My child was bullied, but his behavior shocked all parents

Today I will tell you about edamame. It surprised me. Kindergarten started two days ago, and I picked him up after school. There was a child from the top class who was as tall as Maodou and played on the slide with Maodou. According to the order, Maodou should have gone first, but the older child tore Maodou\’s clothes and insisted on going first. Mao Dou was very unhappy and accused him, \”It\’s wrong for you to pull me!\” The older child turned a deaf ear. During the stalemate, he suddenly waved his hand and gave Mao Dou a slap in the face. Shocked? What’s even more shocking is yet to come. Maodou didn\’t hesitate at all, and with lightning speed, slapped the big boy back with \”Pah!\” It was so fast that our parents didn’t even react and were stunned on the spot. On the way home, I was very happy (secretly happy). Faced with attacks from others, Maodou can first refute with words and reason, and then fight back bravely without fear. I think this way of dealing with people is worth teaching every child. How can I avoid getting stabbed when my baby wanders around the community? Whose child has never experienced \”toys being robbed, being bullied, and being pushed down\”! In today’s article, I will write down clear operation steps for you, so you can use them after reading them. The key points are: 1. When a child is bullied, protect him when he was a child. 2. When you grow up, it is better to teach a man how to fish than to teach him how to defend himself. 3. Practice more on weekdays to teach your children to say \”no\”. If your child is being bullied, you should help him or her when you are a child. If your child is being bullied or having his toys taken away from you when you are a child, you must help him or her! The purpose is: 1. Let the children know that naughty children are wrong (teach the children to know the rules, right and wrong, right and wrong, black and white) 2. Let the children know that they are worth protecting (cultivate the children\’s sense of security) 3. Let the children know that their parents care My own experience (cultivating a healthy attachment relationship) Once, I brought a pack of building blocks and gave them to the children in the community to play with. A tall boy occupied most of the blocks, leaving only a small number of blocks in the hands of other children. The boy was not satisfied yet and wanted to steal from other children. Maodou didn\’t react as quickly as him. Seeing the building blocks being taken away, he cried anxiously. I brought the edamame over, kissed it, and said, \”It\’s your mother\’s fault!\” I walked up to the child and said, \”Please return the blocks to your brother.\” The child denied it and said, \”This is mine. .\” I said: \”No, you already have a lot, you can\’t take them all. Please give them back.\” The child\’s arrogance subsided and he returned the blocks. I turned around and gave the blocks to Edamame, but suddenly I was so moved by the sight in front of me that my nose felt sore. Ah, really, I still remember it after all this time! One-and-a-half-year-old Edamame, so small and short, stood in the sunset, his back straight, holding the building blocks that his mother helped him win, his eyes shining with pride, gratitude and pride. There were seven words in that light: \”I am so worthy of being loved.\” His mother was like a peerless hero riding a colorful auspicious cloud to protect him. For the rest of his life, he mustered up the courage to fight for his rights. For the rest of his life, he will fight to protect himself just like his mother fought to protect him. The child I gave birth to with my life, I will protect him with my life. Face counts as P. One summer evening, Maodou\’s dad asked, \”Why is our Maodou so introverted, yet so good at protecting himself?\” I told him about helping him get back the building blocks. Drinking teaDad Maodou suddenly fell silent. After a long while, he said amidst the fragrance of tea: \”If my father had not bothered to protect me back then, I might not have been bullied so miserably by others in junior high school.\” Is it really difficult to teach children to protect themselves? It\’s not that difficult. Before teaching your children to protect themselves, protect your children first and you will be more than half done. The secret to this approach is not your interpersonal intelligence. But just let the children understand these seven words, \”I am so worthy of being loved.\” When they grow up, teach the children to face it on their own. We cannot protect the children for their whole lives. One day, the children will always leave us and live alone. Therefore, when I was a child, I protected my child, but when he grew up, I became more and more aware that \”it is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish.\” Teach him to set his own boundaries and stand up for his rights. The strategy I taught him is also very simple and easy to remember. It is divided into three steps: Step 1: Use language to stop: No/No/No. Step 2: If the other party turns a deaf ear, push him away. Step 3: Will the other party do it hard? Fight back! Some mothers said, I also said it, but it doesn’t work! I want to ask everyone: Can a child learn to eat well once? Do you really reinforce these steps with your children after every conflict? In the world of infants and young children, failure is not the real mother of success, but the word \”repetition\” is. Edamame has often experienced this kind of friction in the community. It was through this kind of repeated practice that Maodou formed the instinctive reaction at the beginning, and it was completed in one go, which was very satisfying! Emotional intelligence in interpersonal relationships should start from childhood. There’s another point in teaching children how to say “no” that I practice every day at home. Because Maodou\’s father and I are both \”bad people\” who don\’t know how to refuse others, I attach great importance to teaching Maodou the ability to say \”no\”. I taught Maodou: Don’t always agree to the other party’s request immediately. If you are playing with your own toys or reading your favorite book, and other children want to play with them, they must ask for your permission. Many children feel embarrassed about rejecting others, but I said to Maodou: \”Don\’t pay too much attention to other people\’s evaluation of you. Your value does not depend on how others think of you.\” Under the premise that ownership cannot be guaranteed, Tan Qianrang is the best choice. Self-deception. At this time, you are still teaching your children to \”love all, not to attack\”. Are you the Silly Holy Mother, the Silly Holy Mother, or the Silly Holy Mother? Let me repeat the key points: 1. When a child is bullied, protect him when he was a child. 2. When he grows up, teach him how to defend himself. 3. Practice more on a daily basis to teach your children to reject others reasonably. It’s just three steps and it’s really not difficult at all. I want to ask Maodou Mom, which step do you think is the most important? I think it\’s the first step. The most basic and the least easy. Because for children, what is the basis for forming good interpersonal relationships? Is it emotional intelligence? Is it a good character? Is it easy-going? Is it weighing the pros and cons? neither. It’s love and security. When your child is being bullied, let him know that you are always there and that you will always stand up for him. Just like the moment when you endured severe pain with your life and gave birth to him.