so close ! Why did my mother lose her baby when she was using the toilet in the mall? Why didn’t I think of something very important before?

In the past two days, a piece of news has gone viral in the parent circle. The original source should be the information released by Xuan Kejiong’s public account – in a shopping mall in Shanghai, the mother of a three-year-old child beat her chest like crazy and smashed her schoolbag against the service counter. . It turned out that her child was lost in the mall, and when she couldn\’t find it, she collapsed instantly. In fact, the shopping mall staff handled the situation very quickly and kept asking the mother some questions, but the mother was emotionally out of control and it was difficult to explain clearly the child\’s situation. She just hoped to find her as soon as possible. Fortunately, after everyone worked together to search, the child was finally found in the surveillance video. After the smart 3-year-old child walked out of the mall, he borrowed a mobile phone from a passer-by to contact his grandmother, who then picked up the child, much to the relief of everyone present. But how did this mother get separated from her child? Let\’s see how the naughty kid leaves the mall? According to Xiao Xuan\’s investigation, it turned out that the boy\’s mother went to the bathroom for convenience and left her three-year-old son outside to wait. The child squatted in the mall for a time, and then left the mall alone from the exit without the company of an adult. Seeing this, have you exclaimed in your heart: What a danger! ! ! A 3-year-old child was waiting alone outside the restroom of a shopping mall, and then left the mall alone. Fortunately, he was not kidnapped by someone with evil intentions along the way! ! This scene is so thrilling. We can completely understand the mother\’s mood at that time, and it is indeed incredible, \”Mom went to the bathroom, how could she leave such a young child outside alone!\” However, maybe the mother also felt that Really helpless. Not long ago, there was a hot post on a certain forum. When a mother took her son to the restroom, she was scolded by the female customer next to her. She believed that no matter how young the child was, he was of the opposite sex and should not be brought into the women\’s restroom to peek at the privacy of other female guests. When a mother takes her son out alone, what should she do if she wants to go to the bathroom (the same goes for fathers taking their daughters) – this seems to be a very simple question, and it may be a small probability event that others will blame you, but many toilets are separated from each other. The small room cannot accommodate adults and children at the same time; when children reach the age of four or five, their gender awareness has sprouted and they are unwilling to enter the bathroom of the opposite sex, or even wait at the door of the cubicle; it is indeed embarrassing for mothers/fathers to use the toilet in front of their sons/daughters; children Going to the public restroom independently will encounter many unexpected troubles… Thinking deeply, this question is not only related to safety education, but also sex education, independent self-care ability education, interpersonal communication and other aspects. factor. So Mr. ShouShou conducted a survey among parents yesterday in the \”Big Hands Holding Little Hands\” group – when a mother takes her son to a public place alone and wants to go to the bathroom, how will she deal with her son? In the same way, when a father takes his daughter out alone and needs to go to the bathroom in a hurry, what will he do with his daughter? Thanks to the parents in the group for their enthusiastic sharing. There are actually many good methods. I have compiled them together to see if they can help you in some urgent moments~ What should I do with my precious son when his mother can’t hold it in anymore? Son 0-2 If you are a child with a stroller, go to the disabled toilet. It is a big place. If your child is in a stroller, go directly to the ordinary toilet.The toilets are a little crowded but still manageable; some shopping malls have parent-child toilets with a special small seat for babies to sit on, which is great, but there are still too few of these parent-child toilets. Congratulations, this is still an age where you don’t need to worry much~ When my son is 3-5 years old, the child’s gender awareness has not yet fully sprouted. Some mothers will bring their children into the cubicle, but some toilet cubicles are too small to accommodate two people. , some mothers also let their children wait outside the cubicle for privacy. Children of this age should not wait alone outside the bathroom. My son is 4 years old and has always been brought into the women\’s restroom without being criticized. Such a young child would definitely not trust him to stand alone at the bathroom door. In response to the above content, mothers all expressed +1+2+…+10086. My child is 5 years old. Usually he stands at the small door waiting for me. If he wants to go to the restroom, he should go to the men\’s restroom by himself; if he dares not go to the men\’s restroom alone, I will quickly take him into the women\’s restroom and close the door. The