Cui Yutao’s baby toilet training, you must know these things

Taking advantage of the May Day holiday, I sorted out the seasonal clothes for OK and sorted out a large pile of seven or eight pairs of brand-new pants that were exactly the same. This pile of new pants was prepared by my mother more than a year ago when she was practicing independent defecation for OK. The old man had already hinted me to practice OK to urinate and defecate on his own, and use diapers less often, so he almost didn’t have to pee on OK. So when he heard that I wanted to start training OK to urinate and defecate on his own, he brought ten identical diapers. pants to show support, which really shocked me. My mother\’s imaginary toilet training method was to forcefully remove the diaper and let the baby pee on his pants. At first, I wet at least five or six times a day. Once I wet myself a few times, I would feel uncomfortable and I would naturally learn to hold it in. Although this \”natural method\” sounds reasonable, in fact, there are many failures in training using this method. Many children have been peed on their pants every day since they were more than one year old, and after more than half a year, they still have not learned how to control their own size. Convenience. In the end, of course I didn’t use this method. If I want my children to go to the toilet successfully, the most important thing is to have the awareness to go to the toilet independently, and then technical training, which saves effort and time. Going to the toilet is like learning to walk. It requires training and is a natural process. But the most important thing you must remember is to first cultivate awareness and put autonomy in the hands of your children. Toilet training is not just about saying goodbye to diapers. In traditional concepts, the purpose of toilet training for children seems to be just to say goodbye to diapers, but in fact the more critical significance is that it is in line with the psychological development of young children. Mothers all know that babies have an \”oral desire period\”, but they may not know that babies also have an \”anal desire period.\” Freud, the originator of psychodynamics, believed that children will go through a \”developmental stage centered on experiencing and satisfying excretory feelings\” between the ages of 2 and 4. During this stage, children need to be allowed \”just enough\” freedom. Experience and learn the feeling of excretion, which is the anal desire stage. Therefore, at this stage, you need to establish your own toilet habits through reasonable guidance. For children, in the first half of the \”anal desire period\” they need to experience the pleasure of being able to excrete freely according to their own will, while in the second half of the \”anal desire period\” they need to experience the pleasure of being able to hold back excrement and release it at the right time. sense of accomplishment. How old can your baby start toilet training? Starting toilet training is not like starting to add complementary foods. It can start as soon as one to six months. There is no set time for toilet training. You have to ask someone who has done it to find out what time it is. Many elderly people will say that children can be trained to urinate and defecate independently once they can hold in their urine. The so-called ability of the elderly to hold in urine is usually based on the ability to urinate. When they do not urinate, there will be nothing but a handful. This is what they call the baby learning to hold in urine. But in fact, babies who have been wearing diapers have no awareness of holding back their urine before starting training, so don’t expect that your baby will hold back his urine one day before starting toilet training. If you wear diapers all the time, you may still not know whether he can hold in his urine when he is 3 or 4 years old. In fact, practicing using the toilet is a process of training your baby\’s awareness of holding back urine. Although there is no definite time point, there are some behavioral signals from your baby that you can follow. On the basis of respecting the baby\’s autonomous consciousness, weWe can judge whether the baby has entered the window period for starting toilet training based on the following behavioral points: 1. He is no longer as excited about walking and using his feet as before. Toilet training requires children to have the patience to sit still for a while, which is good for using both hands. It is difficult for toddlers who are full of great enthusiasm to measure the world with their feet. 2. Can understand instructions. Basically, babies after one and a half years old can understand the meaning through adults\’ language and body language. If you want to quantify it, it should be at least three instructions, for example: \”Go to the room, find your doll, and take it.\” come over\”. 3. Be able to say \”no\” Respect children\’s autonomy regarding toilet training. Children need to be able to say \”no\” to toilet training and exercise that right in a timely manner. 4. Begin to have the habit of returning. For example, after taking a bath, he can put the bath toys back to their original places under your instruction. The habit of returning to the toilet will make the baby spontaneously realize that excrement belongs in the toilet. 5. Imitate adult behavior \”Going to the bathroom like an adult\” is an important intrinsic motivation for getting your child to take off diapers. 6. Regular defecation time. Parents can find out the baby\’s pattern through observation, such as when the baby usually defecates and how long it takes to urinate after drinking a lot of water. If the time when the diaper starts to get wet after drinking a lot of water is fairly constant, it can be said to be a pattern. 7. Being aware of your body can tell you when you have a stomachache, for example. When your baby has this kind of sensory awareness, after you keep reminding her, \”Tell mommy when you need to poop~\”, your baby will be able to tell you when he wants to poop. Most babies will not meet the above 7 basic conditions at least until they are about 2 years old. Therefore, the person who decides when to toilet train is the baby, not the parents. Corresponding to the behavioral points that can be started, there are also some behavioral points that indicate that the baby is not ready for toilet training. If the following conditions exist, parents must not rush to start. These situations indicate that the child is not ready to go to the toilet and resists using the toilet or toilet under any circumstances; he does not want to take off his diaper at all, and will shout and resist when the diaper is forcibly changed; he will hide in a corner or cabinet and make a straining sound when defecating; After taking off the diaper, you still defecate on the ground; you still walk around after defecating in the diaper, and you don\’t mind sitting in a diaper full of poop; you say \”no\” and \”no\” when adults ask if you need to defecate. . How to carry out toilet training. If it is confirmed that the baby has the basic conditions for toilet training, the next step is how to get started and practice. It should be clear that toilet training is a process that requires conscious supervision and waiting. Some children may get used to it in half a month to one month, while some children may take 3 months or even longer. 