What kind of parents are standing behind children who love reading?

A few days ago, I went to a relative\’s house because I hadn\’t seen him for a long time. I chose a set of picture books from the bookcase at home and gave them to my 4-year-old child. Unexpectedly, after I went there, I found that the mahjong table in his house had been replaced with a new one. I just didn’t see a place to put the books. So I carefully took the book out of the bag. The male owner glanced at it and then asked me, \”What is this?\” I said it was a set of picture books for children. It was quite beautiful and had good reviews. \”Oh!\” Then nothing more happened. I handed him to the little guy. The kids really like it and think the pretty cover looks interesting. So I said, \”Open it and take a look. I want dad to tell you a story.\” \”Don\’t let me tell you. I get dizzy when I read the book.\” The man quickly waved his hand and refused. \”Then I\’ll talk to my mother.\” The child was unwilling to give in. At this time, the child\’s mother came and said, \”Our family has never read any picture books to our daughter. Mainly because she is too busy!\” I understood what she said. Because this situation is so common, a survey once found that less than 10% of families can guarantee 15-20 minutes of reading time with their children every day. In fact, this figure may be less than 1% in some places. If you don’t believe it, you can count the relatives and friends you know and see what the ratio is. And are you in the minority or the majority? Why is this the case. Just ask around and you will get the following reasons: For example, you are too busy and you really don’t have the 30 minutes to read with your children. Another reason is that children don’t like reading. It means that children are not born to read. Some people would say it is hereditary. \”Look, no one in our family loves to read. It would be strange if they love to read.\” Even if some parents know that parents and children read together, they are still struggling to make ends meet. Tianshai.com. I am very casual about this matter. When I am happy, I read books with my children. When I am in a bad mood, I pretend that this matter does not exist. In fact, these are all excuses. The reason is that you don\’t pay attention to this matter at all. Therefore, Bai Yansong once said sadly: \”I have been promoting reading in the past few years, and I always wonder, have you ever seen which day is designated as a \”eating day\” internationally? No. Since there is no international eating day, why should it be How about a reading day? For people\’s bodies and bodies, we can\’t live without eating, but for our spirits, isn\’t not reading just as hard as not eating? Why have we already Has it degenerated to the point where the whole society needs to promote \”reading\”? This incident just confirms a certain sadness and a certain awakening in China.\” Correspondingly, parents are actively sending their children to training classes one by one. No matter if you have money or not, you will give it away. In \”In the Name of the People\”, former academic leaders and senior intellectuals like Hou Liangping and Zhong Xiaoai are also debating whether their sons should enroll in more training classes because they don\’t want to go to school and be criticized by teachers. Our relatives who came to work in our hometown, whose monthly salary was only 2,000 yuan, also sent their children to one cram school after another, because without training and cram school, the children\’s grades were not guaranteed. The entire society is like this, forcing children to improve their grades, while turning a blind eye to reading where the benefits cannot be immediately apparent. usThe days of hiding away and reading extracurricular books are gone forever. Nowadays, fewer and fewer parents can really read with their children and pay attention to their children\’s reading. This is sad. No matter what, some changes are always needed. But first we have to start with a change in mindset. A few days ago, a mother left a message in the background and said: \”Thank you for meeting me. It inspired me and made me value reading. Along the way, my child slowly fell in love with reading.\” This should be the best compliment to our platform. . How meaningful it is to be able to help a child fall in love with reading and open this door. Because compared to parent-child reading and talent training, reading is often more meaningful. In the past few years, I have been insisting on reading with my son. Instead of sending a training class. So many friends are confused. Your son seems to be quite smart and eager to learn. Why not strike while the iron is hot and learn more? In fact, sometimes when I see some children who are very talented at a young age, I will also have this idea. However, looking at my son, I feel that he has gained a lot of skills through what he has learned through reading. It\’s just that this kind of ability is difficult to see at once. It is not as graceful as dancing, nor is it as useful as piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. Only I, the watcher, feel the changes. I think every parent who values ​​their