A beautiful writer commits suicide. After ten years, she cannot escape the shadow of her childhood… Please be careful in educating yourself in this regard!

Last week, I saw this news for the first time. At that time, I was very shocked and sad. Taiwanese beauty Lin is a beautiful, academic, super talented, and so perfect in the eyes of the outside world that it makes people envious and jealous. Yi Han, after ten years, was still unable to escape the shadow of childhood sexual assault and chose to hang himself at home. Until today, I saw more behind the incident on the official account \”show a little bit\”, and suddenly I wanted to talk to you about this somewhat \”heavy\” topic. Each of us should take a good look at it, because of our children and ourselves! We must make up for our children the sex education lessons we have been missing since childhood! And remember to always trust your child and give him/her a big hug! Many people don\’t know who Lin Yihan is. She wrote the only and last novel \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” which was just published in February this year. In addition, she has a fresh and beautiful appearance, a bit like a milk tea sister, so many people People call her \”the beautiful writer\”. According to her own words, \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” is a book about \”a girl falling in love with a seducer\”. The story is adapted from a true story and tells the story of 13-year-old heroine Fang Siqi who was seduced, raped, and sexually abused by her cram school teacher and eventually went crazy. On May 6, a video of her interview before committing suicide became a hot search on Weibo, which completely brought the incident to the other side. Everyone knows, it turns out that Fang Siqi is herself. Such a \”tragic\” truth destroyed her life! 1. Smart, beautiful, and well-off, she originally seemed so perfect. Lin Yihan was born on March 16, 1991. She was once called \”other people\’s child\” by many mothers. Beautiful, high IQ, and well off. My father, Lin Binghuang, is a well-known dermatologist in Tainan. He has superb medical skills and there is no acne that he cannot cure. But he has a special rule: you must listen to his speech before seeing a doctor, so he is also known as \”Tainan Weird Doctor Black Jack\”. As a result, Lin Yihan also attracted attention from the outside world and was called the \”Tainan Weird Doctor\’s Daughter\”. In addition to his birth status and good looks, Lin Yihan is talented and top-notch in studies. From 2007 to 2009, Lin Yihan attended Tainan Girls\’ High School, which was also the top local girls\’ high school. In 2009, she graduated from National Tainan Girls\’ Senior High School and entered the Department of Medicine at Taipei Medical University with perfect scores on the academic test. She was the only student from Tainan Girls\’ High School to score 75% in the academic test in 2009. Even after he dropped out of school due to mental illness and took the exam again, Lin Yihan still easily passed the Chinese Literature Department of National Chengchi University with high scores. Later, she published a book. She was not a professional writer, but \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love\” became a hit in Taiwan immediately after it came out. In her last interview video, listening to her talk about Hu Lancheng, her understanding of literature, and her knowledge of the world was so profound and beautiful. Everything seemed perfect, but no one would have thought that the incident at the age of 16 would haunt her for the next 10 years, until she finally left – 2. The \”Fang Siqi-style\” tragedy, the absence of sex education, which made her lifelong The huge shadow of the fatal transformation began in the summer vacation of the first year of high school and the second year of high school. \”Under force,Lin Yihan had a relationship with the tutor Chen Xing.\” This is the teacher\’s way of loving you, do you understand? Don\’t be angry with me. You are a person who has read books. You should know that beauty does not belong to you. You are so beautiful, but you cannot belong to everyone, so you have to belong to me. – \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” cram schools are very popular in Hong Kong and Taiwan. According to \”Mirror Weekly\”, Father Lin thought of A good friend is Chen Xing, a famous tutoring teacher. Because their daughters are similar in age, they have played together since childhood. It makes sense for them to go to the cram school run by their best friend’s father. (The first on the left is Chen Xing, the second on the left is Chen Xing’s daughter) But He would never have imagined that his \”so-called best friend\” would turn his nearly perfect daughter\’s otherwise perfect life upside down. Starting in her sophomore year of high school, Lin Yihan began to suffer from mental illness. She wrote in a later article that her Life came to a standstill in high school. 16-year-old Lin Yihan had to go back and forth to Taipei every week to see a psychiatrist. She became anorexic, didn\’t want to eat, sleep, go to school, or do anything else. At that time, she committed suicide three times. The parents noticed something was wrong and only found out the truth after questioning. The moment they found out the truth, they were shocked. Dad Lin once said to a friend – My daughter was going to have her 18th birthday not long that year. Suddenly, It\’s different with other people. When she finally told her about her relationship with the teacher a year ago, I couldn\’t believe that my friend would do such a thing to my daughter. Father Lin said that he originally found A lawyer wanted to file a lawsuit, but because her daughter was already 16 years old when she had a relationship with Chen Xing, and it was voluntary. In addition to the possibility that the other party would be acquitted, her daughter would be accused of obstructing the family by her teacher\’s wife for having an affair with her teacher. . There is no term seduction in the criminal law, but there is the term interference with family. But in Lin Yihan’s diary in 2011, we see something else – you write letters one by one, telling you about your troubles and about her. The troubles caused and caused to you… What she saw, the key word is, aunts and uncles will ask, how is my daughter doing? You will not admit it, and even resent her thinking. Dishonest, it is a multiple word! Dad, Mommy, there is actually nothing she wants. You don’t understand, you don’t want to understand, and you don’t need to understand. You say she is morally corrupt, misplaced, and twisted; but she knows that she is just looking for herself. , fell into an extreme of thinking. You are trying to lose face, thinking that you have also lost your daughter; in fact, deep in your subconscious mind, you know that she is still and has always been your daughter. \”I will never tell them that I am here again.\” \”I read and write whatever I read.