1. Before starting the practice, prepare the necessary tools – a small toilet for babies. If possible, take your baby to a physical store and let him choose it by himself, and tell him that this is something exclusive to him. From now on, he can sit on the potty and poop like his parents. In the early stages of toilet training, a small toilet (baby toilet) that can move freely is recommended. It is not recommended to let the child sit on the toilet with his feet in the air, even if there is a special toilet seat for babies.Because children are just out of toddlerhood, they still need to feel \”grounded.\” In addition, using a small toilet can also allow babies to clearly see their own excrement. If it is a male baby, it is recommended to sit down to urinate at first, and then naturally transition to standing urination after developing a regular toilet habit. Tips: Two key points when choosing a small toilet: 1. It will be much more comfortable if it has a backrest; 2. It should be as high as possible and not too short, especially in winter when you have thick cotton pants wrapped around your knees and squat in a very short toilet. Just very uncomfortable. (I know a lot of mothers will ask me what brand of toilet they use. I answer consciously. The one from babybjorn is OK. The backrest is very comfortable. In addition, the ones from okbaby and Liqier are also OK. I don’t care about either one~ ~) 2. Try to take off the diaper so that the baby\’s bottom is bare, and put the small toilet in a conspicuous place. Please remember that taking off the diaper must be the child\’s \”own\” decision. If he refuses, then wait. The reason why the baby should have a bare bottom is not because the old man said, \”If he pees his pants a few times, he will know it is uncomfortable and he will hold back his urine.\” But babies who have just started to practice using the toilet can hold their urine for a short time. They often forget to pee until they are in a hurry. Some babies take a little longer to urinate. How frustrating it would be if you wet yourself because you didn\’t take off your pants for a long time! Therefore, our small toilet is placed next to the crawling carpet in the living room, and placed prominently next to the area where he moves most frequently, so that he can catch up even if he is already in a hurry. (It’s super normal to be late in the beginning, don’t be anxious, mothers!) 3. Do some experience-based activities. Any attempt needs to have a pleasant start. In the early stages of training, do not necessarily require the baby to defecate in the small toilet every time. . In the early days of my training with OK, he would often tell me that he wanted to poop and at the same time express that he wanted to poop in his diaper. Even if I quickly rushed to him and told him, I would help him take off his pants and pee in his diaper. It would be nice in the toilet and he would say no. I thought maybe he hadn\’t fully accepted the idea of ​​being outside yet, so I didn\’t force it, and everything would get better gradually. Usually I let OK experience the feeling of sitting on the small toilet. Sometimes I pretend to poop, move the small toilet to the side, and invite him to sit on his own small toilet and sit with me. Although it is a bit like that, but My son accepted it quickly. 4. It is also necessary for the baby to observe that his own secretions are normal. For a long time, he will love to admire his own poop. Sometimes he really can’t stand this \”abnormal behavior.\” He will also describe it as like sausages, like cakes… really I\’m fascinated. But in fact, this is normal and necessary, which is why we don\’t recommend using flush toilets for adults – they will be confused when their works are suddenly flushed away. Of course, this kind of \”appreciating poop\” behavior goes through a period of time It will naturally disappear after time. Of course, after my son has become accustomed to using the toilet, my habit is to let him sit in the small toilet to defecate and use the flush toilet while standing to urinate. Every time, he will ask himself to press the button to flush, which makes him Feel that he has the same power as us adults. 5. Give timely and appropriate recognition no matter what you doWell, when the baby has a successful experience, we must express recognition through language and behavior, such as: Wow, the baby pooped in the small toilet again today. This was a great encouragement to him. Of course, there is no need to use exaggerated physical expressions or verbal praises. Excessive praise will double the pressure on children who have just achieved some \”achievements\” and may lead to behavioral regression. How to make toilet training easier to succeed. Whether it is learning or training, if you can use some vivid and interesting expansion information during the process, the training itself can be made more efficient and easier to make progress. In the matter of toilet training, we can use some picture books and toys to assist, not only using the toilet itself, but also improving the baby\’s understanding of the body and feelings from more aspects. 1. Picture books. Interesting picture books can teach babies to pee and poop on their own and what fun things they can do. The Baby Bear series also includes \”Pooping on Daddy\” and \”Wetting the Bed\”, two books that are easy for babies over 1 year old to read; the Caillou series of picture books also includes a book called \”I Want to Pee in the Urinal\”. I also often tell him about it during the OK toilet stage. 2. There is an episode of Qiaohu, a children\’s drama about toilet education, about lifestyle habits – I need to go to the toilet. In it, Qiaohu sings a song, \”My butt is so swollen…I have to go to the toilet…gogo.\” .\” Qiaohu sang while twisting his butt in a hurry to poop, which made OK like to dance along. This song also became a song that I often used to remind my son to \”squeeze the swollen\” for a while. This feeling means that he is about to poop. . 3. Puzzle The main function of this set of Puzzle multi-layered puzzles from Germany\’s Beledo is to teach babies the parts and uses of the body. This is very helpful for babies over two years old to understand their own bodies. During the toilet training period, you can specifically guide your baby to focus on using this part to go to the toilet. 4. Travel Portable Potty If you are traveling, it is best to bring a portable potty with you. After all, children have insufficient control, and sometimes they can drive people crazy when they are anxious to solve problems and cannot find the toilet for a while.