The best parent is to be your child\’s friend

After dinner, my son’s classmate called him and asked him to go downstairs to play. My son asked me for instructions. Although I was reluctant, I agreed. At 7:30 every night, it’s time for the whole family to watch the news together. Without my son by our side, my husband and I would watch the news without a commentator. It\’s like watching a football game without the announcer, the atmosphere is completely complete. I like to listen to my son’s wonderful comments while watching the news. He looks at social events through his unique child’s perspective. It is truly an exclusive release and only my husband and I can enjoy it. A few years ago, the whole family always had conflicts over fighting for the TV remote control, so they made a rule that when watching TV, you must choose a program that everyone likes to watch before stopping to choose a channel. Therefore, I no longer watch emotional TV series, my son no longer watches cartoons, and my husband no longer watches military programs. The three of us watch Animal World, local news, science and education films, and movies together. My son likes to make comments when he likes to watch TV, and I will echo his comments, while my husband is like a lump of wood and slow to respond. Especially when watching the movie, my son had already guessed the plot before I understood the mystery. When going to the cinema, you no longer call your best friend, your son is your best friend. When I encounter something unhappy at work, I tell my son about it. The son\’s answer was both childish and funny: \”Whoever makes my mother unhappy, I will go to them to settle the account!\” What my son said when he was in kindergarten two years ago was even more ridiculous: \”Whoever bullies my mother, I will use a cannon, AK47, and shoot them It’s all gone!” The child’s way of comforting is questionable, but the mother’s heart is much brighter. No matter what trouble he encountered, what went wrong, or who was responsible, in his eyes, his mother did the right thing, and anyone who made his mother unhappy was not a good person. My son is like a pistachio. No matter what troubles I encounter, his answers can always bring my mood back to normal. If you have troubles at work and tell them to your parents, they will only worry. When I told my husband about it, he analyzed it very clearly and explained a lot of truths. Most of the time, he came to the conclusion that he accused me of negligence and carelessness. After listening to his criticism, I felt even worse. I don’t know since when, I have been willing to tell my son whether it is happy or troublesome things. He seems to understand, but the result makes me frown. My 9-year-old son has become my best friend. When I tell my son, I get unconditional support and encouragement. In fact, women sometimes just want to talk. If there is a serious listener, most of the pressure will be reduced. After hearing my son\’s nonsensical and humorous words, my guilt and self-blame were relieved, and my mood improved. Once when I was eating in a restaurant, a mother was scolding a little boy at the next table: \”I told you to wait for the food in the hot pot before eating it, and not to eat hot food, but you didn\’t listen.\” It\’s hot!\” \”It\’s too close to the door, don\’t take off your coat!\” – For ten or twenty minutes, I listened to this mother say countless words, don\’t do this, don\’t do that. For the healthy growth of children, we often stop children from various \”wrong behaviors\” and restrict their freedom. This kind of imperativeThe tone and disciplinary dialogue have little effect. If you say it earnestly again and again, the child will still be the same next time, which will only make the child impatient or resentful. I used to be a strict mother, giving orders to my son like a teacher, but the results were unsatisfactory. My son still went his own way, which had no effect at all. It is better to put down the parents\’ airs and have an equal dialogue with the children. It is not a lecture from the elders to the younger generation, nor a grumbling nagging all day long, but a kind reminder, or playing some clever tricks with the children, saving the country through curves, and indirectly educating the children. . Children have indeed grown up, have their own thoughts and opinions, and their minds have become more and more mature. They can communicate with their parents, evaluate things, and view people around them. If you treat them as friends, they will We are surprised to find that many of the views expressed by children, regardless of age group, surprise us. When our children grow up, they can be our friends. We are not only parents, but we can also be our children\’s best friends. As parents, you don’t have to force your children to obey. He has his own thoughts and opinions, so how can he act in accordance with your requirements and wishes? The best parents are not aloof and majestic, pretending to be elders and asking their children to be sensible and worry-free, but treat each other as equals and be best friends with each other. My experience in getting along with children is: (1) Respect children. There is a saying that children never grow up in front of their parents. Stop treating him as a kid who doesn\’t understand anything. Respect him as a friend. Don\’t go through his schoolbag or peek into his diary. Allow him to have his own little secrets. Don\’t eavesdrop on his phone calls. Treat children as adults. (2) Be trustworthy to your children. Do what you promised. If you can\’t do it, or you think your child\’s request is unreasonable, refuse it from the beginning. Don\’t break your promise and lose your child\’s trust in you. (3) Open your heart to your children. Opening up is not about pouring out worries and releasing stress, but about chatting with your children as if they were friends. For example, talk about food, talk about your hobbies and interests, or talk about travel, talk about current affairs, and talk about some happy things in your work. Of course, when you talk to your child about your troubles, it depends on the child\’s age and tolerance. Don\’t dump everything on the child in detail. Just tell him that his parents have some problems to deal with, need to be quiet, or want his support. 4) Don’t get angry at your children for no reason. If you have troubles at work or have conflicts with other family members, don\’t show your emotions on your face. Your child is not your punching bag. A good parent-child relationship will have a positive impact on the child\’s body and mind, and is also extremely important for the development of the child\’s character; similarly, a good parent-child relationship is also of great significance to the parents themselves. Children are parents’ lifelong career, and children can also be our best friends in life!