Happy education, truth or lie?

I have a brother whose grades have been worrisome since he was a child. His parents did not want him to be educated with high scores and low abilities through exam-oriented education, so they sent him to a private high school in the United States early. However, his foreign language skills are mediocre, he has no outstanding talents, and cannot compete with foreign children; and he has no connections to obtain letters of recommendation from foreign upper classes. In the end, they discovered that if they wanted to apply for prestigious universities, they could still rely on test scores, but they had changed from the Chinese college entrance examination to the American TOEFL and SAT. Some parents today feel that exam-oriented education brings pressure to their children, and are also influenced by advanced Western education concepts. When asked about their requirements for their children, they often say: \”I don\’t want them to get ahead, as long as they are happy!\” Come, the child\’s stress has indeed been reduced, and he does seem to have a happy childhood. But the child\’s subsequent life has become a test for the parents. When studying at home, test scores are not as good as those of peers; when going abroad for development, schools require \”internships,\” \”volunteers,\” \”alumni recommendations,\” \”academic achievements,\” and \”leadership.\” They want their children to be excellent in these aspects. According to the evaluation, ordinary families have neither the strength nor the resources. Happy education is an improvement on exam-oriented education, but misinterpretations by parents and teachers and excessive publicity by the media have changed the taste of happy education. For example: 1. Current happy education believes that children’s needs should be met, children’s interests should be followed, and parents’ ideals should not be imposed on children. But in fact, children’s interests and goals may be vague, and they may not even be able to explain themselves clearly. If children don’t even know what they want, how can parents satisfy their children? In addition, the things that children are exposed to are relatively narrow, and their needs are very limited. For example, before being exposed to science, you may not realize that you want to explore the universe. Young children may not have been exposed to real needs, and it is short-sighted to blindly meet his current needs. 2. The current happy education believes that parents should not interfere in allowing children to grow freely. However, parents’ feedback and expansion of children’s interests are opportunities for growth. For example, when children play by the pool, they can observe the habits of fish and shrimp and learn about new creatures. If parents take this opportunity to teach, they may learn a lot more knowledge. Children\’s free play provides parents with educational opportunities (Wood, 2007). Happy education is about educating through fun, rather than letting things go. 3. The current happy education believes that courses should be arranged according to children’s interests. However, a child’s interest is not enough to make up all educational content. A child’s interest may be short-lived. If he wants to listen to a story today and play football tomorrow, does the curriculum have to change every day? Each child has different interests. If the school obeys the majority, a few children are destined to be unhappy. In fact, research shows that child-centered curriculum does not benefit all children, especially when the child\’s personality and family education differ from the cultural mainstream (Brooker, 2002). In other words, when the mainstream of society recognizes exam-oriented education and high academic qualifications, unique parenting methods may not make children feel happy in the group. realThe true concept of happy education is different from the current propaganda. The theoretical basis of happy education originated from the 19th century British philosopher Herbert Spencer. He mentioned in the book \”Education: Intellectual Education, Moral Education and Physical Education\” that the purpose of education is \”to prepare us for a perfect life.\” prepare for\”. Happy education does not advocate making children feel happy during the education process, but rather allowing children to gain the ability to make themselves happy. It is a concept and principle of education, which by no means excludes education or advocates pampering. So, what does true happy education look like? Let\’s take another look at Spencer\’s advice: ① Learning should involve exploration and experimentation rather than rote teaching and training. For example, when teaching children to draw, before teaching the principles of perspective, first let the children observe real objects and try common painting techniques. ② Help children expand their knowledge, provide children with space for choices, and help them understand the meaning of various choices. Then the child can find his or her own goals, which will help the child\’s personality to relax. Help your children make decisions less often, and instead guide them to discover and try. ③ Cultivate emotional intelligence, help children recognize and understand their own emotions, and experience and perceive happiness. Enable children to understand their feelings and fully express them, and have a positive attitude towards themselves and the things they encounter in life. ④ Pay attention to your children’s health. Children should be active mentally and physically. No parent wants their children to be weak or slow. Therefore, sports play a very important role in education. Whether it is children\’s spontaneous chasing and playing or organized sports competitions, they can make children happier and more efficient in learning (Argyle, 2001). ⑤ Use natural punishment instead of artificial punishment. For example, if your child litters, let him clean it up instead of doing it for him after yelling and criticizing. Doing so can allow children to have a correct concept of cause and effect and clearly understand the consequences of their actions; and this kind of natural discipline will make it easier for children to be convinced and not feel as aggrieved as when they are scolded by their parents. Happy education is not synonymous with not learning. On the contrary, children should learn the knowledge to prepare for a perfect life, and they should also be able to develop their intelligence as human beings. Only with this as the premise can we make our children happy and happy in life!