boy is 5 and a half years old. When I took him into the women\’s restroom, no one else had any objections. When I asked him to use the restroom, he would be asked to wait outside the stall in the women\’s restroom and was not allowed to run out of the restroom. Then I would keep calling him. He made sure he was outside the cubicle. Sometimes the child simply put his feet under the cubicle to let me see him. The boy is 5 and a half years old. When I took him into the women\’s restroom, no one else had any objections. When I asked him to use the restroom, he would be asked to wait outside the stall in the women\’s restroom and was not allowed to run out of the restroom. Then I would keep calling him. He made sure he was outside the cubicle. Sometimes the child simply put his feet under the cubicle to let me see him. A 3-year-old boy was asked to stand outside the cubicle and sing or talk loudly without interruption until I came out. I have a boy who is over 4 years old. When I go to the toilet, I ask him to count with his back to me. If he is still not satisfied after counting to 10, I ask him to count down again. For the above methods, mothers said +1+2+…10086, but what should you do if your child resists, sings, and talks to you? See below – for a 4-year-old boy, I will open the compartment door a small way. Seam looked at him. There is another way to open the door – if the bathroom is too small, I will choose the innermost one and let my son stand next to it and open the door. I want to make sure I see him. The boy is 4 years old. Please click here to enter a picture description of a 5-year-old boy. His gender awareness has begun to appear. He refuses to enter the women\’s restroom with his mother. I usually go to the disabled restroom. If not, I still have to push him to the women\’s restroom and stay alone. I\’m really worried outside. I brought my 4 and a half year old boy into the cubicle together. When I went to the toilet, I asked him to talk to me with his back to me, and he was not allowed to peek. A 5-year-old boy will ask the store clerk at the mall to help look after the child and stop him from running around. Children of this age are quite sensible. According to the survey, when boys are 4-5 years old, there will be a sensitive period of gender awareness. Many boys refuse to follow their mothers into the women\’s restroom at this age. When a boy is 5 and a half years old, I will blindfold him when he enters the girls\’ restroom, and then let him open his eyes when he enters the stall. Boys aged 6 and over are brought into the stall together, and I let him go when he goes to the toilet. He spoke with his back to me and was not allowed to peek. A 6-year-old boy already has a clear sense of gender, and I also encountered a cleaning lady who wouldn’t let me take care of my son.Went to the women\’s restroom and was told he was too big to go in. This is indeed the case. We hope to build more maternal and infant rooms and separate toilets for the disabled in public places so that parents can take care of their children more conveniently. For a 7-year-old boy, generally better shopping mall restrooms have wet and dry separation spaces. I would ask him to wait for me at the sink, that is, outside the restroom. If it is an ordinary restroom without dry and wet separation, he would still be there. Wait for me at the cubicle door. I would talk to him all the time to make sure he was there. So far, I have never been accused. A 6-year-old boy has a strong gender consciousness and is indeed not suitable to be taken to the women\’s restroom. Usually I ask him to wait at the door, ignore anyone, and ask him to look after my bag. A sense of mission will make him more alert. It’s very regretful what to do with the baby daughter when the father can’t hold it in. The sample size in this part is relatively small. I explored the reasons. First, fathers have fewer opportunities to take their children out alone than mothers; secondly, there are more mothers in the group, so I have never discussed this topic with my teammates. Many mothers only reacted after seeing this survey: \”Yes, how did her father solve this problem after all these years?\” When my daughter is 5 years old, her father will let her stand in front of the men\’s room. Wait, talk loudly to your child while using the toilet, and make sure the child is still at the door. I once saw a father who asked his daughter to ring a small bell at the door when he went to the men\’s room, and kept ringing it. Anyway, the father is fast and came out in 1 minute. The daughter is very happy to play like this. What to do with privacy? Some people did this – when my daughter was 4 and a half years old, her father took her to the small room in the men\’s restroom. When the father went to the restroom, his daughter turned her back to him and told her to watch the door and not let her go. Bad guys come in. Hold it in! you are vicious! When the child can\’t hold it in, the mother takes her son to the women\’s restroom, and the father takes his daughter to the men\’s restroom? My daughter is 3 and a half years old. If her father takes her out alone, she will go to the men\’s restroom together. If she is outdoors before she is 3 years old, she will just find a green space