Pay attention to these ten behaviors of parents that will make children feel frustrated.

Since becoming a parent, people who are usually careless will become extremely attentive. Be prudent and prudent in raising your children, but you don’t know that as a parent, these inadvertent behaviors on your part may cause your children to feel frustrated and make them less confident. Excessive expectations for children. From the moment the child is born, most parents have unlimited expectations for their children\’s future. Some parents even intentionally cultivate their children\’s abilities in certain aspects, hoping that their children can fulfill their unfinished dreams when they were young. Every child has an area that he likes and is good at. When parents impose their own wishes on their children, they will only make the children continue to push themselves under pressure to become \”excellent\” children. But if parents\’ expectations are not met, children will feel frustrated and restless. Such children will suppress their true inner feelings, and even when they grow up, they will become a person who lives in the eyes of others. Comparing one\’s own children with others There is a kind of parent in the world who always focuses on other people\’s children and compares the advantages of other people\’s children with the shortcomings of their own children. They are used to saying to their children, \”Look at Uncle Zhang\’s child Lele, who got first place in the math test again this time.\” \”Qingqing from Aunt Wang\’s house next door recently won the first prize in the district\’s composition contest.\” You see, you have to learn more from them and don’t just play them all day long.” This kind of inappropriate comparison will leave a shadow in the child\’s heart. Over time, he will feel that he is really not as good as children of the same age. The final result is that before real growth has begun, the child\’s heart has already been lost to others. Parents who criticize their children often do so because they are too worried about their children and cannot tolerate even the slightest mistake from their children. As long as the child does something wrong, she will repeatedly emphasize the importance of the matter. In fact, parents do this because they are worried that the child will make the same mistake in the future, and the repeated emphasis is to make the child \”long memory.\” But in this way, on the surface, they let the children remember one thing and not do it again, but they kill the children\’s courage to try other things. Because the child has the shadow of failure in his heart and loses the courage to try. Criticizing children destructively We often hear some parents making unreasonable accusations against their children, \”Why are you so stupid?\”, \”You are really hopeless\”, \”You will never have any future in this life.\” Parents think they can \”enlighten\” their children through this \”angry\” approach, but in fact these words are the most direct damage to the child\’s personality. Parents are the most trusted people for their children. If they label their children easily and make unreasonable accusations against them, the children may resist at first and think that they are not that kind of person. As time goes by, children will truly believe that they are useless and that they will never have any future prospects. This kind of mentality formed since childhood will affect his lifelong outlook on life and world view. In the future, he may really be mediocre in life. Conditional Love Some parents always provide some reward mechanisms in order to encourage their children to grow. \”If you get 100 points in this test, I will take you to Disneyland\”, \”If you buy me a pack of cigarettes, I will give you ten yuan\”, \”If you go to learn dance, I will buy you your favorite Bag\”.This may seem like a wise move by parents, but in the subconscious mind of their children, they will think that the love their parents give their children is conditional and can be calculated. Parents are the closest people to a child. If the child believes that even the love of parents can be clearly marked, then he will not be able to be sincere to others, and he will not be able to establish stable relationships with others as an adult. He may also become a money-minded, unprincipled villain who is ostracized by the people around him and lives in depression. Parents take care of everything for their children. Today, too many parents arrange their children’s basic necessities, food, clothing, housing, transportation, and daily life. They are simply their children’s “personal nannies.” But this method will make the child feel psychologically dependent and make the child think that everything he has now is easy to obtain, and even takes it for granted. But once the child joins the collective life, he will find that he is useless and cannot solve problems independently. From then on, the child becomes depressed and has no self-confidence. Distrust of Children Most parents do not realize that distrust of a person\’s ability is a ruthless challenge to human dignity. Because parents are afraid of their children\’s rebellion in adolescence, they must strictly \”question\” their children\’s every move, word and deed. This undoubtedly plants a seed of distrust in their children\’s hearts. He has always felt alienated from his parents. After the children enter the society, it will be difficult to establish close relationships with others. Until now, inappropriate methods of punishing children have always been used. Many parents believe in the saying that \”a filial son emerges from under the stick\” and believe that \”breaking the skin and flesh\” can make children realize their mistakes and correct their behavior. There must be a reason for the child\’s behavior. Parents do not understand the ins and outs of the matter, but just rely on their own experience to \”beat the child into a trick\”. This not only makes the child more unconvinced, but also makes the child feel helpless and helpless. dignity. Forcing children to do things they don\’t want to do Parents may stand in their own way and force their children to do things they don\’t want to do. But this is often counterproductive, and the child will develop a strong rebellious mentality. They will feel strongly depressed and depressed because they are unable to change this situation. Ignore the existence of children. The early life of a child is a critical period for personality formation, and parents play a major guiding role. If parents do not listen carefully to their children during this period and are unwilling to pay attention to their children, they will ignore their children\’s psychological needs. Children will think that this is a normal way of getting along between people. In the future, if the child integrates into collective life and gets along with others, he will feel normal even if people ignore his existence and ignore his feelings. In fact, this is a sign of lack of self-esteem, lack of confidence, and inner frustration. Every child is an angel beside their parents, a gift from God to their parents. Raise your child the right way and don\’t let him grow up frustrated.