Mom is also a mother for the first time. Please don’t blame her.

On the eve of Mother\’s Day, a mother posted a message on WeChat Moments, which moved me very much. \”Dear baby, I lost my temper at you again. I later found out that my mother had misunderstood you. I\’m really sorry, but you couldn\’t understand my apology. I know that even if you could understand, you would forgive me quickly. Mom. I\’m really sorry. Mom is also a mother for the first time. I\’m afraid that you will get hurt, and I\’m afraid that you will be spoiled by me. There are too many things that I\’m afraid of, and I\’m really afraid of not doing well. But, I want to be a Good mother.\” Being a good mother should be the sentiment of many mothers. But it’s really hard to do well. We often hear in our ears, \”How did you become such a mother?\” The child has a cold again. The child has lost weight again. The child became disobedient again. …It seems that the woman who gave birth to a child was born to be a mother. When something goes wrong with a child, it feels like it’s the mother’s fault. How unfair this is! How many people see the hardship behind my mother. Every mother was once a brilliant girl. Shopping, singing karaoke, partying, putting on heavy makeup… But one day, when a girl knows that she is pregnant. \”I\’m going to be a mother!\” How do you feel? I think there is even more worry than joy. Because a little life is gestating in your own body, what a responsibility it is. I remember that my wife was just pregnant at that time. You have to be careful in everything you do. We all pray to God not to catch a cold. As a result, I still caught a cold, had a stuffy nose and a headache. I took her to the hospital to see a doctor, and the doctor heard that she was a newly pregnant mother. The medicine was immediately taken back. Some Chinese medicines were re-prescribed, but we were kindly advised to observe carefully. If you can drink more water, rest well, and can handle it, then don\’t take medicine. In those days, my wife really took it. I didn’t take any medicine, I just relied on willpower to win. That must be the most unforgettable period for us and the most difficult period for my wife. Just in time for summer, I went to the hospital for a checkup and was told to lie still for half a month. We had just started working again and were still living in a rented penthouse. Sultry and worried, I nurtured this little life with great care. It’s not easy to think about it now. A girl who was once delicate and weak slowly disappeared. A new mother grows up slowly. And once you become a mother, it lasts forever. Every mother is the bravest warrior in the universe. I remember that I was always accompanying her in the delivery room. You can see big beads of sweat oozing out from my wife\’s forehead. It was the first time I saw her in so much pain but so helpless. I can only hold her hand and hold it tightly, hoping to convey a little strength. The pain and danger of childbirth is how every mother spends her life to welcome the arrival of a new life. The real test for mothers is the long and short journey of raising children in the future. The first year was the hardest. How to hold the child? How can I breastfeed without squeezing my baby? Why is the child crying again? What complementary foods should be given to children? My child hasn’t pooped for a few days, what should I do? … We often see an anxious new mother with question marks on her face and her hands full. Mom is also a mother for the first time. Please wait for her and help her. Don’t think that all mothers who have children are born to take care of them. So when a wife is afraid of hurting this new-born softnessAs a baby. The job of changing diapers fell on me, a bold father, and an experienced grandmother. Don\’t blame a new mother for not being able to hold her baby by herself. She just needs a process to slowly learn how to hold up this tiny, delicate little life. When the child reaches the age where he can run and jump. Will your child like kindergarten? What should I do if my children fight? What should I do if my child is bullied? Why are children timid? Why does the child have such a bad temper? What should I do if my child is sick? …This kind of question makes my mother even more worried. After raising children for several years, I discovered that no matter how good the parenting theory is, it cannot handle the ever-changing reality. Every experience requires time and energy, and there is a lot of worry, heartbreak, and tears in between. When a child is sick, the mother wishes she would be sick and hopes that the child will get better soon. I consulted again and again, and anxiously observed the medication. I remember that my son once contracted hand, foot and mouth disease because he was wasted time at his grandma\’s house in the countryside. When we arrived at the Municipal Women and Children\’s Hospital, the doctor did an examination and told us whether we should call an ambulance to go to the Provincial Children\’s Hospital. As soon as we heard the word ambulance, we were stunned. But I firmly said in front of my wife that it was not that serious and we would go alone. But my heart kept beating, and I hugged my son and ran over quickly. The thin children on the road pointed excitedly when they saw the scenery of tall buildings. I forced a smile to him. Tears had quietly burst out of my mother\’s eyes. On the road to raising a baby, you are faced with challenges one after another, just like rushing to a battlefield. You cannot back down. Just so that the children can grow up healthily and safely. When the child grows up, will the mother be able to rest assured? How to improve children\’s academic performance? What should I do if my child falls in love prematurely? How to deal with the rebellious period? What should I do if my child becomes bad?…More worries hit me. How can my mother\’s weak shoulders bear it? Every mother has her own way of loving her children, and sometimes they seem particularly nagging. Every time I take my son to take a bath. When getting dressed, my wife always asks my son: \”Did you wash your face?\” \”Did you wash your neck?\” I can\’t laugh or cry every time. My son also thinks his mother is too nagging. How could you not wash your neck when taking a shower? But what\’s the result? Sometimes I wash the front of my son\’s neck. There is still a string of black pearl necklace looming on the back of the neck. I understand, don’t dislike your mother’s nagging. That\’s because my mother is more attentive. Every mother loves her children. But love does not mean that mothers are not tired. Pain and happiness should be the most real feeling of every mother. When you see a mother holding her child happily playing in the park, it is a beautiful picture. But only those who have raised children will understand the bitterness behind it. Don’t ask me how this father knew? Because in the process of raising my own children, I really felt the feelings of mothers. On this road, mothers cannot be allowed to fight alone. Needs family warmth and love. Needs understanding and support. When a mother loses her temper with her son, the son will turn away in anger. I would comfort my son and say: \”It\’s wrong for mom to lose her temper. We can talk to her about it. But don\’t be angry with mom, because mom is the person who loves you the most in the world.\” Every year on Mother\’s Day, we should not only spend that day greetings. But shouldIt is the steady flow of water every day that can make mother truly happy. My child, my mother is also a first-time mother, please don’t blame her. You have to love her well. If you want to add a time limit, I hope it is: a lifetime… Today is Mother\’s Day. I wish every mother a happy Mother\’s Day, happiness and a beautiful life…