Child, if someone kicks you, your mother will kick you back for you.

Yesterday, a friend forwarded a video to me. Watching it made my blood boil, my mood agitated, and I couldn\’t calm down for a long time. What happened is roughly this: On the evening of May 12, Ms. Song from Dalian took her 4-year-old daughter Chenchen to finish dance class, and she and another parent took the two girls to the Plaza 66 near the school for dinner. In the restaurant, \”two children were hiding under the stool next to them and playing hide-and-seek.\” Ms. Song said that her daughter Chenchen suddenly yelled while playing, and the sound was indeed a bit loud. At that time, she also felt that her daughter was not performing well and immediately criticized her daughter. Then Chenchen shouted again. Unexpectedly, the female college student sitting next to him suddenly rushed over and kicked Chenchen. \”He also said, \’If you scream, I\’ll kick you to death\’!\” Ms. Song said. At that time, she rushed to protect the child and stop the female student\’s behavior. In the excitement, the two fought together. The waiter and the female student\’s boyfriend came forward to dissuade her. During this period, the excited mother even hit the waiter and finally called the police. Currently, Chenchen is a little frightened and always shakes when sleeping at night. \”Afterwards, I hugged the child. The child didn\’t even recognize his mother. His little shoulders kept shaking and he shouted, \’Don\’t hit me, don\’t hit me.\’\” Today, there was a slight reversal of the matter. It was said that the female college student did not kick the child. , just kicked the chair. Finally, there were statements from the mother and the female student about their willingness to apologize and reconcile. What I want to say today is not the various words and actions of the adults on both sides after they calmed down, but the mother\’s reaction at the moment the incident occurred. Perhaps because the girl in the video, Chenchen, is the same age as my Xiaonuo, I had a particularly strong sense of involvement. I followed the progress of the situation and read many netizens’ comments. Various comments can be roughly divided into two categories, one supporting mothers and the other supporting female college students. Most of those who support mothers are people who already have children. They believe that college students are adults. No matter how much you and your boyfriend argue, or how noisy your children are, you can go to the parents or the hotel waiter, but you have no right to kick a four-year-old. children. Most of the people who support female students are people who don’t have children yet and are often annoyed by naughty children in public places. They think: if parents don’t educate naughty children, I will help you educate them. Some netizens also said that female students were \”bullying\”: What if it was Tyson who yelled? What if the person yelling is a drunk? Would you like to go up and give me a kick? I can completely understand young people’s dislike of naughty children. It’s really annoying when naughty children make noises in public places. Sometimes I just want to take a piece of tape to glue the child’s mouth. Note that what is said here is \”can\’t\”, which means: I know I \”can\’t\” do this, so I can only \”hate\”. However, as parents, we all know that no matter how well you teach your child not to make loud noises in public, she is likely to make loud noises while playing with her peers. A 4-year-old child who is usually well educated, if you ask him: \”Is it allowed to shout loudly in a restaurant?\” He will definitely answer: \”No!\” However, when he is playing very high, he may forget I listened to your advice and even forgot that I was in a hotel. Of course, young female college students may not know this truth. Actually calm down and be a momEveryone knows that Chenchen’s mother in the video shouldn’t be so crazy and out of control, because not only does it not help, but it will frighten the child even more. However, at that moment, which mother can be calm? Unless she’s not her biological mother! Because she was her own mother, Yu Huan in the \”Mother-Insulting Murder Case\” didn\’t have time to carefully calculate the consequences, so she picked up a fruit knife and stabbed the scumbag who insulted her mother! Because she was her own mother, Chenchen’s mother had no time to worry about the female student being taller than her, no time to worry about the compensation for smashing the store’s plate, and no time to worry about whether it would scare the child. She just relied on a mother\’s instinct and struggled wildly with the person who kicked her child. I remember when I was a child, my neighbor had a dog. In the countryside, every door was open during the day, and of course the dog could come and go freely. If anyone has meat bones, the dog’s nose will smell it immediately. So we are very familiar with this dog. One winter, the dog gave birth to a litter of puppies, and the kennel was in the woodshed behind the neighbor\’s house. Mom warned us not to go to our own woodshed