Li Yapeng has said so many sweet words, but these few words will bring you back to nature when it comes to raising children.

Since I became a fan of \”The Reader\”, even though I don\’t watch much TV, I have begun to look forward to the new program aired every weekend. Sure enough, after watching the program, I was filled with emotions and emotions, especially when Li Yapeng told the stories between him and his father, and between him and his daughter Li Yan. Li Yapeng talked about a detail between himself and his father that touched me very much. Sometimes his father would look back at him, say nothing, and then go back to doing his own thing, which left a deep impression on him. Father\’s love is like a mountain. It turns out that fathers\’ love is so similar. For a \”sandwich young man\” like me, who has an elder and a younger one, I feel particularly deeply. When will we truly understand our parents? Maybe only when you become someone else\’s parent, will you understand the meaning of that look. Li Yapeng, who is also a father, said in the program that he would pass on some of the words his father gave him back then and \”improve\” the previous generation\’s concepts on child care. Li Yapeng shared many short stories with his daughter Li Yan. He went on the show with a Valentine\’s Day gift from his daughter: chocolates made by Li Yan herself, and a card written in English, telling his father not to smoke. Li Yan’s daughter is really her father’s caring little cotton-padded jacket! Do you still remember the video that Li Yapeng’s daughter Li Yan uploaded on Meipai? The child was born with a cleft lip and palate, but in the video, there is no trace of inferiority complex, but he is full of confidence. Her healthy growth itself is a very touching story. How did Li Yan develop such a character? I think the four words used by Li Yapeng in the \”Reader\” program are particularly accurate, \”teaching by words and deeds\”. In the \”Reader\” program, Li Yapeng mentioned that he would take his daughter to conduct scientific observations on the 24 solar terms of natural weather. He persisted for seven years, rain or shine, and never stopped. Every solar term, he went to the Ming Tombs Reservoir to conduct scientific observations, a total of one hundred More than sixty times. I found that Li Yapeng is a very hands-on father, and the relationship between father and daughter is natural and the interaction is good. When Li Yan was four or five years old, she would make handmade greeting cards for Li Yapeng on Father\’s Day, advising him to stop smoking and drinking, etc. She would also write in cute little cards, \”Don\’t tell me if you see it.\” The pictures of father and daughter in the same frame are very fun, and the interaction is very loving, such as ↓▲ Both father and daughter are cool ▲ There are also natural and warm ones ▲ Taking the children to do carpentry ▲ Teaching the daughter to cook ▲ Reading to the daughter ▲ Participating in activities with the daughter ▲Li Yapeng takes his daughter on a trip. In a family where it is very touching for a father to play football with his children on weekends, this is probably an almost impossible task. When it comes to teaching children, no matter how well you say it, it is not as powerful as the four words \”teaching by words and deeds.\” I guess this is Li Yapeng\’s \”Heart Sutra for Raising Women\”. Sometimes no matter how much you say, it\’s not as good as \”I\’ll do it with you.\” If you sit on the sofa and watch TV, it will be difficult for your child to take the initiative to pick up a book. Huang Lei is one type of model dad in the celebrity circle, and Li Yapeng is another type. There are some aspects of his parenting views that are particularly admirable. It is not easy to be a \”loving\” person even if you are poor and rich, it is not as good as to be a \”loving\” person. At least, only in an atmosphere of love can children learn the ability to love others from an early age. Don\’t they all say that the best \”love education\” a father can give his children is to love his mother, but if he can\’t leaveGoing? We have read too many \”negative teaching materials\”: once a couple separates, they will immediately become ugly and \”tear\” them endlessly. Whenever I see this kind of situation, I always feel very sad for the children of that family: How should the children adapt when their parents face each other with such ugly and ferocious faces? Li Yapeng gave the best answer. Faye Wong and Li Yapeng can be said to be \”China\’s good ex-wives/husbands\”. After their harmonious breakup, they never made any \”bad words\” to attack each other. Instead, they supported each other in times of trouble. Even if they are separated, the relationship between the two is harmonious and friendly. The relationship between mother and daughter has not been affected by the divorce. Faye Wong will accompany Li Yan to dance classes. Li Yan celebrates his birthday, and the whole family participates, even if they are not in the same room. Living in a family, you can also feel that \”Mom and Dad still love you\”, which is really a great education of love. ▲Father and daughter Li Yan cut the cake together at their 8th birthday party. Don’t impose your own dreams on your children. Sometimes, I have to lament that the pattern of parents really affects the “height” of a child’s growth and the “width” of life. Li Yapeng once gave a speech about his expectations for his daughter: \”I hope she will be a loving person, a talented person, and a person who will not be easily defeated by failure.\” (Integrated from: Li Yapeng’s Sina 2015 China Education Ceremony Speech) Of course, little Li Yan is still a child in her early ten years. She loves to play the piano, can draw, and has the talent of a little girl of this age. Li Yapeng also commented very modestly that Li Yan\’s paintings were auctioned at the Yanran Fund and the prices were pretty good. But it\’s not because of how good she is at painting. However, these are not obtained by forcing children to attend interest classes or tutoring classes. Li Yapeng said, \”I never force her to learn anything. If she says I don\’t want to learn, OK, I won\’t learn anymore and can give up quickly. I hope she will get involved and exposed to more as soon as possible, so as to Let her choose something that is truly suitable for her.\” (From: Li Yapeng\’s speech at Sina 2015 China Education Ceremony) Very touching, aren\’t you? Sometimes it is difficult for parents to distinguish the difference between \”I think the child should learn\” and \”the child likes\”. Even, impose one\’s unfulfilled wishes on the child. Someone once asked Li Yapeng whether he would let his daughter work for the foundation. Li Yapeng\’s answer was particularly wonderful, \”This is the choice I made when facing the problems in my life. I have no intention of imposing it on her. I will be very happy to see her.\” What I would like to see more is that she dares to accept and face everything that life gives her in the future, whether it is success or failure, whether it is flowers or eggs.\” Neither forcing children to persist nor imposing their own dreams Give it to your children and let them be their unique selves. These subtle changes have made Li Yan a confident and mature person. Li Yan is a child who was born with a cleft lip and palate. Before her video on social networks came out, Li Yapeng and Faye Wong always put Yan\’er behind them to protect her. The photos we have seen are all from behind or have added privacy. protected. But after Li Yan became popular on social networks, Li Yapeng, her guardian, said on Weibo that the child was still too young to use public social software and had closed her daughter\’s account. The second generation of celebrities all have their reasons for debuting, whether short or long. Li Yapeng\’sThe choice was probably based on a father\’s desire to protect his daughter. After many years, I still remember Li Yapeng’s angry expression when a reporter photographed Li Yan. Although I couldn’t imitate his movements, I could really understand his state of mind. Parents want to do everything possible to protect their children under their wings and prevent them from getting hurt. At the same time, they also hope that when they are children, they should do what children should do. The theme of this issue It is a \”gift\”. Parents\’ love is the best gift to their children, and children are not the best gift to their parents. As Dong Qing said, \”In fact, in the process of educating children, we also complete an opportunity for self-salvation and growth.\” Meeting children means meeting a better version of us. Let’s encourage all parents.