Attention mom! Children have two qualities and will be more promising in the future! I don’t think it’s a big loss

It’s so heartbreaking! After Rui\’s mother attended her high school reunion two days ago, she began to rethink the meaning of life. Before going, Rui\’s mother specially bought a new set of clothes and trimmed her hair. She started applying various facial masks two days in advance so that she would not be embarrassed at the class reunion. After arriving on the day, everyone first recalled the past, and then began to talk about their current situation. To be honest, Rui\’s mother was considered a top student in her class back then, with excellent scores in all subjects, especially composition, where she almost got full marks, so she has been engaged in writing work since graduation. Several old classmates were curious about my current life and asked me: \”How much money can you make from writing articles every day?\” I said a little vainly: \”Not much, probably tens of thousands of dollars a month.\” Actually, there are not so many.)\” After hearing this, everyone praised one after another: \”Oh, look, a top student is a top student, and he can get such a high income just by writing articles. It\’s not like us, who get up early every day and work hard every day. People don’t make much money when they work part-time.” “Oh, I have to write until midnight every day. I envy you. You have so much time of your own. You can do whatever you want without having to worry about it. It’s great. Ah.\” I quickly \”complimented\”. Just when everyone was complimenting each other, the most naughty \”scumbag\” classmate in our class came over. After everyone exchanged pleasantries, they politely asked him what he was doing now. \”My job is not as serious as yours. I have been playing games in the past few years, and now I have been working as an anchor after retiring.\” The \”scumbag\” classmate said lightly. As soon as we \”serious\” people heard that they were playing games, we instantly understood and thought that they were really not doing well. After a while, a classmate came over and told us: \”Do you know, \’scumbags\’ can earn tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands from just one live broadcast now. When they were playing games a few years ago, every single There are hundreds of thousands in income from the competition. I heard that he paid for all our expenses today.\” After hearing the news, several of us were petrified on the spot. I can\’t believe that the scumbag who often skipped classes and never passed exams is now doing better than all of us. At first, I was still lamenting that the world is too unfair. Then I reflected on it carefully and realized that there is nothing fair or unfair about it. It’s just that times have changed. Now is no longer an era where only grades and academic qualifications are considered. Good grades can only mean that you can take the exam, but it does not mean your communication skills, nor does it mean your work ability. Tell your children: Focus on what you do. After your children go to school, we will often warn them not to be partial to subjects and encourage them to develop in an all-round way. But after entering the society, we found that the top people in many fields were often those who were partial to science in the past, because they did the best at what they were best at. Nowadays, the division of labor in society is becoming more and more refined, and every small link is handled by specialized personnel, which is both professional and efficient. Moreover, each of us has limited energy. The effect will be very different whether we spread our energy equally among 100 things or highly concentrate on one thing. My neighbor’s sister Wang is very worried about her children’s development. Not onlyI quit my good job and took care of my children full-time at home. I also enrolled my children in many extracurricular classes. I also did everything myself and studied with my children. But every time I see Sister Wang, she always treats her children with a tone of hatred: \”Tell me how much I have paid for you. Why can\’t you understand your mother\’s painstaking efforts? Can\’t you listen to your mother and be careful?\” Learn these extracurricular skills carefully, it will be good for you in the future.\” But when I saw Sister Wang\’s child\’s aggrieved look, I really wanted to cry out for him: \”You asked me to learn so many things, but my energy is limited. I really can’t learn it.” Writer Gladwell once proposed the famous “10,000-hour rule”: no matter what you do, as long as you persist in a field for 10,000 hours, you should be able to become an expert in that field. . In other words, you can only be seen if you do something to the extreme. Therefore, if your child really likes to do something, don\’t stop him and encourage him to stick to it. Don\’t worry about focusing on one thing. The child\’s path will become narrower and narrower, and the pattern will become smaller and smaller. When a child puts all his energy into what he is good at, his path will become wider and wider, and all excellent resources will continue to come to him. In the end, you will find that everything you ever wanted for your child will come to him. Doing one thing to the extreme is better than doing ten thousand things mediocrely. A child\’s future success = 20% IQ + 80% EQ. Compared with IQ, EQ is more important for a child\’s future life development. The author of the book \”Outliers\” said that he had followed many people with high IQs (geniuses with an IQ value over 140), and found that most of these geniuses were mediocre when they grew up. Some were small employees in the company, and some were small employees in the company. Some people engage in manual labor, and some open grocery stores, but most people do not achieve the success they expected. But compared to geniuses, those who are not so smart actually have more impressive careers. Yes, grades are important, but children with good grades are not necessarily really good; children who are admitted to a good university are not necessarily able to do well in society. I have seen too many top students who did very well in junior high school and high school. When they got to college, they completely let themselves go and threw away all the previous study pressure. They were confused all day long and wasted their best years… This happened to me too. I once had a colleague who was a top student, with high academic qualifications and strong professional abilities. When he first arrived at the company, he could always put forward several constructive suggestions in meetings. The boss valued him very much and felt that his children could be nurtured. But when everyone was chatting together in private, this academic colleague could choke a bunch of people to death with one sentence and do something that made everyone at a loss. For example, one time five of our colleagues went to dinner together, and there were only four seats at one table. The top student colleague was the last one to come in, so he sat aside. I saw that this was not good, so I got up and sat with him. But something unexpected happened. My top student colleague unexpectedly sat in my original seat at lightning speed, and then I sat alone at the same table. Fortunately, a colleague saw through all this and came over to sit with me again., otherwise it would be so embarrassing. Not long after, this top-notch colleague resigned because he couldn’t get along with his colleagues in the company. I believe that if he continues like this, no one will get along with him. Today\’s society is all about cooperation. A loner with low emotional intelligence will never succeed, no matter how capable he is. Grades are of course very important, but never let your child become a person who has nothing but good grades!