recently, let alone our neighbor’s woodshed, and it’s best not to go to our neighbor’s house to play. When a female dog gives birth to puppies, she will not go to her house to play. This is common sense that we have known since childhood. Because a female dog that has just given birth will be extremely \”crazy\” and may attack anyone who comes near it. When my sister Xiao Xi was two or three years old, she went back to her hometown with me during the summer vacation. It happened that the hens raised by her grandmother hatched a nest of chicks, which were chirping very interestingly. From time to time, Xiao Xi would go to the rice jar to grab a handful of rice and feed it to the chickens. . From the beginning, I told her not to catch the chicks, otherwise the mother chicken would get angry and peck at people. One day, Xiao Xi grabbed a handful of rice and threw it at the gate as usual. The hen clucked and called the chicks and flew over. Xiao Xi saw the fluffy yellow ball and thought it was very cute. She bent down to catch it. One of them. Before her hand even touched the chicken, the feathers on the hen\’s body exploded, and it jumped up and pecked at Xiao Xi\’s face. When I saw this scene from the side, I was absolutely heartbroken! It would be a big deal if I pecked my eyes! A peck on the cheek is definitely a pitfall. I immediately rushed over and took the child away… In the eyes of the hen, a two or three-year-old child should be giant, right? At least it\’s much taller! But at that moment, for the sake of his child, it jumped up and rushed towards a giant enemy several times its own size! It is the instinct of all animals for mothers to protect their children. Fortunately, humans have not evolved this yet. A few years ago, I watched a TV series called \”Living with a Smile\” starring Huang Haibo and Yao Qianyu. It was about a little girl named Yan Yang who was abandoned by her mother at the gate of an orphanage when she was 5 years old. She was later adopted and had a very rough life. But in the end, Yan Yang forgave her biological mother for abandoning her. She said something, the original words I no longer remember, but the general idea was this: She remembered how her mother used to protect her desperately when bad people came to the house when she was a child. When the end was approaching, the bad guys kidnapped Yan Yang and her biological mother. At the critical moment, in order to save Yan Yang, her mother died with the bad guys, and was eventually seriously injured in the fire. \”I am still the mother who is desperate to protect her children.\” Yan Yang\’s mother told her daughter before she died. Back to this time when a female college student kicked a childMost people who have watched the video of the incident thought that the mother was simply crazy. The way she lost control and became so ferocious was terrifying! But if I were that mother, in another place, at that moment, I must have been so crazy, like a hen that dared to jump up and fight with an eagle to protect her cubs. At the most critical moment, if a young and powerful mother cannot stand up to protect her young children, who else in this world can protect her children? Although I don\’t agree with my mother hitting the waiter, I can understand her mood at that time. Because the waiter pulled her so that she could not get close to the \”enemy\”. I can imagine that at that moment, Chenchen’s mother had the strength and courage in her heart to “kill gods when God blocks her, and kill Buddha when Buddha blocks Buddha”. That strength and courage surpassed all wisdom and reason! Many netizens who support Chenchen’s mother said that if her father had been present, the girl would probably have been beaten even worse! Of course, many netizens believe that men are generally more rational, especially if they are unable to attack girls and will probably not start a fight. I think every father has a different personality. Some are rational and some are impulsive, so they may react differently to this matter. But mothers are different. No matter what their usual personalities are, if their children are kicked (even if they just kicked the chair but did not hit the child, but the child is right next to the chair, who can guarantee whether he was pinched or hit? Furthermore, at least he will frightened), no mother can remain rational. There are only two things I don\’t agree with about Chenchen\’s mother\’s behavior: 1) She shouldn\’t hit the waiter. If it were me, I would try to push him away and break free from his control. 2) You shouldn’t throw plates at girls, as you may accidentally injure children and others. Of course, I am not encouraging mothers to go crazy or completely lose control like hysterics when encountering similar things. After calming down, discussing the pros and cons, and being reasonable, we all know that it is best for mothers to control their emotions. I just want to tell my children: If you yell in public, I will criticize you, punish you, and even hit you. But I will never allow anyone to bully you! Child, if someone kicks you, mommy will kick you back!