These 8 bad habits actually make children more stupid and even depressed! It will be too late if you don\’t change it

Introduction by Rui Ma Every parent hopes that their children will be smart, and no one wants a stupid child. However, in real life, many parents inadvertently make their children stupid invisibly. Remember, these 8 habits will make your children stupider and stupider, and it’s not too late to change them now. Regarding eating, many families now no longer have the habit of making breakfast. They sleep until noon and eat breakfast and lunch together. Children, like their parents, are forced to develop the habit of skipping breakfast. As everyone knows, breakfast is the meal with the longest interval between the previous meal. After a night of digestion, the food in the stomach has been used up. If you do not eat breakfast in time to replenish the energy consumed by the body, it is easy to suffer from hypoglycemia. , symptoms of dizziness and nausea. If these symptoms are reflected in a child, the child\’s mental activity will be very low throughout the morning, and he or she will be unable to concentrate in class and become drowsy. In addition, if the child eats too much every meal, it will also affect the child\’s IQ. Because if you eat too much, your brain will become sluggish and you will always feel drowsy. Over time, children\’s brain cells will experience premature aging, their intelligence will decline, and they will become dumber and dumber. Therefore, every meal parents give their children should be eaten well and full, but not overly full. Regarding sleep, many parents now have the habit of staying up late, watching TV, surfing the Internet, working overtime…even their children stay up late. Children are in the period of physical development. If they stay up late for a long time, it will not only affect their height and immunity, but also cause a series of health problems. The most important thing is that children often stay up late and cannot get up the next day. The direct consequences are: I don’t have time to eat breakfast and I am often late for school. Due to lack of sleep, children will naturally become drowsy during class, and their brain cells cannot be active, which affects their intellectual development and reduces their academic performance. As we all know about reading, reading is the best way for a person to exercise his thinking, because during the reading process, people are always in a thinking state. And for a person who thinks often, his brain cells must be in an active state. But in real life, many parents keep asking their children to read more books, but they play mobile phones and games in front of their children, thinking that their behavior has nothing to do with their children. Then you are totally wrong. Parents\’ behavioral habits affect their children\’s words and deeds; the family atmosphere created by parents directly determines their children\’s personality. A parent who often reads books and newspapers in front of his children and puts books at home will definitely have a child who loves to read. On the contrary, if parents don’t like to read books or study, and there is no learning environment at home, the child will You must not like reading either. Children who don\’t like to read or learn, and who don\’t use their brains for a long time will accelerate brain decline, and even the smartest children will become dull. Regarding criticizing and educating children, it is normal to make mistakes. Every trial and error is a growth for the child. But parents don\’t put themselves in someone else\’s shoes and always demand their children based on adult values. So when their children make mistakes, they can\’t help but yell at them, and some even use force… Yes, your yelling At that time, it really scared the children and made themQuiet, overwhelmed. But as a result, not only do children fail to recognize mistakes well, but they are also prone to emotional anxiety and depression, and develop introverted and withdrawn personalities. In addition, American correctional and domestic violence experts conducted a 4-year follow-up study on 1,510 children aged 2 to 9 years old and found that among a group of 806 children aged 2 to 4 years old, the IQ of children who had not been subjected to corporal punishment had a lower IQ. The average quotient of the children was 5 points higher than that of those who were often spanked, while in another group of 704 children aged 5 to 9 years old, the difference was 2.8 points. In other words, corporal punishment of children will lower their IQ. Regarding playing, the word \”play\” has always been a sensitive word for parents, because parents think that children\’s playing is a waste of time and delays learning. As long as they see their children reading and writing, the parents will feel comfortable; if they see their children playing, they will definitely get angry and start talking like \”I know how to play every day, have I finished my homework?\” . The most important thing in learning is to pay attention to the balance between work and rest. If you only know how to study, it is easy to give people the impression of a \”nerd\”. You are easy to be stubborn in doing things, do not know how to adapt, and do not know how to communicate with others. If you only know how to play all day long and do not learn anything, then you will naturally not be promising. . Therefore, what we parents have to do is to help our children find a balance between \”learning\” and \”playing\”. Work with your children to set a reasonable schedule, when to study and when to play, so that there is a certain amount of relaxation. Let children learn to combine work and rest, and give them opportunities to release stress. Only when bad emotions are released can new knowledge be accepted. Regarding modesty, we often encounter this scene in life: Mother A: \”This is your child. Oh, he looks so smart. He will definitely be a candidate for Tsinghua and Peking University in the future.\” Mother B: \”Smart. What, my child is stupid, but not as smart as your child.\” Like this, parents often show modesty in front of others and say \”bad things\” about their children. Although adults are all aware of this, the children are still young. The little ones didn\’t understand the meaning behind these words at all. What they heard was just the literal meaning: Mom said I was stupid. Once or twice, the child may not take it to heart. If he always hears such words, it will form a psychological hint to the child and make the child work hard in this direction – stupid. Therefore, parents must pay attention to how they word themselves in front of their children, try to speak positive language, and influence their children with positive energy. Regarding early education nowadays, more and more parents are beginning to pay attention to the early education of their children. As soon as the baby is born, they can’t wait to send the child to this class or that class, for fear that the child will lose at the starting line. However, some parents have deviations in their children\’s early education concepts, understandings, and methods, and problems such as eagerness for quick success, eagerness for success, and blind following in education arise. When the children are older, parents will provide difficult teaching to their children and always set some high-target learning tasks for their children. However, every child’s development pattern is different. If the tasks set by parents always make the child feel out of reach, then no matter how hard the child tries, they will not be able to achieve their goals.Neither will achieve the goal. The experience of not being successful despite trying hard will undoubtedly make children less and less confident and less motivated to fight. If a child never tastes success, then he will naturally lose his pursuit of success and become a clumsy loser. Regarding tears, it is normal for children to cry. However, parents will be very upset when they hear their children cry, especially when they are in public places and see people around them pointing, as if to say: \”Can you please control it?\” Do you care about your child?\” At this time, the parent will become even more upset. He immediately turns around and points at the child\’s nose and yells: \”Don\’t cry! If you cry again, I won\’t want you.\” Out of fear, the child will try to shed tears. When I held it back, my face turned red and I had difficulty breathing. Parents also think that as long as the child stops crying, the trouble will be over and the matter will be solved. In fact, if children do not vent their bad emotions and pressure in time when they make mistakes or are wronged, they will be prone to anxiety and depression. Let’s talk about boys in particular. Many parents of boys have instilled this idea in their sons since childhood: Men should not shed tears easily. Let the child hold back when something happens and not cry. However, even a boy needs to vent his emotions. If the negative emotions cannot be vented and relieved for a long time, and accumulate over time, how can he remain smart? For the sake of their children\’s physical and mental health and bright future, parents should restrain their bad emotions and bad behavioral habits, create a positive, healthy and positive growth environment for their children, and fully prepare their children to become \”smart\”.