How do Li Yapeng and Dong Qing deal with their children’s education?

While visiting the park on the weekend, I sat on a bench and rested. Just at this time, a naughty kid came, sat down and started eating grapes and spitting out the grape skins. Just when I was about to speak, my parents were already one step ahead: \”How many times have I told you not to vomit all over the floor when you eat? This is a park, you can\’t vomit casually.\” As a result, the naughty child said back: \”You vomit all over the floor yourself. You\’re spitting, why are you talking about me?\” The parents were speechless, and immediately began to teach the child a lesson. The naughty child ran away, leaving the grape skins on the ground uncleaned. I have seen this example more than once. I was once at a classmate\’s home, and when I saw my classmate teaching his children to wash their socks, they were also counterattacked by the children: \”You haven\’t washed your own stinky socks for a week, why should you let me wash them?\” I saw a mother and her son fighting for an iPad downstairs in the community, \”You know how to play games, and you haven\’t learned yet.\” \”You play every day, and you don\’t stop when you get home.\” The ancients often say that words are not as good as words. Teach by example, when we give ideological education to our children purely verbally, we forget that the best education comes from the example of our parents. Every move of adults silently affects children. Children will imprint the behavior of adults in their minds and imitate and learn from it. This is the view of psychologist Albert Bandura, who proposed the observational learning theory and believed that children learn their own social behaviors by observing the behaviors of important people in their lives. In other words, children will use their parents as role models and imitate their behavior. Bandura also conducted a classic experiment—the Bobo Doll Experiment (roly-poly experiment). He divided the 72 children aged 3-6 years old in the kindergarten (36 girls and 36 boys) equally into three groups a, b, and c, with each group consisting of 24 children (12 girls and 12 boys). These three groups of children were taken to rooms with toys respectively. Among them: Children in group A saw an adult performing aggressive behaviors on the \”Bobo doll\”, such as punching and kicking. The children in group B saw non-aggressive behavior, which was an adult calmly playing with toys. There were no adults in the room where the children in Group C stayed. The results of the experiment found that in an environment with adult role models, children in group A who watched adults behave aggressively behaved more aggressively than children in the other two groups. The children in Group B who watched non-aggressive behavior were the group with the least aggressive behavior among the three groups of children. The findings of this experiment confirmed Bandura\’s belief that children\’s behavior is learned through observational learning, especially through imitation of adults. In other words, our words, deeds, how we behave, and how we treat others are all of great significance to children. Li Yapeng once said in the program \”The Reader\”: Because education is teaching by words and deeds, when you do something seriously, your children will naturally imitate it. There is actually little value in explaining great principles to children when they are young, because their understanding and self-discipline are limited, but children are born with the ability to imitate. Dong Qing also talked about in the recent \”Face to Face\” program that what kind of person you want your child to be is very simple, you just have to be that kind of person. She made herself work hard for the childMotivation to become better. If we ourselves don’t love hygiene, why should we ask our children to love hygiene? If we ourselves are squanderers, why should we ask our children to be diligent and thrifty? If we ourselves can’t do what we say, why should we ask our children to do what we say? Do it. The reason why a naughty child becomes a naughty child is inevitably because he meets a naughty parent. As Makarenko, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, said, don’t think that you are educating children only when you talk to them, teach them, or give them instructions. Every moment of your life, even when you are not at home, you are educating children. Many behaviors and habits of children are influenced by us. Consistent words and deeds can make children feel the true teachings of their parents better than inconsistent words and deeds. After all, most of the environment that children are exposed to is given by our parents. Leading by example is never easy, but the power of good examples can nourish children. The nutrients that nourish children\’s growth are full of parents\’ dedication and efforts to accompany their growth. Growth is not only a matter for children, but also a matter for our parents. The most wonderful thing about raising children is that we and our children accompany each other and grow together.