children\’s reading should feel this way. A child\’s knowledge, conversation, and choice of words are directly proportional to the books he has read. There are also children whose imagination and emotional intelligence are slightly higher than those of the same age. In fact, one talent is often stronger than another, while the others are weak. But reading is a comprehensive knowledge, just like martial arts practitioners practicing basic skills, it can improve children\’s comprehensive abilities. Behind every child who loves to read, there is a parent who values ​​reading. They know the power of knowledge and believe in the power of reading. I once sat in front of the provincial library and watched the borrowers coming and going. Many children come with their parents. Those kids were light on their feet and well behaved. The adults around me are also much more gentle and gentle. And when passing by the mahjong parlors outside the community, the noise and shouting can be heard endlessly. Comparing people from the two places, you can often feel the difference. Some people say: For every more library in the world, there will be one less prison. I want to say: for every more book-loving parents in the world, there will be one more child who loves to read. Because children\’s interests are often closely related to their parents and family atmosphere. If you say that children don’t like reading, what is your basis? When did the child start not liking it? Why not? Maybe you\’ve never helped your child like books. Let the child take the blame. In the whole process of accompanying your child\’s growth, if you read with your child. You will find that your children trust you and get closer to you more. Because reading together between parents and children will exchange ideas and convey feelings and values. The benefits can be written in hundreds of thousands of words. Children can start getting in touch with books when they are a few months old and play with them first. Cultivate children\’s affection for books. And picture books will increase children\’s knowledge. For example, when reading \”Gogo World Travel\”, he will follow the book to learn about the unique things of each country, such as fruits and islands in Indonesia, double-decker buses in the UK, and the Eiffel Tower in Paris., even if you don’t travel around the world, you can still see a lot of novel things. My son likes the mathematical stories in \”Mathematical Fairy Tales\”. Understanding graphics, measurement, spatial orientation, etc. is fun and practical. If you can use it several times in your life, you will be full of confidence. And picture books are helpful for children to develop their living habits. For example, when my son was very young, he asked me to buy him a toothbrush to brush his teeth because he read \”The Toothless Tiger\” and later \”The Crocodile Is Afraid of the Dentist\” and \”What\’s New on Tooth Street\”. It is important to take good care of your teeth because they help you eat. It would be troublesome if it was remodeled by Huck and Dick. As for diet, many mothers say that their children are picky eaters and don\’t like to eat vegetables. I remember that the little guy read \”The Very Hungry Caterpillar\” when he was more than 2 years old. He not only knew the rich food in it. I even remember the plot at the end: the caterpillar that ate a lot of snacks ended up with a stomachache. After eating a few green leaves, it felt much better. So every time I tell him, what will happen if he eats some green vegetables? He would say, Feeling better! If your child is always overeating and loves snacks. Then read \”There is a Railway Station in the Belly\”! I remember that after I told my son this book, he really believed that there was an elf in his belly. So he took the initiative to restrain himself and couldn\’t eat too much ice cream or swallow things in big chunks, otherwise the elf would be unhappy, go on strike, and protest. The elf would be happy if he ate more green beans or broccoli. He has to think about the elf! After reading \”Jerry\’s Calm Space\” and \”The Dinosaurs Are Coming: Emotion Management Picture Book\”, he realized that emotions can also be managed. So when he was angry he would try to take a deep breath and adjust. Even if you can\’t control it at the time, it will subside faster after a while. And it\’s getting better. After reading \”The Three Naughty Bags Series: Run, Little Train\”, I discovered that there may be a train station on the clouds, where children can be picked up to visit the Milky Way, and they can also become giants to save children who have fallen into the water in Lilliput. I have always felt that reading should be part of daily life. So my own books will be everywhere, piled up at the end of the bed. My son’s books are also available at any time. Sometimes he will choose some books to read by himself and ask me to explain the more difficult ones. For those books that I have explained once, he can almost finish them by himself. If you want your child to fall in love with reading. Then first of all, don\’t make excuses, but stay with your children. Start by reading a good book, starting from 30 minutes every day.