where there is no one around. When my daughter was over 3 years old, her father took her directly to the disabled toilet. A 5-year-old girl, her father is waiting for her at the door of the girls\’ toilet. The father carried the 5-year-old girl directly into the men\’s toilet stall. My daughter is 8 years old, and I would rather let her father take her to find a place where no one is around to solve the problem. Just because it is inconvenient for the father to enter the women\’s restroom, he cannot let his child go into the restroom alone! My baby boy is 5 years old. At first, I wanted him to go to the men\’s restroom by himself. Later, my father told me that the men\’s restrooms are located very high and it is difficult for children to go in by themselves because they are too short. So I usually go to the women\’s restroom first to see if there is a children\’s restroom. Regarding the topic of the men\’s toilet toilet being too high for boys, mothers complained +10086! The adult urinal is too high and children tend to pee on their pants, so they are usually taken to the women\’s restroom. There is also this way of handling it – a 6-year-old boy goes to the men\’s restroom by himself to urinate, and follows me to the women\’s restroom to defecate. The women\’s restroom has good privacy for each person, and everyone is also very tolerant. This has not been said before. . The boy is 6 years old and has been going to the men\’s room by himself since he was 4 years old. Even if the sink is out of reach, he will ask someone to help him wash his hands. My son is 4 years old and refuses to enter the women\’s restroom. If there is no disabled restroom, he will be taken to the men\’s restroom. I will guard the door and ask the cleaning lady to help.Go in and take a look. Same as above for a 6-year-old boy, but sometimes the urinals in the boys\’ restroom are too high, so if the child can\’t handle it, he still has to be taken to the girls\’ restroom. My son is 6 years old and has a strong gender consciousness. He doesn\’t want to go to the women\’s bathroom. He needs his father\’s help or does it himself when taking a bath or putting on pants. When going to the toilet, be sure to close the door and prevent others from watching. If he goes to the men\’s restroom, I\’ll wait for him outside the door; if I go to the restroom, he\’ll wait outside the women\’s restroom, so I can only speed up~ It\’s still fate~ It\’s wonderful! ! One time I had to take my son to the toilet in a shopping mall, and there happened to be a father who wanted to take his daughter to the toilet. We exchanged words, I let his daughter take over, and he helped me take my son over. If a father is taking care of his daughter, he can actually ask the lady who is taking care of the child to help. I often help such little girls go to the toilet~ In short, everyone talks about it and there are many ideas~~ The sense of security is mutual , I will let the child stand outside the door, put one foot in the door, and keep chatting. I will also press her foot from time to time to indicate that the mother is inside. I suggest you compile a list of shopping malls that have parent-child toilets. Let me start with Zhangjiang Changtai Plaza, but you have to talk to the cleaning lady, because sometimes she will lock the door when there are not many people. You have to be very careful when taking your children out alone. Once I was in the Bund Yuan shopping mall and there were many people. I turned around and couldn’t see my daughter. I was confused and burst into tears. For children, a squatting pit is more suitable than a toilet, and the toilet board is very dirty. Some children don\’t have this awareness when they go to the toilet alone and just sit on it. I keep reminding my daughter that when she goes into the bathroom, her first choice is to squat in a pit. If that doesn\’t work, she should lay a roll of paper on the cover. I really hope that gender-neutral toilets will be popularized! ! What’s even more tragic is what to do after bathing and changing clothes after swimming. Many parents in the survey reported that compared with swimming, going to the toilet is not a problem at all. When changing clothes, sometimes mothers can take their sons to the women’s locker room, but When the son is 4-5 years old and seems to be confused about understanding, some female guests will already have opinions, but boys of this age may not be able to change clothes or take a bath by themselves; what is even more embarrassing is that the father is taking his daughter with him, what should he do? ! Want to follow your daughter into the women\’s locker room? There are no doors! So take your daughter into the men\’s locker room? Hahahaha~~~ Fortunately, some swimming pools have volunteers who can help children change clothes, but some swimming pools don’t have volunteers and it’s embarrassing~ Taking children to the toilet may seem like a normal thing, but if you are not careful, the first scene may happen. It is related to children’s safety education, self-care ability and sex education. If you have any good thoughts and ideas, please leave a message to share with more parents! Finally, I would like to pay tribute to Mommy, who is raising her baby alone and often holding it in!