Doting, a hurdle that cannot be overcome by raising children across generations?

Nowadays, whether in big cities or small villages, \”elderly parents\” are not uncommon. In the garden of the community, they push strollers together in twos and threes to exchange experiences in raising children; at the gates of kindergartens, primary and secondary schools, they crowd among the people picking up their children, calling their grandchildren\’s names. This family education model in which grandparents live with their grandchildren and bear the main or even full responsibility for raising and educating their grandchildren is \”skip-generation raising.\” Nowadays, intergenerational parenting has become a family model. Grandparents take great care of their children in daily life, but at the same time, the over-indulgence of their children by the elderly is also the most troublesome thing for young parents. In a previous \”micro-topic\” discussion, a parent said distressedly: \”Parents who set rules can\’t resist grandparents who dote on their children!\” This comment received a lot of likes. Some education experts said that their team found through extensive research that 70% of \”skip-generation parenting\” in my country is unsuccessful. The elderly provide more physical care for their children than their education, causing some children to develop arrogant and willful characters. If things go on like this, Children who have been doted on and grown up resist the discipline of their parents and become alienated from them, leading to the embarrassing situation that \”I\” cannot control the \”son\”. \”No one is allowed to talk about my precious grandson\” \”Don\’t make the child unhappy\” \”Spanking a child in front of me is beating me\” Please click here to enter a description of the image \”You can take care of your children as you please when you go home, but I have to do that here. \”Listen to me.\” \”This is how I raise my child. Hasn\’t his father grown up like this? Why can\’t he do this or that now?\”… I believe that young parents will have a headache after hearing these words. \”If I wasn\’t afraid that they would have to work too hard, I wouldn\’t be willing to leave my hometown to look after their children.\” \”I don\’t want to play with my old friends at home every day, not just for them.\” \”My family\’s livelihood depends entirely on my children working outside. I don\’t want my grandchildren.\” Who will take care of him?\” \”They are still children, so why don\’t they take care of it themselves?\” \”My son is divorced, and a grown man can take care of a child by himself. How can he find another one? I must take care of him.\” \”I am in charge of this child, his father. Mom used him as a toy, played with it when she was happy, and threw it to me when she didn’t want to play with it.” The ancestors also had their own difficulties. What do you think about the inter-generational parenting that most parents “can’t stand” and “can’t live without”?