A love letter to my daughter｜What you need to know about love

Valentine\’s Day is here. Although the wind is strong and the temperature is very low in New York, it does not affect the lovers holding flowers all over the streets, hugging and kissing sweetly. Maybe love is the best warmth. Today, on the way home with little D on the bus, there was a teenage girl sitting next to her, holding a bouquet of roses, and her eyes were full of sweetness. At that moment, I was in a trance, and suddenly I thought, before long, my daughter Xiao D will become that girl holding roses and smiling sweetly, just like me a few years ago. Love is really an eternal theme. But when I was growing up, my mother never talked about the topic of \”love\” with me, so I fumbled around on my own and stumbled all the way to where I am now. Today, on this pink day, I want to tell Xiao D the ten things I learned from love. 1. Be loyal to your heart. Sometimes, a relationship looks good on the surface, but if you think about it carefully, you always feel that something is wrong. Maybe your efforts have not been rewarded, or maybe you just feel that there is something missing in this relationship. Trust your inner voice and express it instead of just keeping it in your heart, so that you and him can solve the problem and move forward together. Love is about being your authentic self, not what other people want you to be. 2. Love yourself first. This applies not only to your lover, but also to your friends and family. When you love your body, you eat well, exercise well, and take good care of it, and you will naturally attract people who love your body in the same way. What kind of lover do you love? Then you must first treat yourself according to this standard. Only by loving yourself can you win the love of others. 3. The beginning of a relationship can only come from \”love.\” The beginning of a relationship must be because of love, not because of loneliness, not because you want to forget the past, and not because all your friends have boyfriends. A great sign of maturity is not what you decide to do, but what you decide not to do. 4. Don’t lose yourself. Don’t become a person dependent on him just because you start a relationship. You will no longer have the life you want. Even if you and he are passionately in love and are inseparable, please continue to maintain your hobbies, continue to date with your best friends and spend time alone. Love should be an addition to your already happy and fulfilling life, not a subtraction. Remember, your world is big and there is enough space for love, friendship, family and yourself to coexist happily. 5. Listen carefully if the person you are interested in tells you, \”I don\’t want to find a girlfriend yet.\” Believe what he said, and don\’t continue to pester, don\’t hold the thought, \”Maybe he just didn\’t think clearly for the time being.\” If your boyfriend will hit his ex-girlfriend, please leave him immediately, don\’t hold such a thought Thought, \”Maybe he will treat me differently.\” Never deceive yourself into thinking, \”I am the one who knows best what he really means.\” 6. Can you bravely pursue what you love when too much is too much? certainly! I\’d be proud if you did that. But please don’t chase desperately. When you chase a dog desperately, the dog will run away. In fact, the same goes for people. Everyone needs space to breathe,When you want someone too much, you will put pressure on them and even make them want to stay away from you. Acting a little reserved will actually make you more lovable. When love is ready, it will come naturally. 7. Never test human nature. Never create opportunities to test him and try to see how much he loves you. The test itself speaks to your own fears and insecurities. I understand that when you accept someone into your life, it can be scary to think about sharing the rest of your life with this person, but that\’s the beauty of love. Instead of testing, it is better to believe, believe in your significant other, believe in yourself, and believe in this relationship. This is the secret to keeping a healthy relationship alive. 8. Sometimes heartache is not a bad thing. Before you find the real one, you will be hurt many times and you will hurt others many times. At that time, you will understand for the first time what it feels like to be heartbroken. Yes, it will hurt; yes, it will be sad; but learn to learn from the experience of breaking up and understand what you hope for in a relationship, what you really need, when you need to say goodbye, and how to say goodbye gracefully Let go, these are also experiences for women to grow up. 9. \”Sex\” is not a taboo topic. This word was once a taboo in my adolescence, and I am happy that I can discuss it openly with you now. Slowly, as you grow up, you will notice changes in your body, and I would like to share these changes with you and what they mean. Never use your body to maintain a relationship. Your body is not for the pleasure of your partner. It is yours and deserves to be explored and enjoyed. At all times, please protect your body. If love is a car ride, always sit in the driver\’s seat and enjoy the ride safely. 10. Fairy tales are written by men. You have loved many picture books since you were a child, many of which are Disney fairy tales. Just like when I was a child, I firmly believe that every girl will eventually be waiting for a handsome guardian. But you have to know that the era when these fairy tales were written was different from now, and most of the fairy tales were written by men. I love these classic fairy tales as much as you do, but you have to know that the love you encounter next will definitely be different from mine and different from these fairy tales. Please be open-minded to welcome and reap the love that belongs only to you. Girls and women all over the world, remember to love yourself first and be your own lover before expecting the love of others. Happy Valentine\’s Day!