Please, don\’t make such a joke with your children

A few days ago, a mother felt very embarrassed about her child\’s declining grades. Because the reason for the decline in children\’s grades turned out to be that a \”promise\” from the teacher was not fulfilled. The child cried and said, \”Why can the teacher just keep his word and not keep it?\” It turns out that this child has always wanted to be the monitor, but there can only be one monitor. What should I do? The teacher made a joke with the child, saying that if you get 100 points in the exam, he will make you the monitor. As a result, the child really got 100 points in the exam, but the teacher still did not let the child be the monitor, so the child resisted and his grades continued to decline. Such things really exist around us. Teachers and parents are often the people children trust most, but such a breach of trust can make children feel confused and then fall into disappointment. To untie the bell, one must tie the bell, but the teacher said it was just a joke, don’t take it seriously! However, the child took it seriously. In fact, a satisfied smile and an appreciative look from the teacher may make the child remember it for a lifetime. When a child expresses his desire to pursue excellence, he just needs an affirmation, not a promise that cannot be fulfilled. If parents lose the trust of their children, no matter how deep their love is, their love will turn sour. In the short film \”Mirror\”, we can see the harm caused to children by parents who do not keep their promises. Many times the parents don\’t know it if the children don\’t tell them. For example, there is a child whose parents have always been very strict. Already in middle school, he couldn\’t even ride a bicycle out of the street outside his home. He said he wanted to travel as a backpacker and his parents were worried about his safety. In order to stabilize their son, his parents promised to take him for a walk outside when they had time. As a result, every time the agreed time came, the parents would excuse themselves with other things. The child cried and cried: \”I always say no, no, no…, always say next time, next time…\” \”I have grown up so big, and I have never listened to my ideas, and I have never fulfilled my promises.\” As a result, the child failed again. I don’t believe that my parents can truly understand me. He feels that his parents cannot be trusted. After losing trust, parents\’ concern will be regarded as control and discipline, and the parent-child relationship will deteriorate. Even if parents feel that they love their children, they have done nothing wrong for the safety of their children. But this is not what children understand. The more you control me and keep me at home, the more I want to go far away. He still wanted to experience his dream backpacking trip. In fact, if you let him go and taste some hardships, he will understand the hardship of life and the warmth of home. Children always value the promises of adults more important than we think. In life, raising children will encounter many challenges. Some people will play with their children, thinking that they are close to them and expressing their liking. I remember one time, in a shop where we often had breakfast. Several familiar diners were discussing fishing and then came to digging for earthworms. My son pestered me and asked me where I could dig up earthworms. The boss, who always liked to amuse his son, came to him and said, \”I will take you to dig for earthworms later. I know a place where you can dig them.\” After hearing this, he hurriedly finished his breakfast. After checking out, I stood at the door with no intention of leaving. As if waiting for something. I asked him why he didn\’t leave. \”I\’m going to dig up earthworms.\” Okay! I\’m going to be hurt again. Because the boss who is so busy also said thisJoke. There is no time to take him to dig earthworms. I could only console him by saying, \”My uncle is busy today, so we can\’t go digging. We have to wait for another day.\” \”No,\” my son looked unhappy. Because he has to choose between going to the vegetable market with me or digging for earthworms with his uncle? Of course I will choose the latter. As a result, I agreed to take him to the river to watch people fishing and how they dug earthworms after buying groceries. Finally he reluctantly agreed. Sometimes, I really ask my friends around me not to tease my children. He will take your joke seriously. Such a small loss will not have a big impact on the child. However, we still have to be careful about the promises we make. Because children will take every promise and agreement very seriously. Parents must protect their mental state. For example, I said that I must take him on a trip before he goes to kindergarten. I found that he told almost every friend and relative he met about this. And I have been making some preparations for the trip. Don\’t break your promise because of your own reasons. If we expect our children to be people who keep their promises, we must first keep our promises ourselves. It is better to demonstrate the truth once by yourself than to preach it a hundred times. The core of discipline education is to do what you say. We will find that children who are trustworthy are often better able to manage themselves and abide by the rules. If you can\’t do it, don\’t make promises to your children easily. In the eyes of children, parents are all-powerful at first. The child will think that his father is like a warrior, tall and powerful, who can always cope with difficulties. In our family, every time I fix something, my son always cheers with admiration, \”Yeah! The great Mr. Universal Fixer.\” Then he runs to his mother to report the progress. I also really enjoy these little adorations. Because I am his role model. He was constantly observing me and imitating me. Parents are always influencing the formation of their children\’s outlook on life and their psychological development. For example, if parents have an unconscious sense of inferiority, anxiety, or integrity, their children will feel it. The younger the child, the more likely they are to feel it. And many times, adults always think that children don’t understand, so they don’t take it seriously. Make a promise casually. But children actually understand everything. It\’s just that they don\’t have enough ability to argue with you. When they reach adolescence and have this ability, they no longer argue with you. Because they feel that such parents cannot be trusted. At that time, the educational significance of parents was no longer significant. Please, don’t make jokes and promises to your children easily. And if you make a promise, you must keep it.