\” This absence aggravated Lin Yihan\’s condition. Because she took too many drugs, she had to sleep for more than 10 hours a day and was unable to maintain a stable schedule. She could no longer study normally. The phrase \”Let me\” \”Her life is stagnant\” is not a joke or an exaggeration – no one knows that I am more unwilling than anyone else. This disease has exploited my once seamless relationship with my parents and my relationship that might have been smooth sailing. As the illness progresses, It’s getting longer and longer, my friends are leaving one by one, and I can’t even study, but I really want a college diploma. ThisLin Yihan, who suffered from severe mental problems and attempted suicide many times, found in her stories and diaries that her parents were always absent, or appeared as alienated figures. Just now at the dinner table, Siqi said to her mother in a bread-and-butter tone: \”Our tutor seems to have everything, but no sex education.\” Her mother looked at her in surprise and replied: \”What sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex. Isn\’t that what education is?\”. Siqi immediately understood that her parents would be permanently absent in this story. They were absent from school, but they thought they hadn\’t started school yet. ——Excerpt from \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” On April 27, Lin Yihan\’s husband found Lin Yihan with no vital signs in the bedroom. In the early morning of April 28, Lin Yihan’s parents commissioned Guerrilla Culture Publishing House to issue the first statement. The statement mentioned that the main cause of her daughter\’s suicide was not depression, but the seduction by a tutor 8 or 9 years ago. (The above content comes from \”show 一点\” and has been authorized. Some parts have been deleted) The \”sex education\” we once lacked must be made up for our children! In Lin Yihan\’s tragedy, the dirty scumbag teacher is certainly the culprit, but Lin Yihan\’s parents are also to blame. Traditional Chinese talk about \”sex\” in such a disgraceful way that our parents are ashamed to talk to us, and we are also ashamed to educate the next generation on what \”sex\” is. This makes most Chinese children not know how to protect themselves; even if they are violated, they dare not tell their parents. Lin Yihan\’s purpose in writing \”Fang Siqi\’s First Love Paradise\” is also her last wish – hoping that there will not be a second \”Fang Siqi\” in society! She chose to use such a decisive and tragic way to warn parents all over the world: Please, definitely, definitely pay attention to your children\’s sex education. 1. Seize the critical period of sexual development between the ages of 2 and 6. Sex education, like any other education, starts automatically from the time a child is born. 2-year-old children already understand the physical differences between boys and girls; by the age of 3, most children can clearly answer whether they are a boy or a girl; 3-6 years old is a critical period for children’s sexual development, and we must Take the opportunity to explain gender knowledge to your children. For example, when we see pregnant women or intimate scenes on TV, we can find opportunities to explain to the children. I specially found American animated videos on sex education for young children. You can reply to \”Sex Education\” in the background to download and watch it. You can see for yourself how and what to teach your children; or you can watch it with your children. 2. Don’t avoid the question “Where do I come from?” Faced with the “eternal problem” of “Where do I come from?”, please answer it honestly and positively. Just say: \”You were born by your mother\”. We can show them some picture books to let the children understand the birth process of life, the differences in physical structures of men and women, and let them determine whether they are a boy or a girl. (Picture book \”Serena Williams Goes Forward\”) 3. Teach children to learn self-protection, which should accompany them throughout their lives. We should clearly tell children that their private parts cannot be touched by others. If someone wants to touch them, they must say \”no\” loudly. You should tell your children not to put various objects such as pens, paper, and beads into the genitals.Don’t be easily tempted by food or toys to follow others, and don’t go to other people’s homes to play alone. Tell your children that once they are \”violated\”, they must tell their parents in time; we must also pay attention to the words and deeds of our children and give them sufficient attention and companionship. This kind of \”reminder\” should accompany the child throughout his life, especially during his adolescence. The writer Zheng Yuanjie, whom I admire very much, gave his son a car and a box of condoms when he was 18 years old, hoping that he could use contraception correctly. 4. Frankly tell children that \”sex\” is very important. Most Chinese parents will tell their children to find someone who \”treats you well\” to get married, but few Chinese parents will tell their children that in a relationship, Whether \”sexuality\” is harmonious is also very important. A harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the perfect combination of \”spirit and body\”, both of which are indispensable. A friend of mine discovered after getting married that she often \”can\’t be sexually attracted\” to her husband, which greatly affected their relationship as a couple. She once told me privately that her parents never told her any knowledge about sex, and she never understood the importance of \”sex\” in marriage before marriage. If she could have known it in advance, she would have chosen again. As parents, it would be great if we could tell our children the importance and beauty of sex. 5. Choose to trust and support your children at all times. In Lin Yihan\’s tragedy, his parents\’ weakness, selfishness, and lack of face became the driving force behind Lin Yihan\’s \”gallows.\” Faced with their daughter\’s sensitive and delicate adolescence, the parents\’ conclusion turned out to be, \”You just looked at \’these things\’ too early and that\’s why you became like this.\” This suddenly closed the door of their daughter\’s heart. My friend once told me a story: She once got pregnant unexpectedly due to lack of \”sexual knowledge\”. She was just at the marriageable age at the time and she wanted to give birth to the child. When the girl\’s mother found out about this, she felt very, very embarrassed, because it meant having to arrange a wedding in a hurry and being talked about behind her back by relatives and friends. The first thing the mother said to the girl was: \”You are so dirty, stay away from me.\” This makes the girl live with self-blame for a long time. As parents, we should understand that the happiness of our children is more important than our so-called \”face\”; in the face of some mistakes, sometimes support is more useful than \”blame\”. Really, really, really hope that the tragedy of \”Fang Siqi\” will become less and less common.