Finally solved the child\’s \”unreasonable troubles\”, this trick is so useful

Three or four years old is a child\’s first period of resistance. Many parents wonder why a very obedient and well-behaved \”baby\” stops being \”well-behaved\” when he is 3 years old and starts to antagonize his parents. I told them that the child’s first period of resistance has arrived. He began to \”compete\” with his parents to see who was stronger. At this time, parents must learn to \”fight wits and courage\” with their children. They should not be simple and rude, nor should they condone his \”unreasonable troubles\”. Because indulgence will only turn a good child into a piece of rotten wood that cannot be carved. Once, I went to the mall to buy things and saw a three or four-year-old girl who wanted to buy a very expensive toy, but her mother didn\’t buy it for her. The girl cried and made a fuss. First she punched and kicked her mother, and then she simply sat on the ground and acted violently. This made the mother very embarrassed, no matter how much she tried to persuade her, she couldn\’t do anything. Mom sighed, took out her wallet, and was ready to \”give in.\” I stopped her: \”Don\’t spoil her! Don\’t let the unreasonable child get any benefits, otherwise you will suffer for the rest of your life.\” I advised her to \”leave\” immediately and ignore the child. The child cried harder. I said to the child: \”Just sit on the ground and cry. You see, mother is gone. She will not buy toys for an ungrateful child! No one will pay attention to you!\” After that, I He waved his hands and told everyone onlookers to go away. The child spread his fingers that were wiping away tears and looked at them. Everyone was gone, and his mother was \”gone\” too. She immediately stopped crying, got up and ran after her mother. Seeing her mother, she burst into tears again. Mom hesitated a little. I shouted to her mother: \”Go forward, don\’t look back!\” Seeing her mother walking forward without looking back, the child became anxious and shouted: \”Mom, wait for me! I won\’t make trouble! Wait for me!\” \”The mother wins, the unreasonable child loses!\” If the mother relents and buys that toy, the child will be \”out of control.\” From then on, the mother will become a victim of emotional blackmail by her child. You know, how many \”little bullies\” learn bad things through connivance! Some people say, \”You are older when you are three years old, and you are older when you are seven years old.\” This is not unreasonable. Some bad habits are often developed since childhood. Therefore, we parents must have a belief: every time a child makes trouble unreasonably, he must not benefit from it, especially the first time. I was once invited to do a live broadcast on Sina.com on Weibo, and tens of thousands of netizens asked questions. One of the netizens asked: \”Hello, Teacher Lu! My daughter has just turned one year old. Recently, she has been screaming very loudly. Whenever she doesn\’t do what she wants, she screams like she is very angry. , I don’t know what to do, and always compromising with her is not the answer!” I answered like this: “Screaming is a manifestation of vocalization, don’t pay too much attention to it. When she screams, you Don\’t have any special reaction, let her know that screaming doesn\’t attract anyone; when her voice is calmer, you can be more affectionate to her, so that she feels that this kind of voice is more attractive.\” Children are all here. Grow up through experience. When they compete with their parents, they will find out a lot of experience: \”Do your parents accept the hard and not the soft, or do you accept the soft and not the hard?\” Whatever tricks you are afraid of, he will use them, so you must not \” Be fooled.\” butYes, the most important thing is to let children understand that a person must be responsible for the consequences of his own actions. Some children will use \”hunger strikes\” to confront their parents. They know that adults are most afraid of children not eating. Once, a young mother complained to me: \”My stinky son asks him to eat every night, but he doesn\’t say anything and doesn\’t come over to eat. When the rice is cold, he slowly comes over to eat. I have to worry about it again.\” He is hot. Sometimes I get up in the middle of the night and say: Mom, I\’m hungry! I have to make it again for him. Just eating for him makes me worried to death!\” \”You are used to it!\” I criticized her mercilessly, \”You are allowing him to disrespect your labor!\” I gave her a trick: agree with my son on the meal time and tell him that the meal will be served at that time, and no one will wait if it is late! You make a meal and tell him, \”It\’s time for dinner!\” If he doesn\’t say anything, you and your family will start eating. After finishing the meal, throw away all the leftover vegetables and rice, and empty the refrigerator of food. It will be effective to starve him. This mother did exactly what I asked her to do. Once, she made dinner and saw that it was time for dinner, so she called her son: \”It\’s time to eat!\” The son sat in front of the computer, motionless. The mother shouted again, and the son pretended not to hear. Mom invited the rest of the family to come and eat, then threw away the rest of the food and emptied the refrigerator. In the evening, the son was hungry and came over and said, \”I want to eat.\” The mother said calmly, \”Don\’t wait until it\’s late!\” The son opened the refrigerator and wanted to get something edible. When he saw that there was nothing, he had to go hungry all night. God, as soon as dinner is served at home, he comes to eat obediently. If we blindly condone his unpunctuality, then when he grows up, he will develop the bad habits of \”no one else\” and \”lawless\”, which will directly affect his credibility as a person and affect his work and life. Good habits are \”cultivated\”, and bad habits are also \”accustomed\”. The power of habit is huge. Once a person develops a habit, he or she will continue to live in this way unconsciously. Li De, a famous British psychologist in the 19th century, has a famous saying: \”Sow your good behavior, and you will get good habits; sow your good habits, and you will have a good character; sow your good character. , you can have a good destiny.\”