Boys react slowly and don’t understand no matter what they say. Is there something wrong with their IQ?

Xingxing is a first-grade primary school student. A few days ago, Xingxing’s mother came to me and asked if I could introduce a professional intelligence testing agency. She planned to take Xingxing for a test. I asked Xingxing’s mother very strangely, how did she come up with the idea of ​​going for this examination? Xingxing’s mother said that since Xingxing entered elementary school, the teacher has visited her countless times. He said that Xingxing didn\’t listen in class and was constantly distracted. Every time the teacher asked a question, he always looked confused. Take Chinese reading aloud as an example. If the teacher arranges for children to read a certain paragraph collectively, other children can stop at the end of that paragraph. At this time, there must be a voice in the classroom continuing to read, that is Xingxing, who often continues reading alone in a serious manner. Even if the teacher tells him to stop, he will continue reading on his own. He could only stop when the teacher walked up to him and patted him gently on the shoulder. This is the case in the Chinese class, and the performance in the math and English class is not much better. Every time the teacher demonstrates in math class, the stars will watch with great interest. But when I do the questions, I feel confused, especially the application questions. Xingxing seems to have no understanding at all. One time the question was: \”There were 18 pigeons in the square, and 7 flew away?\” Let the children write their own questions and answer them. As a result, the star wrote: How many cars are there in the square? The math teacher couldn\’t laugh or cry when he saw the star\’s question. She deliberately left Xingxing behind and explained it carefully. However, the question about Xingxing was how many cars there were in the square, and the teacher almost vomited blood. In Xingxing\’s condition, his grades would naturally not be good. In order to improve his grades quickly, Xingxing\’s mother enrolled him in many tutoring classes. However, after more than one semester, the results were not satisfactory. Xingxing was still in a state of mindlessness during class, and his grades were still a mess. After trying many methods to no avail, my mother began to despair. She suspected that there was something wrong with Xingxing\’s IQ, so she came to me and wanted to take Xingxing for an intelligence test. But her mother doubted her own judgment because Xingxing performed particularly well in Lego classes and often learned quickly and well. This is not the first time I have seen this kind of situation like Xingxing. I have seen many children like this. If you draw a portrait of them, you will find that most of them are like this: they are basically boys and learn things very slowly, especially when you use language to teach them knowledge, you often talk until your mouth is dry, and he still paints a picture Confused expression. Every time he doesn\’t do well or does something wrong, it doesn\’t make much sense to get angry at him or yell at him. Often you will be so angry that he is half-dead, and he still has an innocent look on his face, not knowing where he went wrong. He might I will cry bitterly, but I will continue to make the same mistakes next time. His performance often drives teachers and parents crazy, thinking that he has an IQ problem. But sometimes it makes you doubt your own judgment. Because sometimes his reactions will surprise you, and sometimes he learns faster than other children. Do such children have IQ problems? The cause of this problem is not IQ. More and more scientific research shows that there is not much difference in children\’s IQ. Especially in a class, it is basically impossible to find a genius or a mentally retarded person. Children\’s IQ levels are all about the same. wisdomThe proportion of business intelligence in children\’s learning process is almost negligible. What really makes a difference in performance are the level of learning motivation, the level of learning ability, the suitability of learning methods, the strength of learning willpower, the quality of learning habits, emotional tolerance and processing ability, etc. The most important of these are learning abilities and learning methods. Learning ability determines how quickly a child learns and masters. When learning the same content, children with strong learning ability will master it faster than children with weak learning ability. To give a simple example, why some Mathematical Olympiad classes now require parents to listen at the back. It is because parents have better learning abilities than their children for the same content. Parents can understand it once they listen, but children often need to explain it many times before they understand it. This is caused by differences in learning abilities. Therefore, some children can understand after listening to the teacher once, and some children need to listen to the teacher many times before they can understand. Another problem with today\’s children is that every parent is jumping the gun. Some children learned a lot when they were young. When the teacher explains it, they already understand it, and they naturally learn better than those children who are exposed to it for the first time. Much easier. The second is the suitability of the learning method. Many children do not study well not because their IQ is wrong, but because their learning methods are wrong. If you compare our current education methods with those in other countries in the world, you will find that our education methods are very single. Basically, it is mainly dictated by the teacher. Even though many new methods have been introduced in current