Huang Zongxian, mother of four boys: Mom needs to \”time out\”

Thirty-seven-year-old short-haired Huang Zongxian is an English teacher at the High School Affiliated to National Taiwan Normal University. Her most impressive identity is that she is a mother of four boys. Her \”mother\’s life\” seems to be a drama, with climaxes coming one after another: after her honeymoon, she became pregnant with her eldest son; her second son met twins; after finishing her parental leave, she was about to go back to work, but she \”accidentally\” became pregnant again… The eldest child is currently six years old. , twins are four years old, and the younger son is eight months old. Being a working woman and the mother of four sons was not in her life plan at all. \”B+ Mom\” ​​is Huang Zongxian\’s choice, and it is also an unforgettable experience after fighting with four lives. Huang Zongxian narrated: \”When I gave birth to my eldest son, I breastfed. The baby didn\’t eat enough, and I was very stressed. When I gave milk powder to the nanny, I felt very guilty and struggled. For the fourth child, I still breastfed, but I felt completely different when I mixed it with milk powder. It’s different. Now I believe: ‘As long as the baby doesn’t have diarrhea, doesn’t have a fever, and grows up, it’ll be fine!’ Only when the mother is happy, the family will be happy.” (Huang Zongxian and her four babies) Changing the environment to release stress “B+ Mom” actually takes practice. Huang Zongxian, who has a loud laugh and a cheerful personality, is not a first-time mother. When she was a new mother, she tried her best to give the best to her eldest son. I spent tens of thousands of dollars of my entire month’s salary to buy a multifunctional food processor imported from Germany, insisting on making the healthiest and most delicious meals with my own hands. I continued to breastfeed while working, but my breastmilk was insufficient, so I looked for remedies and purchased equipment everywhere. After giving birth to twins, I decided to take parental leave to be a stay-at-home mother so that the twins could enjoy breast milk. The eldest child, who was two years old at the time, faced the task of \”giving up\” his mother to his younger brother and \”going to work\” at the nanny\’s house every day. He suffered from great insecurities and emotional storms. As I take care of my children around the clock, all the trivial things in life become the focus of my life. There is no complete alone time and no space to breathe. Huang Zongxian realizes that being a perfect mother is an impossible task. \”To be a perfect mother, in the end I may torture my child to death, or my child may force me to death!\” Huang Zongxian laughed. She believes that B+ mothers who reserve space for themselves and their children are in a more comfortable and relaxed state. When she was a stay-at-home mother and lived in the woods, Huang Zongxian often took her children to participate in the \”Little Big Reading Club\”. Later, when I moved to Neihu, I often went to \”Mom Play\” where mothers and children could gather together. \”Although it is tiring to run around with a child, such \’pauses\’ and \’switches\’ are very important. Children follow their mothers 24 hours a day, and both adults and children will lose their sense of reality in the real world.\” The four children still refuse to give up their jobs as teachers, so that they can \”pause\” and \”switch\”. \”I have two identities. I can see the side of students at school, which parents cannot see. When I go back and look at my children, I will have different experiences.\” Huang Zongxian feels that she is very happy and can have different experiences. life experience. Another important key to accepting Noisy\’s blessing and being able to successfully transform into a B+ mother is the support of her husband. Mr. Huang Zongxian\’s job is very special. He used to be the assistant of the juvenile caregiver; now he is the adult caregiver. Sir, I have seen too muchThere are so many family tragedies and social darkness that ordinary people cannot imagine. Whenever after dealing with some difficult cases, he would return to the noisy home and watch his sons quarreling and getting physical. Instead, he would hold Huang Zongxian\’s hand and say with emotion: \”Honey, our family is so happy and normal!\” \”The optimistic gentleman allowed Huang Zongxian to enjoy hardships and cherish her own happiness even when she was trapped by four children and couldn\’t find herself. Couples act as emotional dumpsters for each other, which also gives the emotional storm a chance to calm down. Huang Zongxian\’s husband often said to her: \”It was really hard for you to marry me.\” At this moment, although Huang Zongxian agreed in her heart: \”Yes, it was really hard,\” but thinking of her husband\’s thoughtfulness, she couldn\’t help but smile. It will hang on the corner of the mouth. \”If you want a good mother, be a good baby; if you want a bad mother, be a bad baby. Do you want a good mother? Or a bad mother?\” The most successful thing about Huang Zongxian is that she can honestly face her emotions and truly be able to If you see yourself more, you will not lose yourself.