money, but she refused to ask for anything. She said: \”I will be ten years old soon. I am already a big child. I will never ask for new year\’s money anymore. When I grow up, I will earn a lot of money on my own to honor you.\” Grandpa was so excited I almost burst into tears, but I still insisted on giving it. Someone next to me said to Xiaoxue: \”It\’s a Chinese New Year, just for fun, just ask her to accept it.\” Xiaoxue said with a smile: \”I respect her decision, and I hope everyone will support her.\” Someone said: \”This child will grow up. You are definitely promising, Xiaoxue, you teach really well, please teach us your experience.\” In fact, where does the experience come from? It is nothing more than educating your child from the time she becomes sensible: Don’t always think about reaching out to others to ask for things. Try your best to get what you want by yourself. Ask less and give more. This will make you happier. New Year\’s money is an unavoidable topic during the Chinese New Year. Now more and more people believe that New Year\’s money has gradually lost its original flavor. Originally, during the Chinese New Year, the elders would send small red envelopes to the children, which would make them happy and add to the festive atmosphere. This is a happy thing for everyone. But in recent years, when it comes to the issue of New Year\’s money, comparisons have become common among people, and the amount has become larger and larger, which has become a burden and even caused a lot of unpleasantness. Good things turn into bad things, happiness turns into trouble. Parents also reflect different concepts and views on money when educating their children on how to treat new year\’s money. It is admirable to educate children like Xiaoxue. The children cultivated in this way are independent and self-reliant. Some parents, with their own beggar mentality, also teach their children to reach out to others to \”beg\”, which will only train their children to become \”beggars\”, nodding and bending their backs, and being disliked by others.abandoned. During the Chinese New Year, I found a relative who always brought her children with her no matter who she went to visit. Many parents, in order to reduce the burden of New Year\’s money on their relatives, do not take care of their children. As soon as she enters someone else\’s house, she teaches her children to say: \”Happy New Year and good luck in getting rich.\” The child who is only three or four years old can say this smoothly, and he will also very skillfully add at the end: Bring the red envelope. . The adults laughed and praised him for being so smart. The red envelope must be indispensable. Such a young child didn\’t have much idea about money. He turned around and handed it to his mother, who smiled broadly. As soon as they left, everyone else shook their heads. Later, the news spread among relatives, and no one looked down upon this family. Gentlemen love fortune, in a proper way. Expecting to \”make money\” by relying on lucky money is really too low. It is impossible for others to give unconditionally over and over again, and you cannot make a fortune by doing this. In fact, their family is also the poorest among all their relatives. They are poor and lazy, and have a very bad reputation. I once told a story to my son: One day please click here to enter a picture description, God asked two people who were about to be reincarnated as humans what kind of people they wanted to be in the next life, whether they wanted to be people with palms up or palms down. God added that people with palms up can get whatever they want, while people with palms down have to create what they want by themselves. Please click here to enter a picture description. One of them chose to be a man with his palms up without hesitation, but God made him a beggar. And the person who chose to put his palm down later became a rich man. I encourage my son to be a person with his palms down, because that represents giving and ability. And with the palm of the hand pointing upward, it represents asking for help and incompetence. People who are short-sighted and want to get something for nothing will eventually achieve nothing and be impoverished. Only those who rely on their own hard work have the opportunity to become rich. Incompetence is either material or spiritual. Parents are their children\’s role models and first mentors, and their words and deeds directly affect their children\’s growth. As children with a blank slate, they only learn one thing from another. The background colors of the patterns they draw are all given by their parents. If you teach your children to rely on themselves, keep their palms down, and know how to give, they will naturally work hard to make progress and work hard for a better tomorrow. If you teach your child to ask for things from others with his palms upward, he will naturally get by without making any progress. If others fail to meet his expectations, he will complain and become angry. Dignity is the backbone of human beings and the most precious wealth in life. Don\’t teach your children to be \”beggars\”. Let them learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant as early as possible.