teaching, most of them still involve teachers speaking and children listening below. This kind of teaching method benefits children with strong hearing ability. Many mothers know that children’s learning types include visual ability, auditory ability and motor ability. Children with visual abilities mainly learn through watching their eyes and imitating hand movements. They will know a lot of content after reading it once. Children with auditory abilities have a better grasp of what is being said. They have a strong understanding of language and can easily understand verbal explanations. Children with dynamic abilities need to understand through their own sports and practice. In the evolution of human beings, the division of labor between men and women has been different. In the primitive period, men\’s main jobs were hunting and farming. In the long slave society and feudal society, men\’s main tasks were farming and hunting. In order to survive, men must instinctively have stronger observation, analysis and logical reasoning abilities. Therefore, evolution over the years requires men to have stronger visual observation and logical reasoning abilities. Men have more developed visual areas of the brain. Women\’s work is different from that of men. In the early days of primitive society, women\’s main jobs were to collect fruits and make pottery. It was safer for them to gather together. In order to pass the time together, people need to communicate with each other. With the development of human society, the status of women has basically remained unchanged, so women\’s survival requires women to have stronger communication skills and creative imagination. Women have more developed hearing areas of their brains. Brain differences between men and women lead to differences in the learning methods of boys and girls. Especially when children are young, the difference is more obvious. Because girls\’ psychology is often more mature than boys\’, girls\’ self-controlHis control ability is higher than that of boys and his learning ability is strong. Coupled with the more suitable learning methods, girls’ advantages will be more obvious. Therefore, the overall trend now is that girls have better grades than boys, especially in the lower grades of primary school. Girls are basically the ones who are focused, have good grades, are obedient, and perform well. Those who are distracted, have poor grades, are disobedient, and have problems are basically boys. Of course, most boys can basically keep up with the comprehensive development of their audio-visual abilities. However, there are also some children with particularly strong visual abilities who have greater deficiencies in auditory abilities. Their ability to understand language is too weak. Under such circumstances, children learn knowledge very slowly. I can\’t understand it no matter how I listen. At this time, if we change the method and let them use more visual learning, the results may be different. Take Xingxing as an example. He is a typical child with visual dominance. So he didn\’t quite understand what the teacher said, but he learned quickly when the actions were demonstrated directly. Lego lessons are learned with the eyes, so stars learn quickly. But the teacher said more about the content of language learning besides mathematics. Many language stars didn’t understand it, so his performance was a mess. So what should we do with children who are slow to respond like Xingxing? First of all, parents must be patient. Children are constantly growing, and their learning abilities will continue to improve during the growth process. When their learning abilities improve, their understanding abilities will become stronger, and their acceptance abilities will also improve. The reaction can be brought up. Children\’s learning also involves a process of digestion and absorption. This is just like eating. After eating, there must be a digestion process and time. So be patient and give your child more time and wait for him to grow. Secondly, appropriately improve children’s auditory understanding ability. When the child does not understand, the mother needs to simplify the language and ask more questions to see what the child does not understand. After identifying the problem, demonstrate it with actions to help children understand. Use simple words to help children understand and remember words that cannot be represented by actions. In this way, as the child accumulates more and more, his hearing ability will continue to improve. Another thing you need to do to improve your listening skills is to get your children to read more. Reading is not just about listening to stories. When the child does not have the ability to read independently, the mother can tell the story to the child and ask questions to help the child understand. After the child gradually acquires the ability to read independently, the mother should start with simple content and let the child read aloud more often to see if the child breaks the sentences correctly and understands the meaning of the words. In this way, the child\’s language ability will gradually improve. Finally, fathers should be more involved in their boys’ education. The growth of boys is different from that of girls. Boys can only gain strength and growth by returning to a male society. Therefore, fathers must be more involved in boys’ education. Dads tend to be more tolerant, easier to understand boys\’ strengths, understand boys\’ needs, and know how to better guide boys. So, if your boy behaves poorly and his reactions drive you crazy, be sure to give him more time! Don\’t criticize casually, saying \”My child is too stupid!\” Such hints will only make the child\’s performance worse! Find his strengths and actively encourage them.Boys will grow better.