If you train your children in this way, it will be difficult for them to think about whether they are excellent or not.

One weekend, we three mothers took the subway to the bookstore with Xiaomiao and the other three. Chenchen\’s mother said to let the children walk in front to lead the way and exercise them. We all thought this was a good idea, so we deliberately slowed down and followed them to see their performance. The children showed us the way. They passed the security check and swiped their cards to enter the subway gate as usual, talking and laughing. When we got to the subway level, they stood in the middle waiting for us. Chenchen\’s mother said to them: \”Today you come to lead the way. Look at the signs and see how to get to the bookstore. Do you still remember which stop we get off at the bookstore?\” They looked at each other, and Chenchen said: \”It seems to be the Children\’s Palace. Stand.\” Xiaomiao and Xiaotong nodded quickly and agreed that it was true. The three of them ran away to look at the subway signs. We followed them at a short distance and heard them discussing and arguing in low voices. Finally, they reached an agreement and told us to take the subway on the left and take two stops. , then transfer to Line 4 and take two more stops to get there. Chenchen\’s mother said: \”Okay, we will follow you today anyway.\” Xiaomiao said: \”It doesn\’t matter. If you make a mistake, just sit back down. My mother and I have tried it before.\” We followed them into the car. , consciously or unconsciously watching their performances. Usually they just chat on the subway, and we remind them when they want to get off. This time, because they were on a mission, they kept looking at the subway display while chatting. I guess they were a little afraid of crossing the station. Sure enough, the subway had just passed one stop, and as soon as the door closed, the three of them had already stood up and walked to the subway door, waiting for the next station to open and get off. We mothers smiled at each other and followed. There were a lot of people when changing trains. They followed the flow of people and walked for a short distance to the exit escalator. Then they realized something was wrong, so they stepped back and looked back at us a little embarrassed. We pretended to be calm and followed them so as not to embarrass them. After transferring smoothly, the three of them felt a sense of accomplishment. They stared at the subway display with smiles and discussed which floor they should go to to read when they arrived at the bookstore. After getting off the subway, the three of them ran all the way according to the signs and took us to the bookstore. It seems that the little ones have a good sense of direction. In the past, it was entirely because we did not give them a chance to \”worry\”. An accident on the way home. We set out from the bookstore to go home, and we were still ready to follow them. But after reading for a few hours, they forgot about the task of leading the way, and only chatted when they entered the subway station. We mothers deliberately stood beside them and didn\’t move. We walked on the subway on both sides several times before they asked us in confusion: \”Aren\’t we going back?\” Chenchen\’s mother replied: \”Go back.\” Aren\’t we waiting for you to lead the way? If you stand here, of course we will follow you and stand here. We thought you were studying the route~\” After hearing this, the three of them looked like they suddenly understood, and rushed over to look at the sign. After some discussion and debate, the direction was determined and we were led to stand in the correct queue. After exiting the subway station, we praised the three children and said that we would follow them in the future and let themGuide us every time we go out. They looked arrogant and assured me that there would be no problem. After I started to follow Xiao Miao back home, I asked Xiao Miao: \”Can you understand those subway instructions?\” She rolled her eyes at me and said, \”Please, I\’m literate, okay?\” I said, \”Then from now on. If we go out together, I will follow you.\” She agreed, \”Okay, but what if we go somewhere I haven\’t been?\” I said, \”You can check the route at home first. There are so many places now. It’s convenient. Just download the Amap on your mobile phone and you can check it. After you check the route, you can take me out.\” She thought about it and said yes. From then on, I started to \”hang out\” with her. Whether I was taking the subway or taking the bus, I gave her all the tasks of leading the way. Including finding the bathroom in an unfamiliar business district, I asked her for help. Watching her carefully staring at the subway sign or bus stop sign, watching her carefully asking for directions, watching her sometimes nervous and sometimes relieved expression, I cheered for her in my heart, I know, In the process, she learned nothing less. Sometimes Xiao Meow would sigh and say: \”Mom, you are so lazy now! You have to ask me everything.\” I said to her: \”Mom has been taking care of you for so many years, why don\’t I think you are lazy? Now I\’m giving you a chance to practice. When you grow up and go out with your classmates, I can rest assured knowing that you won\’t get lost no matter what. Don\’t you think so?\” She laughed and said, \” I won’t get lost. I’m afraid that if you keep using your brain like this, you’ll develop Alzheimer’s disease when you get older.” What he said… It’s as if I, a mother, have nothing else to worry about. I still have to think of ways to deal with her every day! Don’t let your children lose the opportunity to grow. Later, I kept thinking about this issue: As parents, we often do a lot of things for our children without knowing it, which should be done by the children themselves, causing them to lose many opportunities for growth. When the child was young: We felt that the child was eating too slowly, so we took the chopsticks to feed the child; when we saw the child was dressing too slowly, we helped the child to dress; we were worried that the child was too slow to pack the schoolbag and wasted time, so we helped the child pack the schoolbag; we thought it was necessary for the child to take a bath If the hair is not clean, we wash it for the child; we think the child can’t answer the questions quickly enough, so we quickly tell the child how to answer the question without letting the child think more; when the child gets angry with his classmates, the first thing we do is not to communicate with the child and let the child know how to answer the question. Realize the mistake and then deal with the conflict, but choose to call and apologize to the other party\’s parents… On the one hand, we complain that today\’s children have poor self-care ability; on the other hand, we often walk in front of our children unconsciously, Do this and that for your children. We did not realize that it is precisely because we do too much for our children that they become dependent and have poor self-care abilities. In fact, judging from the current advanced information conditions and the education children receive, as long as we give our children appropriate opportunities to exercise, they can fully stand on their own and perform better. Therefore, to train children\’s self-care ability, let\’s start with small things. Let the children lead the way, let the children pack their schoolbags by themselves, let the children solve various problems by themselves, and let the children lead the way.The child does what he should do. What we parents have to do is to leave these opportunities to our children, and then watch them grow with joy and cheer for them.